So much good advice here. I came to say things that felt important and I actualy just read through the comments and learned.
I'd add just one important thing: it is a constant struggle, but it is should not be a fight between partners. It is so easy to just blame the special other and pick a fight, but it is wrong, plain wrong, not only morally wrong. No matter the composition of the family, even without kids, taking care is a job that we collectively give too little credit to, yet it is THE most necessary, in the many forms caring can take.
You writing this post is already a lot of care, am I right? Keep this up <3
DO YOU HAVE TP?! Rrrrolios