Im not a first gen immigrant, but I was by far the most computer and technically competent person in my family, and extended family, for a long time.

I was just expected to fix and solve everyone's idiot based problems.

And then one day it dawned on me that these people were calling me mid work, while out on dates, to do tech support for them, and that it I didn't respond within 24 hours, they'd instead yell at me about how expensive it was for them to take their computer in to a repair shop.

... Why am I doing hundreds of hours of unpaid labor a year, and being treated like I am on call for an unpaid internship, for nearly 20 years?

Stopped responding to their IT support demands, within 3-6 months they thought I was having some kind of depressive episode, ended up just fucking ghosting them and moving to another state after a whole bunch of other dumb bullshit a bunch of them did.

... Never had better baseline mental health since I've abandoned my criminal idiot clown family.

Anyway, thats all a traumadump attempt at commiserating, I think I feel/felt a similar pain as you.

How do you owe her for something she decided to do? You had no say in the matter.

she gave birth to me, so I “owe” her this

That sounds like a contract. you didn't make a contract. That's a con :)

It's actually backward, it should be that she was so good to you over the years that you "WANT" to help her with all of this.

P.S. she WILL blame for for the IRS audit.

That's the plot of Everything Everywhere All At Once