xiaoyang4

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[–] xiaoyang4 15 points 2 years ago (3 children)

If I'm able to provide any feedback, one area of concern for me was the lack of any good-faith attempt to negotiate intermediate solutions with affected users aside from of flat-out banning communities with little to no prior notice (which, IMO, should only occur as a last resort). This is pretty much one of the reasons why I left reddit (with respect to Apollo/spez).

While I understand that the moderation tools here are limited, it was not hard for me to find that the lemmy github has already implemented some features allowing communities to be hidden from local/all (it was implemented in 2022), and in my opinion, the presence of scat or bestiality isn't so desperately urgent of an issue that it can't wait 1-2 weeks for a patch to be made here. As far as I can tell, no one (and no other lemmy instances) was actually complaining about bestiality hentai until the admins chose to ban it here. To me, it looks as though the admin team is trying to aggressively fix issues that aren't broken.

Does it really make sense to ban SFW artwork from here when it hasn't been a problem?

Many of us here at lemmy ran communities on reddit, and we are experienced moderators. I can say personally that the amount of spam/illegal content that I've needed to deal with on c/HeteroHentai is magnitudes less than the content I dealt with on reddit. At the end of the day, perhaps it might be worthwhile to ask community moderators here if they feel like they are overloaded with illegal IRL content before taking preemptive measures to ban everything under the sun.

On most other spaces that I've been part of, there are many intermediate solutions and approaches that communities have taken short of banning the communities entirely. For example:

  • Noncon/dubcon content must be clearly warned in the post title
  • Noncon/dubcon content must go inside a spoiler (for here, you could say that the image must go inside the post body so it doesn't show while scrolling)
  • Fictional noncon/dubcon is allowed, but the community/post cannot promote or encourage noncon (IRL)
  • Drawn noncon/dubcon is allowed, but realistic appearing artwork (or rendered 3D artwork) isn't

There are many variations on these types of rules that I've seen in many places, and they're are magnitudes better than simply banning scat/bestiality/etc without giving it a second thought. The lack of consideration given towards this issue and the apparent bias of the current admins to IRL NSFW content over drawn/fictional NSFW content is very discouraging.

[–] xiaoyang4 8 points 2 years ago

Unfortunately, this is a bottom line for me, and I won't be staying at LemmyNSFW (departure post).

Thanks for running this instance until now, and I wish you and your team the best.

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I didn't expect to be making this post so soon (I've only been here one week), but I've ultimately decided over the past few days that LemmyNSFW's current management and content policy isn't compatible with my personal values.

I'll be moving to: https://www.pillowfort.social/community/Heterohentai

Pillowfort is kind of like tumblr but it also has communities that you can post stuff to (like reddit). It's NSFW content policy is more similar to reddit/twitter/pretty much every major NSFW website, and it's user-funded/non-commercial. Registering is unfortunately not super straightforward (they have a "rolling waitlist"; for me it took 15 minutes to get a registration link).

I'll be giving Pillowfort a try on the next step of my (gradual) migration away from reddit. Pillowfort has been around for several years now, so at the very least it's more stable than a lot of the brand-new things popping up now.


Why am I leaving?

I have very strong values/opinions, and I think intolerance/prejudice/kinkshaming towards non-mainstream sexual interest groups is unacceptable. I can't support site-wide bans on fictional depictions of bestiality, scat, noncon/dubcon, and I will resolutely leave spaces that make those kinds of policy decisions.

As it currently stands, LemmyNSFW has the strictest content policy out of almost every single NSFW website currently online on the internet. Some admins have purported that these bans are for legal purposes, however my own personal impression from my interactions with some admins over the past few days is that the motivation for these content bans is moralistic/populistic rather than grounded in legitimate legal concerns.

I can't begin to explain how hurtful it is to be in environments where other people judge you for your fetishes. On the Internet, I consider myself to be a fairly rare minority (a straight woman who posts hentai), and I have a long history of going through spaces where users are attacked for liking something that mainstream people consider to be "immoral". While it may not be apparent from the artwork that I post here, I do have a noncon/dubcon fetish (from the victim's perspective), and it's probably around 50% of the NSFW content that I consume on the internet as a whole.

Myself aside (I'm not an isolated example, after all), there are many examples of how this kind of moralistic paternalism is harmful. Do we really think that we're helping anyone by running around and shouting at people that they're immoral for looking a pictures of pokemon having sex? Are we helping prostitutes by banning prostitution (for immorality) and driving them to less safe and less regulated spaces?

There seems to be an unspoken implication that: "People who read fictional noncon erotica must be predisposed to becoming rapists, therefore we should ban noncon erotica" -- but really there isn't any concrete evidence that this is the case, otherwise violent video games with machine guns would have been banned ages ago.

The negativity here over the past few days has really been unbearable. Every day, it feels like there's discussion about banning something new, or pointing the pitchfork at something else. LemmyNSFW feels like it is possibly one of the most intolerant NSFW communities that I've been on in the internet in recent memory, and it operates under a guise of moralistic paternalism, which is honestly leaves me feeling very sour.

We're all adults here. I don't need anyone to tell me that I can't read (or it's immoral to read) (or even worse, the bullshit claim that it's illegal to read/write/draw/post) fictional hardcore BDSM erotica that contains slavery/noncon/etc.

Naturally, if this place thinks that appealing to lemmy.world (the federation of SFW lemmy instances that have threatened to defederate) is more important than appealing to their own users... first of all, that logic makes absolutely no sense. Since when does a country prioritize the opinion/approval of overseas foreigners over the interests of their own citizens?

The reality is that banning communities, even "temporarily", utterly destroys the trust that affected users have. To use an analogy, it is 100% unacceptable for an LGBT community to "temporarily" ban their transgender members. What kind of message does that even send? Do you think they would really want to come back? Even threatening a ban destroys the trust, and it damages the integrity of a community to a far greater extent than I think the admins may realize.

Basically, I've decided that it's not worth my energy to invest my time here, particularly as this instance conflicts fairly strongly with my personal values. It's absolutely within the admin/owners' powers to create arbitrary rules and policies that they want, and likewise I'll come and go to the spaces online with my own feet.

Thank you to everyone who commented here during this short period of time, and I apologize for the rant (it's not particularly on-topic for c/HeteroHentai). Maybe we'll see each other somewhere else on the Internet in the distant future.

-xy

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Want more? (files.catbox.moe)
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Wanderer (@wanderer_game_) (files.catbox.moe)
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Schlick (mik yanase) (files.catbox.moe)
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[–] xiaoyang4 16 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Perhaps I didn't give the best example, but I was trying to illustrate that certain communities have historically been harassed or persecuted on the Internet -- e.g. furry communities, my little pony, watersports, diapers, gay communities, and even BDSM (which has a long history of being banned in various areas) -- and in each of those cases, they were banned because they were "unpleasant" by the mainstream view.

[–] xiaoyang4 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I wanted to ask this in another comment, but has anyone looked at this feature on lemmy? It seems that the ability for instance admins to hide particular communities from local/all by default was already implemented.

[–] xiaoyang4 15 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

I can understand that sentiment, but it raises an eyebrow with me. If pokemon sex or okami (video game wolf) sex is not illegal, but banned because it's unpleasant (by mainstream standards)... what is the basis that futanari, dickgirl, or transgender content shouldn't be banned because (at least in America), transgender content is apparently controversial (and in some US states, illegal) by mainstream standards? Or what about furry content?

Of course, I'm not being totally serious here, but it's a legitimate question.

Who determines what is "unpleasant" and how is that separated from (thinly masqueraded) intolerance towards a non-mainstream demographic?

[–] xiaoyang4 16 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (7 children)

Well, technically, the location of the server/hosting is sort of irrelevant for reddit. Reddit must abide by US law because it is registered as a US company, and it's not a valid argument for them to say they're allowed to do illegal things because the server is overseas.

Secondarily, tbh I think a lot of the attention that the admins here have placed here towards NSFL/noncon/dubcon/bestiality are a bit misguided, in part due to ignorance. From my own experience on the management team of an anime/manga server over the past decade, the number one legal threat is actually copyright claims. Lawsuits can go up to hundreds of thousands of dollars and Japan has arrested foreigners for posting/transmitting scanalated (fan-translated) manga. IMO c/piracy is actually illegal and actually a legitimate legal threat to any web admin hosting them.

In comparison, the legal risk of posting fictional bestiality pictures (e.g. humans fucking pokemon) is non-existent. In fact, it's not even illegal in any jurisdiction, as far as I'm aware of.

[–] xiaoyang4 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

This is certainly true, but I have a more pessimistic view that this type of fragmenting dooms this type of fediverse model from ever becoming mainstream. If every interest group splinters, eventually they're all small enough that they lack the weight to build momentum, as well as the resources to sustain the community long-term. We can see this in the mastodon nsfw instances (a bunch of them shut down), and IMO that's the inevitable fate of any small instance that lacks the numbers (read: financial support) to support a durable operation.

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Random chatter (6/28): I'm dying from ototsuku 🥹 🥹 🥹

[–] xiaoyang4 4 points 2 years ago

@[email protected] @[email protected]

I was looking through the lemmy source and I think some of these features might already be implemented. Perhaps the person working on git.lemmynsfw.com can check it out?

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Monstrous Lovers~ (beehaw.org)
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cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/589908

Comic link for those interested :) : https://e-hentai.org/s/5de80e86ec/1638517-1

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Revy (youken) (files.catbox.moe)
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[–] xiaoyang4 10 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I think it's absolutely valid to defederate if the users from a particular instance have a propensity to violate the content policy here.

For communication purposes, I think it's important to clarify and emphasize that this is the case and it's not done for political reasons. Maybe I'm overly paranoid, but I always feel as though this is a slippery slope (e.g. defederating from the socialist instance, or the trans/lgbt instance). Personally, for transparency's sake, I think it's better to avoid giving the impression that admins defederate from instances that they simply dislike. IMO, the defederation process should go by a process that is clearly defined and a published policies/rules.

[–] xiaoyang4 8 points 2 years ago (2 children)

That's very fair.

For me, as someone who consumes a lot of this genre (moreso in erotica), I've always felt as though BDSM and CNC are safe ways (IRL) to explore fetishes/fantasies that people have. The emphasis (for me at least) is safety.

As a woman, I've found that erotica, fiction, and online roleplay are very safe ways to explore my sexuality. In this sense, I've definitely appreciated spaces online where it has been possible to do this, even if the CNC disclaimer isn't always at the the top of every single story that I read.

Mostly, I'm just a little concerned about the line in the OP that noncon will never be allowed on this instance, and I would like to clarify exactly what that means with respect to this very complicated spectrum of media and sexuality.

[–] xiaoyang4 17 points 2 years ago (5 children)

IDK if this is a hot take, but personally I think the only reason to defederate should be for content policy.

Otherwise, it should be up to individual users to block communities that they don't want to see.

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