Sometimes I pretend to take sarcasm or joke statements seriously because I don't know how to react to it otherwise.
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Me too. Also I'll often do the opposite where I make a joke but with no tone change to indicate it as such. People will either get mad at me for being wrong or else they will praise my brilliant deadpan humour.
haha same! Half the time I'm a comedic genius, and the other half, I look like an idiot. (ok, maybe it's 60/40. or 5/95.)
this thread speaks to me
yooooooo! Before I found out I'm autistic, I asked a friend if I had any toxic traits/patterns/behaviors. He said that the only thing he could think of was that quite often, people can't tell that I'm joking. According to him, people have to get to know me for a while until they recognize my humor. If they didn't know me, then I would come off like a complete jerk. This is probably why people would call me an "asshole" so often at parties.
People who scoff or laugh a little and want you to ask what's so funny or interesting. Not on the Spektrum but I ignore them because I hate that shit.
Would you rather they tell you umprompted, or keep it to themselves?
Either is ok. Just not trying to... idk socially manipulate me into asking them so they can tell me something. I don't know how common that is tbh, only had two colleagues like that so far, it just annoys me.
They can at least verbalize that they saw something funny so that I know they're actually willing/ready to share because I hate asking and then waiting as they finish watching/reading/texting.
Understandable. Though from my end, I wouldn't want to say "I just saw something funny" because to me that's socially obligating them to ask what it is, and maybe they're not interested. I prefer doing the laugh because that gives them the choice of whether they want to ask. Though on the other end, I can imagine not wanting to ask because maybe it wasn't something the laugher wanted to share.
I've started just staring blankly at then without saying anything until they either tell me what was funny or they move on and I go back to what I was doing. Either way, I don't ask, it's up to them to tell me if they want to or not. They'll quickly learn I don't ask, so they just start saying it naturally instead.
I love when they hint at something that they talked about behind your back. Bitch we all know you're making fun of me right now. Some people a just terrible company.
Oh god avoid those people