ADHD

I love weekends for their lack of work things, but I hate my ADHD because the weekends just pass and I get nothing done, neither important things nor fun things. So they just go to waste.

I really enjoy my work, but it's mentally tiring, so i end up in this bizarre back-and-forth where during the week I look forward to the weekend, and at the weekend I look forward to going back to work.

The lack of structure at the weekend is frustrating.

I love the weekend but the very thing I love (no “musts”) is often what makes me feel like shit. So I have to against my instinct and make plans/schedule things. But then I often go overboard in that direction instead. So there’s certainly some amount of really frustrating inner conflict going on there. 😥

I used to look forward to the weekends because it was free time for me to focus on my own priorities in life. I was in the US Air Force for 20 years, and work always took precedence over personal life. It was literally one of our 3 core values: 1.) Integrity First; 2.) Service Before Self; 3.) Excellence in All We Do.

But I retired last summer (at the young age of 38) and now I'm getting a decent enough pension and disability benefits that I don't need to work anymore. I can be officially retired if I want.

Now, I hate the weekends because they're so busy. Every time I go out to run errands or do something fun, everywhere I go is packed with people enjoying their weekends. If I want a nice, quiet day to myself, I go out on weekdays now, while everyone else is at work. I can focus on whatever my goals are for the day and I'm not stuck dealing with crowds. Also, businesses are more likely to be open on weekdays, so I have better luck accomplishing any projects I'm working on during the weekdays. It seems, every time I need to call a business for something, it's on a Saturday or Sunday and they're closed.

It's funny how being retired makes weekends the worst time of the week to be productive.

Nope I love them. They're the only moment in the week where I really have a sufficient level of energy to properly enjoy some of my hobbies. On weekdays I'm always a bit too drained to really properly enjoy the more mentally or physically intensive hobbies

Yes! Especially since I've been under/unemployed for the past 2 years weekends are killers! If I had a job I'd be able to spend money on going out and dating (gas is super-expensive if even groceries are outside your budget). But I basically just have to sit on my hands and wait until Monday when I can continue the job search in hopes of some income.

I found DBT tremendously helpful for learning how to navigate unstructured territory without becoming agitated by it. I have noticed my frustration tends to build up because I resist feeling uncomfortable, not because I am actually just uncomfortable. It’s counterintuitive and takes practice but it’s been eye opening how much something as deceptively simple as “accept discomfort” actually helps.

Maybe try doing chores at the weekend like cooking a big meal you can divide up and freeze to save time with an easy meal during the work week.