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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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When a woman claims to have been assaulted, I automatically believe her in regards to how I treat her.
As far as the person she's accused goes, though, I think it's pretty easy to understand that nobody should be convicted on the sole evidence of their accuser's testimony, and I think that should apply to the court of public opinion as well.
It's a situation where either one person is guilty of a horrible crime, or the other is making false allegations of said crime. In order for both to be "innocent until proven guilty", you need to assume the allegations are true when interacting with the woman, and assume they're false while interacting with the accused. It's really counterintuitive and maybe impossible to do
I know a woman who accused her girlfriend of abuse and cut contact with her. The one who was accused told all of us she was sorry, she didn't realise she was abusive, and she wanted to know how she did it, so she could work on improving as a person. A few of us asked the accuser how she was abused, and... Nothing. She can't say. I don't know if she can't or doesn't want to or both, but that accusation fucked with that girl and gave her PTSD. And I'm never again going to treat that 'victim' like I believe her. Too many people doing that.
id also add to assume they’re at least somewhat plausible when interacting with people around them who may be effected in the future
putting people on guard, as long as it doesn’t negatively effect anyone involved is useful: it’s not a good outcome to have information, keep it to yourself to protect people, and then for someone new to get hurt
it’s incredibly tricky, and imo false reports are just as bad as true reports: false reports hurt real, and future victims significantly
That's an excellent point