Alice

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What's the next thing you have to buy or do for your home? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 2 days ago

I wish I had a house so I could do some of the things mentioned in this thread. Apartments are so blah and I'd love to have a yard or appliances or something.

I was just going to answer that I need to buy a vacuum cleaner but they're even expensive used 🤷

Hobbies Wednesday - what have you done this week? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 3 days ago

Not a whole lot in terms of creative hobbies, but I've been pretty consistent at the gym this week 💪 I'm in a bit of a slump wrt strength building so I should probably take some time to rework my routine, but I've proved to myself that I can still physically be there even when my life is hectic.

Also did my second D&D session, using a pre-made character sheet. Gonna try to learn what the hell I'm doing and make my own character soon. :)

Pets Sunday - how are they doing? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Shirley's getting braver in her cat harness, although she still has her moments. She's terrified of people which is causing issues, neighbors just living their lives and she makes a scene trying to strangle herself on the leash or run into traffic.

Starting today I'm going to start carrying treats with me while walking her, and offer them to the neighbors to give to her. I'm thinking maybe if I find a flavor she really likes, and she only ever gets it from the neighbors, that might help her warm up to them.

She doesn't need to be besties with anyone, but if she ever escapes again, I don't want her to run from anyone who would recognize her.

Older people always remind me to change my clocks for Daylight Saving Time. in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

You don't have any clocks in your house or your car? Not even on your microwave?

I guess I don't have any self control. I'm horrible for scrolling on my phone all day. If I needed it to know what time it is, or had to keep it in the bedroom to use as an alarm clock, I'd be toast.

What’s something you did once and immediately thought, ‘Yeah, never again’? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

I don't think they're all taught that, I think my church was just paranoid and insane, tbh.

And they never outright said it was the entire "voice", but that pointed to so many individual things, I felt like it was. It was easier to reject any kind of negative emotions or complicated thoughts or unfamiliar opinions as some kind of outside attack than to really sit with them.

I guess it's not really relevant to the conversation at hand, other than pointing out that christians can be all different types of dysfunctional :p

What would you say the biggest differences between rural and urban America is? in c/AskUSA@discuss.online
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yupppp. I post in some environmental communities and it's so annoying when someone scolds me for using a car. I agree with them in principle but by car, I'm still over an hour away from the nearest bus stop.

Also I have to drive for ages if I want to do anything more interesting than grocery shopping.

Does anyone else just absolutely love flying? Which countries/locations are at the top of your list? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 2 weeks ago

I loved flying when I did it a couple years ago, but I doubt I'll ever do it again. Almost a grand to visit the other side of the US... I wish I was rich, I'd take a vacation every year and I'd fly every time.

What’s something you did once and immediately thought, ‘Yeah, never again’? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 9 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

You guys were taught that it was god?? I was taught it was always satan or some lesser demon lying to me.

Google Must Testify as LaLiga Demands Criminal Liability For 'Piracy Profits'. in c/piracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Huh, my brain somehow added a "not" to that first sentence or something. My mistake.

The Shared Feelings Megathread in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

+1 also it's a crime that I can't just start driving and never stop for the rest of my life and see what places exist forever

The karaoke bar is hyped up. You're next up and you have one job: kill the vibes. What song are you singing? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 2 weeks ago

Had a woman invite me out to karaoke, but I don't think we're compatible long term so I'm taking notes from this thread.

The karaoke bar is hyped up. You're next up and you have one job: kill the vibes. What song are you singing? in c/casualconversation@lemm.ee
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Could also do The New Adventures of Winnie the Pooh theme, another actually good song that reverts the crowd to sleepy five-year-olds

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Have you ever been speed dating? What was it like? (beehaw.org)
 

Title. I signed up for a queer speed dating event recently and I have no idea what to expect. Not really looking for a how-to guide, just curious about others' experiences. Was it fun, would you do it again, did you meet anyone cool... That sort of thing!

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Our brains are filling with more and more microplastics, study shows | The Washington Post (archive.is)
 

A paper published Monday in Nature Medicine found that the tiny fragments of plastic are passing the blood-brain barrier and into human brains, and the amount of microplastics in the brain appears to be increasing over time. The concentration of microplastics in analyzed brains rose by about 50 percent from 2016 to 2024.

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How do you make friends? (beehaw.org)
 

Genuinely can't figure out how other people develop active social lives. The most common advice I get is to look on Meetup, but I found pretty much one group and while I had fun, halfway through the event they started making fun of liberals for not having friends. I'm genderqueer so that ain't gonna work out. Everything else on Meetup is scientology garbage.

I go out and do things on my own and try to be open to people who approach me, but on the rare occasion someone wants to talk to me it's because they're horny and they've mistaken me for a straight woman. I can be out in the mud picking up litter and someone will strike up a conversation about the environment, something I'm interested in, and it turns out it's because they think I'm doing this to get the D.

I'm getting crazy bored. Does everyone just work a 9-5 and then go home alone? Except for when they have sex with the occasional random straight man??

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Yo what happened, my rule's gone (beehaw.org)
 
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Are there support groups for depression that aren't toxic? (beehaw.org)
 

I tried /r/suicidewatch on that other site, but even though I made it clear that I was looking for advice and encouragement, the only two replies I got were in agreement that it doesn't get better. 😐 /r/depression is even worse by the look of it.

Does anyone know of any good websites, or is it the nature of all of them that they just turn into a crabs-in-the-bucket nightmare? I'm trying to get better but it also gets isolating pretending I'm not depressed all the time.

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Carved pumpkins, mine is the middle (beehaw.org)
 

Never done this before, turned out to be a lot of fun :)

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Are there resources for learning social skills? (beehaw.org)
 

I'm 30 and horrible at keeping friends. I don't know if it's the unschooling or the autism, but I'm told I come across as hostile when I think I'm being nice.

I know the basics. I make eye contact but not too much, I ask people about themselves and their interests to show I'm interested, I don't dominate conversations with myself and my own interests. I try to be a nice person people might want to keep around, too— I give money when someone's in a pinch, I remember birthdays, I help move, et cetera.

Eventually people either people tell me I'm being a dick in ways I never realized, or more likely, they just eventually stop messaging me back.

The one thing I'm sure I struggle with is body language. I've read a lot that you need to mirror the other person's body language, but I don't know how to do that. Especially since I normally meet people at work and we're usually pushing big carts around and moving products and I'm just not thinking about my body as something expressive, just practical.

I'm sure I have many more blind spots that I'm not even aware of.

So like... are there classes for this? Some kind of specialized therapy? I don't really want to try anymore unless I can stop being a dick

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sorry for sharing this rule (beehaw.org)
 
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file rule (beehaw.org)
 
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Georgia’s parliament approves law curbing LGBTQ rights (www.aljazeera.com)
 

‘Family values’ bill is adopted despite being denounced by the president, rights groups and the European Union.

Kesaria Abramidze, a trans model, was murdered the day after the bill passed. Even if the president vetos it, this law already has a body count.

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Pizzamid head rule (beehaw.org)
 
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What books do you consider must reads? (beehaw.org)
submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by Alice@beehaw.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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So basically I was unschooled, and the amount of books I've read in my life is embarrassingly low. It was never emforced like in a school, and with my family's religious hangups, I never tried getting into new things because I never knew what would be deemed "offensive".

But I'm always interested when I hear people talk about both storycraft and also literary criticism, so I want to take an earnest stab at getting into books.

No real criteria, I don't know what I like so I can't tell you what I'm looking for, other than it needs to be in English or have an English translation. Just wanna know what y'all think would make good or important reading.

ETA holy shit thanks for all the suggestions! Definitely gonna make a list

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