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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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Bisexual Erasure (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Let's discuss bisexual erasure. Have you experienced it? How has it affected you?

I've experienced erasure, I prefer feminine energy regardless of gender, as such I've had my sexuality dismissed by 'friends' and colleagues with statements like "that's just straight and horny" or the other end of the spectrum: "you're gay but clinging to social pressures"

I'm in a hetero-presenting relationship which just fuels the presumption of heterosexuality. I've been celebrated for being an ally and immediately dismissed when I suggested that I'm not an ally but a member. Makes seeing myself as a member... difficult.

There's a tension in some LGBTQ communities- lesbian communities in particular (gold star).

I'm interested in your feelings/experiences with erasure.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

I'm in a closed poly triad (MFF) so my girlfriends who are bi finally stopped getting the comments you're talking about as they both have a M and F partner. It's sad that it took that for people to stop making those comments. It sucks that you have to have one of each partner for people to consider your bi-ness "real".

Not exactly related but I also get the "outsider" feeling when it comes to pride as I've always considered myself straight (I never would pursue a guy but if a hot guy pursued me I would probably enjoy it) and now I've gotten comments calling me "double straight" as I have two female partners. Poly isn't exactly in the LGBTQ so I definitely get the "ally" treatment.