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Didn't they explicitly ask via #metoo movement and what not for men to NOT approach them directly ever or else they screem that this is harassment?
No that's totally different. You can approach women just don't be a douche/creep and respect the rejections and otherwise when it works you're in.
Your point holds under circumstances that make them uncomfortable like during night or when they're feeling unsafe because a few bad apples do invoke trauma.
If you're not a bad apple you have nothing to worry about. Except femcels, those ones are misandrists and theres no hope like for incels. Leave them to correct themselves or stay alone forever.
It's not always immediately obvious who those are. So every interaction is a dice roll to see if you get a date, get rejected politely, or screamed at and publicly dragged through the mud. Remember the Instagram gym girls yelling at gym bros glancing in their general direction? For a lot of younger men, the consequences of the risk, however small, outweigh the reward.
And women run the gamble of getting murdered because some little man couldn't handle rejection, gonna be honest here bud, I think that's a little bit worse than being posted on someone's cringe compilation.
It's not a competition.
They're explaining why men might not approach. Jfc.
I think that speaking out loud about malicious activities towards women is important and yes, harassment is real, but it really feels like society became almost too sensitive when it comes to approaching women. Some years ago there were video campaigns where they would literally show how one men stops another from talking to stranger female, before he was given a change to be either creepy or nice and respectful with like assumption that this is bad anyway. And also who's to judge where's the boundary between being creep or not anyway, this can be very subjective.
And it's not my POV, I just speak about what I see in internet/media. Being gay introvert I couldn't care less about talking to strangers...
Not all men. You. They don't want YOU to approach them.
*you all
If you mistook ‘don’t be creepy’ for ‘don’t approach women at all,’ then yeah. You’re probably in a mental place where you shouldn’t approach.
No dating for the autists who aren't good with social cues, got it.
Dating is a social activity. I’m not sure how you do it without being able to perform socially, but there’s probably resources out there to learn from.
This comment said "newsflash not every animal gets to reproduce," which equates autistic people with less than favorable social skills to animals who deserve to die without experiencing love.
Mmmmhmm. Howbout you go fuck yourself Mr. "Deleted."
(Also side note, username checks out, but dating != reproducing necessarily and the person who posted that is a clinical moron.)
Given how a lot of women are, don't be creepy does mean "don't approach them at all. Unless I'm interested in you, which I won't tell you because men have to make the first move".
That wasn’t my experience at all when dating. Just treat them like a person. Be friends. If you get on ok, then make your move. They often beat me to it.
If the cold open approach isn’t working, change strategies.