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Er moet wel aandacht zijn voor het voorkomen van dit soort problemen. Niet natuurlijk op basis van een incident gaan over reageren, maar als iets structureel is, dan is aandacht zeker belangrijk. We zorgen in NL bijvoorbeeld heel slecht voor de mensen met psychiatrische problemen. Als dit leidt tot problemen (en ik wil benadrukken dat ik niet weet of dat hier het geval was, ik noem het als voorbeeld), dan is aandacht belangrijk om druk op de politiek te zetten om daar wat aan te doen.

Ik denk dus dat de media er in dat kader wel over moet berichten, maar dan dieper moet kijken dan het incident. Zij moeten kijken naar of er een structureel probleem is en als dat zo is, die structuren onderzoeken en daarover rapporteren.

Pombeertjes zijn wel echt superlekker. Echt beter dan de andere chips. Ik zou gewoon die kopen. ;-)

Goed bezig! Beter langzaam proces dan geen proces.

Ik heb zelf de grootste moeite om Google Maps te vervangen. Als ik in de file sta, dan mis ik up-to-date informatie over hoe lang de file is etc en hoe ik er omheen kan. Ik heb wel navigatie van Garmin gekocht die wat info binnen krijgt via de radio, maar dat werkt echt totaal niet. Ik gebruik nu die en/of organic maps en als ik de file in dreig te rijden toch maar Google Maps als ik haast heb.

Ik ga in elk geval de app van de ANWB eens checken die je noemt. Misschien dat dat nog wat is.

Hmmm, ik dacht dat ze zo voor vrijheid van meningsuiting waren. 🤔 Blijkbaar hangt dat van de mening af.

Niet echt. Ik vergeet elke keer een noodpakket te kopen tot ik zo'n opmerking zie. Dat zijn juist de momenten dat iedereen ze gaat kopen en alles duur en op is. Ik bedenk dan dat ik gewoon even moet wachten en vervolgens vergeet ik het weer tot er zo'n oproep is. 😅 Ik ga het nu op mijn to-do lijst zetten voor volgende week. Deze keer ga ik het echt regelen!

Zou best kunnen dat het zo werkt. Ik vraag me dan wel af hoe je in de rest van het leven functioneert als dat je niveau is. Het lijkt me dat je dan enorm vastloopt. Maargoed. Misschien zijn ze daarom zo boos.

Ja, absoluut. Echt niet te geloven dit. Ik ga st eds minder begrijpen van de mensen die hierop stemmen en nog steeds achter staan.

Thank you! 😊

I checked and I think it is only for the Netherlands (https://www.meerdangewenst.nl/category/oproepjes/oproepen-wensouders). I am not sure what country you are from, but I hope that there is something similar. I do not think that this is unique for the Netherlands probably.

Thank you. I really hope you do find another couple or woman who you can have children with. I have seen it work very well in practice. I think my uncles went on a website that matches people and there was some process a bit similar to dating on beforehand when they tried to find a match. However, in the end, of was a friend that was interested.

She wanted to have children, but did not have a partner. She also wanted to make sure the children had a father, so this was a good solution for her as well. Now they even have two fathers!

I hope you can find a solution like this or surrogacy. I think that everyone that is capable of taking care of a child and who wants it should be able to have one. I think it is one of the most fundamental experiences you can have in life. Good luck!

The problem has likely to do with the quality of my egg cells. They are not certain about this, but it is the most likely explanation. This means that surrogacy would not solve that problem. An egg cell donation might. However, in my country it is quite difficult to have access to that. There are large sperms banks, but not large banks for egg cells. So, we would need to find someone in our environment to donate an egg cell to me.

Are you a male or female couple (biologically I mean for making the child)? What happens here is that there are some women who do not have a partner, but still want a child. They often get a child together with a male gay couple and they raise the child with the three of them. I think government is even working on it to be possible for a child to have three parents legally. This is how my uncles got their twins. I am not sure whether this works the same with female couples. I see them often at the fertility treatment center, so I believe that they probably use the sperm bank.

In my country adoption from other countries is impossible as there have been several cases in which children were taken away from the parents illegally. They cannot check for that informing countries, so now adoption is not allowed anymore. Adoption within my country also is almost impossible. It is believed that children are best off with the biological parents. If they cannot live there, everything is focused on creating better circumstances so they can go back. The goal for children who cannot live at home is always to go back to the biological parents, so adoption almost never happens.

There is foster care and in soms cases children are in foster care for a very long time. Although the idea is still to get them back with the biological parents once the situation is safe, in practice that might not happen. You can just never be certain about that. However, I was abused by my parents and I got CPTSD from that. While my psychologist believes I would be able to be a foster mom, maybe even better because my experiences allow me to understand these children better, it is a really big obstacle to becoming one. The foster care organisations in general believe that if you have trauma in your past that you are not well-suited to take care of a child. They already told me it is not impossible for me to be a foster mom, but not to count on it because of the CPTSD.

Yes, that helps for me too! I have the cutest nephew who I see once a week and sometimes he sleeps over. In some cases it hurts, because it feels very empty when he leaves, but overall I am very happy to have at least him.