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I've been told that I "bottle things up and then explode". How do you not "explode"? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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First, don't tell me that the answer is just to "not bottle things up", because that's objectively incorrect too. Society doesn't want you to have any negative emotions. I need to know how to not express negative emotions at all whatsoever unless I'm alone. I know it can be done because it is done in many other people on the planet.

Edit: Ok so I think one of the things I want to try doing next is ask for a med change from my psych provider.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Have you considered going to HR about this? I've never confronted a bully directly at work. You need to be indirect, not direct. Not every problem can be solved head on.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Yes I have very recently. It is currently an ongoing ordeal but I am not hopeful. People have gone to HR about my supervisor before and it has never changed anything.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago

In my experience if you have a toxic boss you clash with, and HR is unwilling to deal with the problem then they are complicit, which is a far too frequent scenario, if at all possible it sounds like a new job would be the best option for your mental health while you talk to a therapist about the situation to find coping tools in the meantime

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago

Keep trying, document everything. Get people to talk and align their stories. Consider getting several people with grievances to go to HR together. Showing up together is a show of force most HR take very seriously in my experience.