hellothere

Yes, definitely.

What I remind myself is that it doesn't have to be all or nothing. It's perfectly OK to say that after a long day your brain is soup and you just want to chill for the evening.

It's also fine to say that your tired, but will come out for one or two and then leave, and then do just that. Obviously if you find yourself having a better time and enjoying it you can stay out.

I find that adults respect other adults more if you are upfront about your own boundaries. You also don't need to make excuses, try to have the confidence to be straight forward and say you're tired and will skip this one, or whatever.

Set up a VPN to get back inside your network if you're outside it. Then you don't need HA (or anything else for that matter) to be public.

Fucking is a perfectly acceptable pause word.

Fuckin poser.

It continues to fascinate me how self-proclaimed small-gov libertarians always find themselves making their money off of government.

I thought the weenis was a dance?

Ah, my time to shine!

Yeah, I basically see it as purposeful relaxing, like having a long bath.

YMMV but I've found meditation helps.

Sit somewhere quiet, close your eyes and focus on slowing down your breathing and try to feel your heart rate slow. After a minute or two, then try to think of nothing, or listen for the quietest sound you can hear and focus on that (a ticking clock in another room, someone else breathing, etc).

Now this is where it may be different for you. I was diagnosed with adhd has a kid and what I'm describing next is with that in mind. Basically all day my brain feels like it's full of bees, sometimes less active, other times it's a deafening buzz.

After a few further minutes of focusing on that quite sound, I'll find individual things randomly pop in to my head, rather than a bunch all at once. Each time this happens I focus on what that thing is, and how it makes me feel. If for example I get angry, I let myself feel that, I don't try and stuff it down, but I don't let it overwhelm me. If I start to feel overwhelmed, I go back to the beginning and focus on slowing down my breathing.

In effect I'm trying to observe, and experience, that emotion simultaneously. This helps me do two things, first and foremost, I have much better - and healthier - control of my emotions during negative experiences (e.g. high stress), and can keep myself calm. Second, it allows me to go back to those emotions after the fact, and spend time working out why that experience led to that emotional response.

For frustration, sure, you can wail on a punching bag while blasting Hammer Smashed Face (which is very good in the moment), but I've found that that didn't help me handle my emotions any better, it just meant I took out that repressed anger on other things. Which, sure, is probably better than nothing, but doesn't help it you don't have access to a punching bag.

It depends on circumstances you haven't provided.

• Do they know the company is evil?
• if so, do they agree with what the company is doing?
• if not, do they have any viable alternate options?
• if they don't, do they have any undesirable options?
• if so, they are choosing known evil over inconvenience
• if not, then they are stuck

It's all lies!