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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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Did your gender preferences change as you got older? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I love regardless of gender. Some people swoon over men, some over women. I'd swoon over anyone.

I was straight until my first girl crush in high school. For a while, I was bi with a heavy preference for men.

Now, don't get me wrong, I still like men, but as I got older, I like them less and had bad luck with them (primarily regarding sex or emotional unavailability or even cheating). While not all men are this way, it still changed my perception of them in dating.

I'm happy with my current GF as of now.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago

yes. i used to be a typical straight girl, but at an early age, i realized i didn’t care what the gender was. i heavily preferred men but wouldn’t mind dating a girl (bi-curious).

my first girlfriend was in middle school (6th grade) and after that, i liked a lot more girls than guys.

i still had male crushes though and was quite open to dating men. (bi)

when i transitioned to a man, i was still bi, but later began to prefer men again. (especially because i had bad breakups with women where they would cheat/ignore me/treat me badly)

i identified as gay until i got back with my gf and realized i still held feelings for women. subsequently, i detransitioned (due to some trauma/transphobia) and questioned being a lesbian.

after i officially broke up with my bf of a few years who didn’t treat me right, i realized i didn’t actually have feelings for men at all and it was comphet.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Yep. Comphet made me think I liked men. Once I dated some, I decided I'm not even into them and it was comphet all along.

Now I'm a lesbian who happens to be OP's girlfriend (check our bios).

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

Yep, I always fell in love with bad girls. I met a really sweet guy, and ended up marrying each other after years of dating. :)

It was a fairly big U-turn for me, haha. I love that guy to pieces!

[–] Klnsfw 3 points 2 weeks ago

It's hard to say, because for a very long time I lacked the representations and words to understand that I was bi (and probably demiromantic).

It's tempting to blame comphet for suppressing feelings I might have had when I was younger. Maybe that's rewriting history.

And besides, my preferences don't totally work the same way romantically and sexually.