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What do you usually do when two of your friends get into a feud with each other and force you to choose between them? (lemm.ee)

submitted 3 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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A common occurrence for some of us, it's the biggest means of my relations becoming complicated.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That has never happened to me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Lucky.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

prolly why i dont have any friends

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I'll be your friend.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Happened to me once when two of my friends started dating and then had a nasty breakup. Thankfully they didn't involve me in it, worst that happened was one of them did complain about the other to me but it didn't devolve into full on shittalking thankfully, and I just told them point blank I'm still friends with their ex and while their frustrations are valid, I'm not comfortable with them venting to me. We're all adults so that's where it ended and I'm still friends with both! I don't think they ever made up but I also don't feel it's my place to ask lol it's been years at this point so it's just water under the bridge

If this keeps happening to you I'm afraid you need better friends. Unless the reason they're fighting is due to something serious (assault, robbery, discrimination, etc.) there's no reason they should involve you. I know it can be hard to be harsh with people you care about, but sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is to tell them to grow up lol, sometimes people need to watch all their bridges burn before they realise they're the one that needs to change

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

You side with the one you agree with.