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Yeah my wife is this. I think it's the direct result of bad stuff happening and getting told it's not your fault. At some point you start believing nothing is your fault. The other side of it is believing everything is your fault.
It's a matter of responsibility. Taking responsibility for everything is hard on you. Taking responsibility for nothing makes your actions hard on others.
Yeah, both are problematic. And for the same reason - the person does not learn to accurately identify when they're responsible for something and should do something about it, although for different reasons.
Just wondering, the parents of your wife are together? Or she came from a single parent house?
They split when she was 3. Stayed with her mum. She remarried but that didn't last.
Thx for the answers 👍👍 much appreciated..