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yeah, i’ll probably seek advice on this community a lot now that I’ve found it.

so this girl nadya acts like she’s kind of avoiding but kind of not, it’s so weird. nadya and i used to be quite close since we met 3 years ago.

nadya has been really quiet lately though, specifically around me. she considers us friends and continues to talk to me, and will be normal sometimes. sometimes she smiles and waves back so i know she doesn’t HATE me.

anyway, i’m putting this under Lesbians bc i’m wlw (or more specifically, nblw) and i like this girl 😓

i guess what I’m trying to say is that she acts differently around me, but it doesn’t seem all negative?

I’m not certain she’s interested in me since this one “mean girl” thinks nadya likes her and very well may, but i wanna know what this might mean, especially as an enby with a sapphic crush 😅 (if i qualify as sapphic)

sina mute li pilin seme? :)

i think most people can relate to this 😅 lol

Someone I know shows stuff such as:

• constantly needing a scapegoat
• shifting blame/cannot take accountability
• exaggerated mindset, often where other people are useless and they are the greatest
• has to maintain a very positive public image, such as being the absolute best
• does not have empathy unless it involves them or impacts their image in some way, if their image is supposed to be empathetic they will act so because of their image
• lacks empathy for people in pain/bad mental health/etc. but their image might be very upset about that
• will often be very nice to people in any sort of power

I’m asking because I’m genuinely curious if I should help, and maybe that even if they exhibit negative behaviors, they’re not a completely TERRIBLE person despite how they treat me.

toki, jan li lon kulupu ni.

mi kama sona e toki pona 😊

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i thought it was a catchy name for a pansexual group, which I don’t see much of on lemmy, if at all.

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/panpals

i don’t really need advice yet, it’s just a question. a girl im friends with acts really odd. we are friends, and we used to talk a lot, but then she started getting quieter, making less eye contact.

she also started being tenser/snippy at times.

when she’s not snippy, she’s just very quiet, which is most of the time. sometimes she’ll scoot over next to me but then scoot away, or act like she wants to sit by me but then goes away.

she doesn’t seem to be acting rude at all or mad at me. she will be nice, like smiling and waving and saying “hello”, or energetic when she can respond over text, so i don’t believe i’ve done anything to hurt her, but it’s just been really odd. what, from your experience, make a friend start acting this way? (especially girl because idk about guy friend behaviors)

most of the time, she acts normal, and i appreciate our friendship, and she seems to not hate me or anything like i said

update: i asked bc i was curious abt her behavior as friends, not just wondering if she liked me or anything even if that’s the impression some of y’all get 😭

Genuine question.