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Wife needs surgery (child planning) advice (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hey.

My wife needs a surgery that will be on the 10th January next year.

It can't wait longer, it might be cancer but not 100% cancer, could be myom or just cells (skin?) that started growing but they aren't sure.

I will try to make this short: it has to be removed and they aren't sure if they need to remove the uterus and now comes the problem

I don't want kids and if I do, only in 3-5 years ( she as well) but if they have to remove it completly, which they only know on the day the surgery is we can't anymore.

We talked today and said it wouldn't change much if kids now or in 4 years, but tbh I am not even sure and she isn't either if we want kids at all. It's frustrating cause it seems like we might have time if the surgery goes as planned and the uterus doesn't need to be removed at all.

It's not even a guarantee if we would try now anyways, most likely not cause of stress (maybe cancer, maybe not) on her side, my side, and general it's not easy to get pregnant.

I had cancer myself 12 years ago and not even sure if I can have kids myself, if my sperm is "good enough". I have some frozen, but that is it...

Any life suggestions? Trying to make kids on the fly now seems like a dumb idea but will we regret it if she can't have kids again?!

Sorry for bad english. And sorry for writing so "wild" I just can't get my thoughts straight. I am confused.

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