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Sexuality and gender expression are unrelated.
You have fundamental misunderstandings that you should educate yourself about before commenting again.
I won't reply further to you, so please dont bother.
Please fuck off. I really want to believe that you are just ignorant and mean well, but still. It's hard being polite.
I am gay, and I have known it even before I knew what the word "gay" meant. Being gay doesn't just mean "ooo I wanna fuck that manly ass so much, ooo I wanna suck dick". Does being straight mean "pussy pussy I want pussy"? No. It can mean having romantic feelings for your male best friend, really liking to look at a male celeb for a very long time cuz they just "look pretty" and so on.
I was surrounded by homophobes who constantly denounced being homosexuality. I had to spend my entire childhood feeling that there was something terribly wrong with me. This was until I actually discovered the LGBTQ community. I understood that I was not the only "freak" like this in the world. I understood that I could live a nice and beautiful life as a gay dude.
If I was exposed to the concept of homosexuality in childhood (the fact that something like this even exists, and that you're not a freak for being gay in case you think you are), then my childhood would've been a lot better.
The same goes with gender identity. I'm cis, so I won't be able to give a very good description of what it's like being trans, but from what I've understood from my trans friends, it's pretty similar.
Why should kids have to suffer for not being cis n straight? Conservatives make it seem as if kids are being taught how to fellatio Jeffery Epstein or something. Kids do need to know about concepts like these (them being sexuality, gender identity, etc.) so that they can protect themselves from going down the spiral of self hatred.
Same in my case. I invested my own word and told my parents that I wanted to be a "tomgirl" (the opposite of a tomboy) in 3rd grade.
Honestly it's kinda wholesome.
Agreed haha. So cute
I hate how people conflate sexuality and sex. You can be gay and die a virgin and I have no idea why some people don't understand that. It's about who attracts you, not what you do.
Listen downvote me all you want. I’m all for people living how they want to. But school and childhood years are not fit to teach people about sexuality, especially before teenage years. If I had a kid, I wouldn’t want them to be subject to these topics until they’re at least 13-14 and that’s a teenager at that point. Most children have no idea how sexuality or genders work anyway and saying that a child can be transgender is such a wild concept to me. It’s the same as claiming a child is totally straight or gay. They’re children, what the fuck do they know.
The evidence says you’re wrong. Age appropriate sex education has huge proven benefits. Although sex education has basically nothing to do with gender identity, despite your conflation of the two.
And you are absolutely not for letting people live how they want with this position. You are for enabling the government to violently intrude on and control people’s lives about some of the most crucial and intimate aspects of their lives.
Shame on you.
That is an unbelievably stupid proposal. By age 13 boys, and especially girls (because they start sooner) are well into puberty. They've already had sexual questions and feelings for years by that point. In the absence of any teaching on what is happening to their bodies and what the consequences are of engaging in intercourse too early, many of them will make minor to catastrophic choices simply because we wouldn't have given them normal human knowledge.
How do you not remember what your own childhood was like? On your 13th birthday did you, for the first time, look at your genitalia and wonder what it was for or "where babies came from"? No, of course not. You asked some of those questions likely when you were 6 or 7 years old. If nothing else you are leaving your child vulnerable to sexual abuse because you haven't told them what healthy boundaries are or at worst, sexual abusers themselves again because you haven't told them what healthy boundaries are to be respected.
Seriously? Do simply you dismiss any idea or notion a child has about themselves in any capacity until they magically turn 13? If they tell you their favorite color is blue, do you tell them they can't possibly know their own mind?
And that is how you end up with pregnant teenagers.
So all the kids who make fun of the "fairy boy" or "butch girl" don't have pre-existing knowledge of gender and sexuality expectations?
Then why aren't bullies targeting girls for dressing up in boas and singing pop? Why aren't boys made fun of for cutting their hair short and liking sports? Put a boy in the first scenario and a girl in the second, and other kids will point them out as being "different."
If kids have "no idea how sexuality or genders work" then what, exactly, makes this type of discrimination possible?
On an unrelated note, your understanding of children in general is absolutely baffling. It's clear you aren't around kids much, don't remember your own childhood, and know diddly squat about child development. Kids are much smarter than you ~~think~~.
And yet some kids do know they're totally straight, or gay, or transgender, before they even turn 12, or 11, etc.
They might not have the vocabulary to express it, and others might not know how it works or how they feel, so that's just all the more reason to teach them.
Imagine if we treated any other subject like this: "oh the children have no idea how it works, lets not subject them to it". It doesn't make sense, of course they don't understand if they've never heard of it.
Are you aware that girls can have their first period years before that?
In fact, there was a girl in my elementary school class who had her first during class earlier than most. She freaked out and thought she was dying, as she had not received any education regarding it. It was a horrible, embarrassing, and traumatic event for her that could have been easily prevented with proper education and preparation. This kind of thing is not uncommon for young girls to go through and it's incredibly sad the way we view sexual education and our bodies.
If a kid happens to have two dads, then what the hell are you going to hide from them until they're friggin' 13 years old? And WHY?
Fuck off
Did you not know you were straight as a kid? I remember being VERY aware of girls starting in like third grade.
Did you not get boners? Did you not have the Internet?
Teaching kids about sex and sexuality is the opposite of wrong. Teaching kids their body parts, and why and how they are private makes it harder for them to be exploited, assaulted and raped. Teaching them about sexuality, at an age appropriate time lets them know that puberty is fucking weird, and hard, and not everything fits into 2 nice little neat boxes. It teaches them, that yes they ARE normal and not freaks.
But they're not transitioning at that age. It's puberty blockers used to delay permanent changes to their body. Puberty blockers have been used for decades and there's plenty of research and evidence around to show that there's no harm in delaying puberty.
On the contrary, there is lots of evidence to show that forcing children who identify as trans to go through puberty is traumatic and can lead to suicide. Forcing trans children to go through that is, in my opinion, sick in the head.
Wouldn't you want to do what's best for your child no matter who they are? Children are people too and it's worth listening to what they say, especially if they're voicing distress.
Passing knowledge is never wrong, in my opinion, and it's never wrong to defer to someone more knowledgeable if you don't know what the answer is.
I would highly suggest that you speak to your local trans community to understand what 'teaching children about sexuality' means to them and how it affected them, to get a better understanding.
Those are unrelated, fuckwit
"If someone touches you where your bathing suit covers, that is bad and you need to tell people about it" is teaching children about sexuality.
So that's what you think is wrong.