it_depends_man

Alright. I hope that I'm wrong too, after all.

The first thing to consider is: can you afford the luxury of picking something you like?

In an ideal world we get the job we want, we have fun doing it, nice colleagues, etc.. This may not be true for you. You can pick a job you don't particularly like, if the job market seems good, use that to just afford living and go from there. That makes it somewhat easy, because you're no longer picking something that's "nice" you're optimizing working conditions: working times, union coverage, how long the education takes, vs. how much it pays. Maybe you find that working in a sewage plant or being a plumber isn't nice, but way better than doing a public facing customer service job. Or working your ass off in academia, 60 hours a week, with the reward of a wet handshake, a mention in a paper that's cited 5 times that your supervisor uses to boost their standing but not yours and a two year timer on job stability.

I can’t picture myself in 5/10 years from now and can’t even imagine what type of job I’d love, bc everything seems out fo reach and impossible, just like it felt when I was 20.

I’m afraid of wasting time bc of my age

Besides the job, what do you even want? And that question is hard and some people don't find the answer for decades, so don't stress over it. Sometimes it takes a decade of life experience to come to an "obvious" conclusion. The trick is that the ten years aren't "wasted", they are *necessary" to give you the context to understand what you want.

We are generally limited in the time we have, but it's only really urgent in three aspects: if you are terminally ill, you are becoming old or disabled and physically can't do certain things and family planning. If you know you want kids, make a plan for 10 years into the future. That's important because the requirements around kids are completely different than without. I don't think traveling with toddlers is smart, kids are expensive, they will eat your time and attention. If you want to get something bigger done, consider doing it before having kids, or your kids making you choose them instead of your "dream". Which can be bad, because you never ever want to think that you could have done X if only you didn't have kids. That's a regret that poisons a lot of things.

Anyway, YOU still have plenty of time. At least 10 years, probably 20, until you even have to start worrying about anything.

Do you care for art, people, technology, animals? Sitting on a couch? Sports? Cooking? Baking? Culture? Anything?

If nothing particular jumps at you, it's totally fine to browse e.g. movies, technology, memes, comics, music, literature, or to travel until you find something that strikes you. Like, do you even know what's out there? How are you supposed to pick something you like if you haven't seen anything?

Society throws a lot of things at you that you are supposed to care about and supposed to do, but you have to actually explore and decide if those things are actually for you, or if you just believe or do them because everyone you know does them or talks about them.

I recommend writing a diary or taking notes on this. Revisiting your old thoughts can be difficult and it's easier to organize your thoughts on paper.

Personally, I finished a technical education, worked in a few projects and even finished a few things I didn't like to test out what I didn't like and want to avoid. E.g. I worked in a city I didn't live in, commuted 3 hours one way every other weekend, lived in conditions I didn't like... It wasn't nice in the moment, but now I know what to avoid.

Final note: statistics say you are not alone. The opposite in fact, lots of young people go through the same issues. So maybe that's comforting, idk.

The problem is that of those 20/30% only 10% will actually get out on the streets so you are left with around 2% of the general population. And that ain’t much

So you do agree?

Getting mass protests organized is a tremendous effort. If you have 80-90% support for something, getting 30-40% on the street is a huge accomplishment. If only 30% support the idea in the first place, there is no chance.

The "mass protest" has to be at a scale, where it's basically a general strike where society shuts down because people are protesting.

That it doesn't work right now doesn't mean they should stop trying.

but a very loud and significant minority

This is meaningless in a country that chooses to ignore public voices. Authoritarian regimes can stay stable with 10-15% support of the population, ignoring protests and complaints.

There are protests, they are just way too small.

Trump hast at least 40% of the population behind him, and a good 20-30% don't care. Still.

You can't organize "mass protests" with 20-30% of the population.

I mean, you can, but they are literally a loud minority.

Could be huge, let's hope it works out.

I recommend these two books:

PR! - A Social History of Spin

manufacturing consent

They're older, but I don't think you need "modern examples", once you understand how it works, the techniques immediately and obviously apply to social media.

my take on this whole thing is:

... and there it is! A tool to fix the fallout of the practice of always using venvs and always version pinning.

Nice.

I have no need for this kind of tool, because I don't have version conflicts. Does this manage my dependencies in other ways?

No idea what .in is.

.txt is split out into .lock and .unlock.

Are they still .txt or is there a new file standard for .lock and .unlock?

pyproject.toml

.toml,

The only thing you have to unlearn is being so timid.

No, that's... against community rules :) I don't like the common use of venvs or .toml very much and I don't like their use by other people and "timid" is also diplomatic. So you're getting timid, and we get to get along and we can agree to disagree on the use of .venvs and we can wish each other a pleasant day.

I think saying it's a [code hosting platform] instance is selling it a bit short.

They're a registered club with official recognized "public benefit" status. They were specifically created to have a non commercial and community / society based choice for code hosting.

I don't understand why the R4L are even trying to get it into THE kernel at this point. Especially after the open hostility, but also after basically offering to be "downstream" of whatever C people do.

The difference to forking and gradually transitioning things to Rust seem technically minimally negative and socially enormously positive to me.

And when and if people want to use the linux kernel with Rust, made by the R4L people, they would then be able to do that? Idk.

I have no stakes in either side, so I don't really care.

I would say, the "real" "actually" is more of that.

The "ackshually" is more knowning that people can be like that and being a bit sarcastic about it.

As in "actually, X, but only someone really sweaty and pedantic would make that point earnestly, which I'm not".

Depends on how smart she is.

To not sabotage things, you can always leave it at a "mix of luck, talent and hard work". And you're working hard, and maybe you even have luck, but step dad might have all three.

If she's smart, you can drop the whole thing on her: first of all, you love her, her mom loves her, her step dad hopefully does too or at least likes her and that has nothing to do with money. Then you can just be transparent on how much you earn, how much time that means in effort, and how much "lots of money" takes to earn. Then you can just do some math, and her step dad's numbers won't add up.

It's a sensitive topic though, you can say your piece, communicate with your ex and the step dad about that she asked and what you said. They might have a different take.

Might even spin it into making her think about what she wants to do in the future.

It shouldn't feel forever. I like that the longest part of booting my PC is the grub selection for my dual boot setup. I have an older laptop that takes about 2 minutes to boot. Not a deal breaker, but a noticeable delay.

I don't really care.

But it being snappy sure feels good. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 feature making the setup unattractive, 5 being indifference, 10 being super important, booting fast is a 6.