Started work at 4AM this morning. Working on an outdoor site and it's too hot to work later on.

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Im going to rant a tad bit, but i could use some advice.

I cant really get a job because i cant drive and there are no buses (not like i could afford a bus anyways). I also have to stay at home with family because they have health issues and im paranoid. I want to be self employed but honestly im not sure. IM not even sure what i could do for self employed sense im broke and a young adult. I would likely be better off with a job but i cant go out and get one. Its like i want a hobby but everything i want to do requires money or something of that nature.

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I work in a busy cafe atmosphere and everything kept going wrong sensory wise. I had kept mildly burning my hands while making food and felt hypersensitive to everything honestly. It was really busy and I was overwhelmed while trying to prioritize and multitask. Everyone else was reasonably busy, but I felt really unsupported. I try very hard to just let things roll off and go with the flow, but when things got confrontational with a coworker of mine I felt like I just started shutting down. Luckily I had a short break just in time, but the break wasn't enough time to calm down unfortunately. Pretty much just after getting back from my break, I felt sick to my stomach and excused myself from the floor in a rush only to have a meltdown in the bathroom. I couldn't stop thinking about how much time I was wasting and couldn't shrug it off or calm down very effectively. After spending forever trying to figure out what to do and what I needed, I let my manager know I needed to go home and that I was very sorry. I'll likely be reprimanded, but the manager working was very understanding which helped.

I've never been good at "gritting my teeth", bearing through discomfort, or "getting back on the horse" after something like that. I really dislike discomfort and tension (I think most people do lol), but my avoidance and inability to handle some amounts is really starting to hurt me as I get further into my adult life. I'd like to be able to get upset, excuse myself and calm down, and then be able to continue as if nothing happened at all, ideally. I just haven't figured out how to make that happen yet (hence the post).

Additionally, I plan to research possible accommodations and mental health benefits (which include talk therapies) through work for better coping strategies. Hopefully, that'll help, but I'd also appreciate thoughts, suggestions, or just hearing about what has helped you personally if you relate!

Small edit: Thank you so much for the support and advice! Posting was definitely a good idea!

You may not know this but i have autism and dyslexia. I recently got out of highschool but im not quite sure what to do with my life, ideas are hard sometimes. I do have a few ideas but they woudent be beneficial in the long run.

Do i find a hobby, get a job, go to collage, there's so much im not sure where to start or what to stick with?

I just gave up the time to shave. So my senior cat could poop in peace.

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It's Sunday. It's hot. I'm hiding in the basement.

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Going to be hot today.

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Happy birthday! This covers all birthdays for the year. Thank you.

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Could be external. Could be someone has some ideas to assist you!

Lots of rain last night.

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Oh how's the weather? I heard the sky was blue today. Small talk, small talk. Mmm yes small talk. Jenny took her dog to the groomer and got a cute lion cut small talk.

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The Majestic Aggiethar the Barbarian!

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As a normal person with ADHD but otherwise neurotypical, I have a hard time communicating and functioning with my partner.

How do I better deal with the communication issues and honestly she entirely lacks a way to talk, express feelings, be deeper than basic interactions.

My new girlfriend is on the spectrum not high up and at first glance functions fairly normal to onlookers.

But privately and when being close or open its like she says she has a social battery but its always drained according to her, she doesn't sleep good. Has depression and horrible anxiety. She feels scared to make moves intimately but wants to, whether it's kissing, sexual, or in general even hand holding.

But she deals with major issues of over stimulation like talking or touching when emotions get higher or more complex she defaults to blocking people out and going into herself.

Overwhelming emotions all the time that she cannot explain or process no matter how much she tries writing to me, to be alone and think about them so we can properly discuss, the only answer she comes to is IDK. It's like she can't explain emotions and feelings almost at all. Which makes any understanding or functioning insanely difficult borderline impossible due to the one way nature my input and none of her output. She struggles to explain basic thoughts and doesn't like trying or will attempt to try and get frustrated and upset or scared to try entirely. Which further increases the overwhelming feelings and discomfort. It leaves a void for us. She wants nothing but to do better and grow together but feels trapped in her autism cycle. I know it cannot be changed but I can certainly improve on how to process the situation and do better on my part.

How/what can we introduce methods to better communicate? (we tried writing letters and texting but she can't explain things and gets confused/frustrated/upset so that is out)

What systems can we introduce and methods we can try improve these feelings?

What are some of your best advices and methods for a normal person to be educated and productive when dealing with an autistic person? So I can be a better partner too.

I am struggling to understand, communicate, and find ways to function cohesively together because for me it's like... why can't you try to explain things so we can improve but it always lands into a negative set of emotions. Where she feels sad, cries, gets mad, blames me, depression, anxiety, she's constantly never ending overwhelmed.

I greatly appreciate the help. I will have open discussions with each of you as needed. Thanks for taking the time to help a normie out!

Edit: Perhaps that was way over stated. All our interactions are not negative but for the sake of the post I was focusing on those aspects to find tools to improve myself and her ability to communicate more effectively.

In no way shape or form are our interactions as basic as that sounded. We function almost entirely normal. Do normal activities, go places, hangout, work and hobbies. When I meant basic interaction I don't mean she sits on bench and cannot function. I just meant anything outside of typical day to day like intricate displays of emotion or communication about our relationship issues is where the wall hits. Its not trust. Or as dead sounding as that seemed. Its that she lacks ways to articulate her emotions and what to say. Has issues processing.

I was looking at for tools like the emotion wheel. Similar methods. Not a psychological breakdown of her and I.

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We have peaches!

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I should go back to bed.

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