I love ADHD posts because they always contain condescending people that are incapable of understanding that they’re being condescending. They make assumptions that everyone hopping on the bandwagon isn’t doing any sort of therapy themselves, and we’re all just wallowing in the doom.
Here’s the actual reason why these things help:
- It’s easier to understand yourself when you see others describing similar struggles
- Sometimes this leads to discussions about how to cope and deal on a daily basis
- Sometimes it leads to doing your own research on things (which has been the case for me multiple times, like recently learning about somatic therapy and how it helps deal with dissociation, etc)
- Sometimes it’s also just nice to have a group to cope with together, especially when we all live in a world run by the worst fucking people imaginable
If things have worked for you, that’s amazing. But save the shrugging and dismissive language for… your internal dialogue because zero people need it, unless you’re willing to reframe it in a more constructive way.
ADHD is a broad spectrum and is never a 1:1 between people. For me, openly identifying as someone that has had ADHD since the 90s (diagnosed) can help others understand why I am the way I am. It also helps bond with others which is in itself a support mechanism. Being more open about my brain has also helped friends identify their own struggles, which also lead them to do more research. So it becomes a “pass it on” kind of thing, not just some vapid “hehe suffering” circle jerk.
If you’ve been “weird” like me since childhood and struggled hard in school and life for an eternity before finally finding ways to consistently cope and endure (things that will start and stall a million times over because of ADHD brain), finding community and talking about it is massively helpful. The reality is that at this point everyone could have ADHD brain. It’s a spectrum and we know so little about the brain as it is.
Sometimes it’s also just fun to meme about it.