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[Trigger Warning: R*pe] A mod of r/RapeCounseling dismisses r•pe victims/survivors (preview.redd.it)
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[–] [email protected] 12 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Rape is literally defined as penetration without consent. He's right. That word has a definition, and using it to define something else muddies and belittles the word usage.

It CAN be sexual assault though. And it doesn't dismiss the trauma that the person has had to endure.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Sexual Battery*

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

I mean, it depends on the situation but yeah - but not calling something rape when it isn't rape, doesn't mean you're dismissing the persons trauma or saying what they experienced is any less damaging, it's just using the correct wording. Nobody should be taking offense to that. It's not surprising at all that the person who posted this is from blahaj.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think the issue is that the current definition of rape is inherently sexist.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Sexist against men, sure - but I don't know the context of this screenshot, so I don't know if that is or isn't the issue here. That context isn't provided, so I'm not going to comment further on that aspect.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Please stop with the r*pe thing. We all know you're trying to say rape, it's okay. We know you don't condone it, you don't support it, you're merely talking about the subject and you're not hiding what you're talking about, we know it's rape, it's fine to talk about rape being a bad thing and using the actual word for that. We're all adults here.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

If people are actually triggered by any discussion of rape, then they might have a text filter set up to block posts containing the string "rape"... Which this post won't get blocked by either.

As an aside, presumably "sexual assault" is a better content warning flag than "rape". More neutral and less emotionally loaded.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Well yeah, but at least rape is clear. I hate it when someone ralskt about how a woman had an indecent relationship with a young boy where a guy just plain raped a little girl.

Call both what it is, rape

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I genuinely want to know if it even helps people who feel triggered after reading the word. Does the * actually change things that much? Like you said, everyone knows what's being said.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago

It's tiktok brain. If say or type certain words over there you can be reported for it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Saying words like that on some platforms makes the algorithm that distribute content distribute it less. People will also talk about the censor in the comments creating more engagement and so the algorithm will promote further. It has absolutely nothing to do with being kind and respectful to people who might be triggered and is infact exploiting their negative reaction to generate fake internet points

My crackpot theory anyway

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

The stuff about tiktok and algorithms is definitely true, the rest I don't think the average person would think about that in enough detail to do so nefariously, though maybe I'm the naive one