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I have encountered some negativity on Lemmy recently, so I just wanted to start a laid back thread to see what are people's plans for the week-end (discuss.tchncs.de)

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So, what are you guys up to?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

There will always be negativity unfortunately. I've come to realize that engaging in it is a waste of one's time and doesn't help resolve whatever issue the person on the other side may be going through. I try to diffuse situations, but I can't always spend all my time doing that.

As for weekend plans, not much really. Gonna head to the gym after work and complete my assignment. Same for tomorrow. Maybe start a new video game from my backlog after playing some Muse Dash. I always crave a good platformer.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

There will always be negativity unfortunately. I’ve come to realize that engaging in it is a waste of one’s time and doesn’t help resolve whatever issue the person on the other side may be going through. I try to diffuse situations, but I can’t always spend all my time doing that.

Indeed, that's the most reasonable approach. I was a bit down because I had put a lot of energy into a community, but the mod didn't really seem to opening discussions with the members. I ended leaving, but that left a bitter taste

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It's something that's important in personal relationships I think, but the context and human tends to get lost over the internet.

If a friend's drowning in negativity, one can be present in some ways, but that can't be fixed by anyone else nor would that even really make sense. They could be in a bad situation, in which case maybe there's ways to directly help, but oftentimes it's something only they can work through and we also have to maintain some distance and boundaries and recognize we won't fix how they feel nor should we try to. And sometimes people just need to vent negativity and shout into the void or break down to a friend.

On the internet, we fire off walls of text under the presumption people will just read it and get it and fuck off and go change their whole worldview. It takes time and the ephemeral nature of communication on the Internet means we'll never be around for the context or resolution of someone's difficulties. (nor will they for our own.) So, even more than irl, we have to set boundaries on how invested we're willing to get. It's a constant frustration for me though.

ps muse dash looks cute as hell, have fun!!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

This is an update

Before, I replies that I was cautiously pessimistic.

Now, I am cautiously optimistic.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's not off to a great start. Yesterday was a funeral and today was a birthday party cancelled by Covid. I might just chill at home and wait for a break in the rain long enough to mow my lawn.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

A little bit of self promotion, since you asked. My bandmate and I started a tiny record label named Paraluna as a project and decided our first release was going to be a charity compilation of 80s covers named Retronomicon for Charles Levi to help with his recovery. It came out yesterday and is doing okay in sales. 100% of proceeds go to Charles Levi's medical bills. If anyone is interested, it's easy to find with a quick Google search. So this weekend is promote, promote, promote.

Hope you have a great weekend!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (5 children)

If anyone is interested, it’s easy to find with a quick Google search.

I just did, looks very cool! https://regenmag.com/news/news-paraluna-records-to-release-covers-compilation-to-benefit-charles-levi/

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm at the Alhambra!

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

Last week I was on vacation (went to Disney World) so this weekend I'm gonna take it easy. Do some chores, order a pizza, play video games. Nothing particularly exciting, but I'm okay with that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I've been looking forward to Persona 3 Reload on PS5 so I blocked off the whole weekend to play it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

On Saturday, I'll be attending a retirement dinner for my mom. It'll be the first time she'll get to try authentic Indian food. Then on Sunday I'd like to get my metal detector out with my new coil that I got for Christmas. Hopefully the ground won't be too frozen.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (6 children)

I'm on call at work so I can't drink or smoke, my boyfriend is out of town, and the weather is nice. It's the perfect combination to take the pup on a long hike. We went on a short hike yesterday and he slept SO HARD afterwards, so I hope he's up to something a bit more intense tomorrow. Worst case scenario I can carry him.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Need to catch up on studying :/

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Me too. This weekend is going to be all about homework. Which is why I'm on Lemmy, as are you. XD

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

My wife and I are going to go grocery shopping and make some meal preps. Thinking about General Tso's chicken w/ shrimp fried rice.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I'm going to my sister's. I've been craving her macaroni and potato salads. She texted yesterday to say they were all made and we are getting together today.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I'm going to play destiny 2 with my long distance besties

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Eurovision. Lots of Eurovision.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Gonna go to a friend's birthday party. He's turning 18 and I'll give him a "best mother ever" shirt.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Nothing planned for tomorrow (apart from a kedgeree), but on Sunday we'll be checking in on our bees and having a planning meeting for the spring.

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