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i wish we could disable inbox replies on here

Lurker here, wanted to chime in to say yeah, all the time. Everything's usually been said or will be said, so why bother. And arguing with strangers online rarely amounts to anything constructive. It seems a lot of people just aren't open to change or have their opinion/biases changed or challenged, though I'm hoping I'm wrong!

Maybe 30% of the time.

Not worth the stress. I mostly only post now if my comment is helpful (like someone is asking a question and I know the answer) or I'm posting something positive. I learned not to get into it with folks. I do not post in political or news or opinionated areas, and mostly stopped reading them. Someone always has the opposite opinion, and instead of being kind about it, they snipe and snark (you're lucky if you get just that!)

And then there's those times when you wrote a reply that you realize kinda sucks or has an error and the person replies before you can fix/delete it!

Almost always lately, I don't even fini

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I find it more common to do this for replies to my comments. I'm far more likely to post a first comment in a thread, but if someone has some disagreeing reply, the odds I'll say "fuck it, I don't care" is a lot, lot higher.

Very often, especially cause I don't want to stir shirt with my controversial takes, and can't be bothered to follow on lengthy arguments.

Most of the time while I'm writing a reply or comment it I think about how it benefits the user I'm responding to/what reponses I will get and how to minimize any confusion. Once those thoughts have entered my mind, I rarely click the button to post it.

Sometimes

I just don’t check replies to everything I write. I’m not trying to go back and forth for days. But ya, I delete quite a few drafts.

I almost always post the reply. But, if it's "not worth it" I just put in very, very low effort. Keep responding, but make it clear you're putting in very little effort. Like letting a boxer punch themselves out. Just laugh at how they keep going. It's pretty entertaining sometimes.

I do it constantly on Lemmy and constantly in my inner voice throughout the day.

I find I start replies only to eventually abandon them as "just not worth it" more and more nowadays.

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Maybe 1-2 times a day I start a comment, I average a comment a week.

You did this just for funny replies, didn't you?

8/10 replies

Way more if I'm on my phone and it's a bad autocorrect day.

About 25% of the time I will start writing a comment only to find that I don’t think my argument is compelling enough, or otherwise is not something I feel makes a good point.

Not often enough.

At least once a day.

Not this time.

About 1% of the time

A lot. I’m self-aware enough to know that I have a huge hangup about “correctness” and “accuracy”. If someone makes claims, I want to see their evidence and I want to know how their evidence supports their claim. Unfortunately, with some people, they don’t understand what evidence is, they don’t care if other evidence disproves what they’re saying, and nothing I ask or say will suddenly cause them to respond in good faith. In those cases, but not all, I just drop it and delete my comments. It happens all the time and it’s always worth it.

I don't know, it's not worth it to count.

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Pretty much all the time, I'll write out really long diatribes, clearly explaining my position, backed up with research, and then

like 60% of time, sometimes because I think 'Maybe I'm wrong' sometimes because I think 'If I start an argument I'll have to reply or else It's gonna be a lame start by me', so If I reply I must reply, and I'm lazy so I end up thinking I better keep my word to myself.

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Probably 80% of the time

I should do it much more often