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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:

Rules

  1. All posts must be showerthoughts
  2. The entire showerthought must be in the title
  3. No politics
    • If your topic is in a grey area, please phrase it to emphasize the fascinating aspects, not the dramatic aspects. You can do this by avoiding overly politicized terms such as "capitalism" and "communism". If you must make comparisons, you can say something is different without saying something is better/worse.
    • A good place for politics is c/politicaldiscussion
  4. Posts must be original/unique
  5. Adhere to Lemmy's Code of Conduct and the TOS

If you made it this far, showerthoughts is accepting new mods. This community is generally tame so its not a lot of work, but having a few more mods would help reports get addressed a little sooner.

Whats it like to be a mod? Reports just show up as messages in your Lemmy inbox, and if a different mod has already addressed the report, the message goes away and you never worry about it.

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[–] [email protected] 53 points 2 months ago (4 children)

In my personal experience, the people I see posting to [email protected] deserved the actions the mods took, and are looking to whine to someone.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

It's a very mixed bag, dependently largely on the personal views of the moderators at-large relative to the speakers. For the most part, the mods at .world seem egalitarian and amicable to liberalish dissenting views. We haven't seen a slew of censorship/bannings over arguments about veganism or Israel/Palestine or capitalism vs socialism.

But the "y'all deserve to get banned" mentality is largely tied up in the idea that their ideas are bad for being outside the spectrum of your allowable discourse. Meanwhile, a community like .ml or Truth Social doing a censorship/ban on content is morally repugnant because its limiting conversations that are inside the spectrum of your allowable discourse.

The technical mechanics of these communities are the same, everyone's just arguing where the lines should be drawn.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Not to be that guy, but exactly what kind of conversation are we supposed to have with fascists and people openly calling for an end to both your and my liberties?

Ideas are debatable, but there's no debating that we all deserve to live and to exist. But I've ever only encountered far too many people from the right openly calling for the opposite of that. My own existence to them is offensive and worthy of murder. I want to have no conversation with such people, but you seem to be willing to tolerate that for the sake of "just having a conversation".

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 months ago (3 children)

As a newly-appointed moderator myself, I think "customer service representatives curating a space" is going a little too far. I see myself more as a janitor taking out the trash while doing my best to leave all the art alone, whether I like it or not.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

To me it's exactly the type of services a customer service representative would provide.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I agree with you.

But can we let the Karen thing go now? It's been long enough

[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Sorry to all the lovely people I've met named karen during my life, no.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Not until we get another word for the same persona.

And for some reason we can't use "bitch" anymore.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Well, that's the problem.

Karen is just an excuse to call women something without having the guts to be up front about it.

Originally, it was about a specific kind of entitled behavior. But it turned into a generic misogynist term like bitch used to be.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

No, they're usually just power tripping. When certain people get even a modicum of power, real or imagined, they become full-on dictators at superluminal velocities. There's some crossover with powerless people seeking revenge on the world at large (or any piece of it) for their misfortune or flights against them, real or imagined. I don't have any data on the ratios but my gut instinct wild-ass guess is that at least 25-33% fall into the tinpot tyrant category.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

I imagine that phenomenon is similar to how super sheltered kids become the wildest teenagers/young adults (whichever age they are when they first get a taste of freedom.) Like how people with newfound freedom often party hard with it, people who've never been in a position of power before can easily take their new authority too far.

Totally not excusing it. It's not some inevitable "human nature" thing. There are good parents, teachers, and others in positions of authority that take their responsibility to others seriously. They're the ones that allow some modicum of function in society.

But those who seek power for its own sake are going to be ruthless about it. Then once someone has power, it's extremely difficult for them to let it go.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 months ago (2 children)

“The ultimate test of a society’s freedom is not how it treats its good, obedient, compliant citizens; it’s how it treats its dissidents.” - Glenn Greenwald

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago

They give em bob haircuts, setup em up in a SUV, and groan when they see them and their stack of expired cupons.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Okay, sure, but Greenwald's an absolute fascist-apologist piece of shit who only hides behind a liberal-libertarian veneer when it is convenient.

Past that, the problem you run into with dissent is that it is heavily predicated on whether you are willing to endorse the dissenters. The more alien a community's political views and activities, the less tolerant admins become. The cause of Luigi Mangione is the most notable one, as certain communities seem to reveal in cannonizing his image while others furiously scrub out anything but the most derogatory mention of his name.

How do you distinguish between the dissident Freedom Fighter and the dissident Terrorist? What do you perceive as the limit of tolerance towards the intolerant? What kind of advocacy is constructive and what is merely provocative or trollish?

When you've got a guy like Glenn paling around with Tucker Carlson and bemoaning the Woke Antifa Left one minute, then crying over their own community of MAGA Truthers getting deep sixed by the Deep State, it seems the very idea of legitimate "dissent" is predicated on whether you align with it or not.

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Communities are not owned by moderators. They are built by those that participate. The primary fallacy I see is the idea that anyone can start a different community and that size and momentum are meaningless. That is simply not the case.

An authoritarian or very active mod, in any community with public participation is actively abusing those users when they act in opposition to the interests of the community. A visible mod is a bad mod. The job of mod is as a janitor acting in the interests of the community. If you care about authority or steering, you shouldn't be a mod or admin.

Nothing about being a mod is hard. You don't need to read every post or comment. All you do is setup the basic guidelines and trust the community to vote and flag bad stuff. The community will always flag the bad stuff. The only part that really matters is that you set yourself aside and really look into any flagged issue while giving the benefit of the doubt in absolutely every possible way one can imagine while never allowing bigotry type abuse. This is how to be a good mod, to be an invisible mod. The job is only to herd bad bots and sort the flags from others.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Nothing about being a mod is hard.

Would you like to play a game?

https://trustandsafety.fun/

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

No, not really. What is this?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Man, I'm only at the "Company Ethos" question (at the very beginning) and I already don't like the choices it's giving me.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Cute game

Suddenly ended when one of my mods mislabeled 1 post despite basically all of my stats being in the green

So, you know, totally realistic and all

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (5 children)

Moderation plays a big part in shaping the community. Are community guidlines not set by the mods? If there are people participating not following the guidlines they get squelched because they weren't following the rules agreed to by everyone participating in that community.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Guidelines are not rigid. The Hippocrates aphorism "first, do no harm" is key in principal and practice. A visible mod is always a bad mod.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Those were a lot of different points. I think they’re important and I respect your view.

I‘m not sure though if I see it exactly the same:

ownership

i think this assumes a lot. You could of course start more communities and I did so. But of course your goal can be different.

authority

I agree, authority should not be important.

modding is easy

I dont think that is the case. Modding - especially good modding - is very hard, as you mentioned yourself. A mod needs enough restraint to take their ego out of the equation and needs to see when the community rules get broken and act accordingly. A lot of bad mods are too eager or too lax with bigotry.

only flagged content needs looking at

It needs to be looked at first and the rest is optional, yes. But a mod should definitely trust their gut and be an active part in the community they mod. Ideally under a different name though so to divide between mod stuff and non.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Well, this is how they should operate…

But these volunteers also require that you understand they are human beings too.* and, like all humans, they sometimes make mistakes.

Please be patient, especially during busy times of the year.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

And like many human beings, they often refuse to admit their mistakes out of pride and anger.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

It almost sounds like you're saying people don't think customer service representatives are people. If that's the case, woosh.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 months ago (1 children)

As a head CSR for my job : no mod I've ever seen is anything close to providing customer service and it's hilarious that you'd even think that in passing

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Sounds like I was doing customer service before you were born.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Do we count 'nametag' jobs of the late '80s? If so, then I'm in!

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

They're volunteers providing a public service for free around here, not employees.

Probably.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

If the currency is influence, they're getting paid.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

And if your aunt was a man, she'd be your uncle.

If I create a community and it gets 1k members I'm not a businessman.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

If elon musk can be a "business man" so can you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Influence, narrative-control, hurting the other tribe, control over a little domain. Those are good pay for some people.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Would you agree that banning/censoring is a form of suppression rather than oppression?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Nope, I think curat3d spaces should be allowed to exsist. Suppression would only exist if you owned a space and it was being squelched by an outside organization.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

So, purely hypothetically, you would be fine with a curator deleting / omitting a fact because it goes against the narrative they are driving?

Interesting… personally I’d ~~before~~ prefer (edit - damn predictive) to read a truth I disliked than to continue believing erroneous information; but that’s just me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I'm fine with it, but me personally, am also fine leaving communities when they have stopped being useful and become belligerent, like you're describing.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I just try and make a percentage of my post anti corporate.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Clearly, have not thought properly about the Holy profit, boy

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

I think for the most part they're trying to protect themselves, their communities and their servers.

That said, I left world for other places and found some of the stuff that was defederated to be interesting and provide a little balance.

There's certainly nothing going on here even close to the crap that was going on at Reddit.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

[email protected] definitely has some cases of power tripping

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (5 children)

If you trust this person to tell you, and everybody else here, how to speak, then either your speech is worthless to you or this conversation is worthless to you.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

here, how to speak then

You missed a closing delimiter on the subclause. Is that still acceptable speech for you?

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Most conversations on the internet are worthless or I would even attribute negative value to many of them.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

You see us as customers, by your own words. So much for community. Trying to misplace and simplify the situation using this metaphor this way is basically also another way of justifying not even ostracization, but autocracies as communities.

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