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Morning from Canada! We’ve been married for 12 years now. I’m 31.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Who is more chill between the both of you?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

Definitely him.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Was there something in particular that made you "just know," or did it still require a bunch of things that clicked (and if so, how did you cover all them so quickly)?

Also, did you marry immediately upon deciding to, or did you two decide to tie the knot even earlier than two weeks?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

We had crazy chemistry and the sex was fire. We wanted to be together 24/7 from basically the first day. We quite literally woke up that morning and I said let’s get married. He said fuck yeah let’s do it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Was there anything about him that was just annoying enough to give you pause - even for just a moment - about marrying him?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Honestly, no.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Are one or both of your families wealthy?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How'd you meet?
His age?
Reactions from friends & fam, each side?

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

We met at the gym. 24 then, 36 now*. My friends and family thought I’d gone insane. His were just like, whatever, cool and happy for you, I guess.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

~~Ummm... Your OP said you're 31 now, which would've made you 19 - and barely legal - at the time of marriage.~~

EDIT I missed the question about husband's age somehow, sorry for the confusion. Congrats of finding "the one" so fast - kinda jealous.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, I was 19 at the time.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

~~So did the 24-36 in your reply above refer to your husband?~~

EDIT nevermind, I see that was the question you were answering which I somehow missed. Sorry. Honestly wasn't trying to judge - actually pretty jealous you found "the one" that quickly.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes, the person asked: “his age”.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Yeah, I edited my comment the same time you were replying. Missed it. Thanks for letting me know, tho.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How'd you meet?
His age?
Reactions from friends & fam, each side?

That’s the comment they were replying to.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Yeah, I edited my comment the same time you were replying. Thanks for pointing it out, tho.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago
[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

how do you deal with stress?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Are you the same age, if not how many years separate the two of you?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Do you remember what Lisa Maffia told you in 2003?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

Asking the real question

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

If you and your husband were running from a bear, who would get away and would there be any tripping involved?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

He would, cause he’s stronger and faster than me. He wouldn’t trip. I probably would.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm not so sure they meant the "falling" variety of "tripping"... 🤪

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What's your best/favorite "not easy to make" meal?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Do you like putting mushrooms in your Beef Wellington?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes. Portobello, shiitake, button.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

Did you recently invite your relatives to have some and send your kids to the movies?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

Wow, Dude lucked out!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

What was your state of mind then and now, more of?:

  1. "we are certain we'll love each other until death do us apart"
  2. "maybe this is crazy, and we'll divorce in the future, but no need to think about it now, let's live our love as intensively as possible while we can"
  3. Other:
[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My mindset was basically: I just wanna do this with you, now. It feels right. There really wasn’t much thinking involved. “You only regret the things you didn’t do!” was my philosophy back then. In hindsight I was just a bit psycho to be honest.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Since you said he's so chill, sounds like he was a good match to balance you out. Congrats!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What type of ceremony did you have?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (2 children)

We walked into city hall, got the marriage licence in 30 min, found an officiant available that same day, called 2 of my husband’s friends over as witnesses, did a quick civil ceremony, and done.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I love it. It's what I'd love to do as well.

So many of my friends lost a lot of money doing an event they hated setting up and couldn't wait to be over. (although if big weddings are your thing then that's fine too)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

Yeah, we never had any sort of fancy formal wedding. Didn’t feel the need to.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

I woke up in that mood that morning.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Do you like visiting the US?

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How often do both of your families pester you about when you're having kids? 😁

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

They don’t cause we have 2 already. Our first was born in 2014 - we met and go married the previous year… second one in 2016. It was quite fast forward…

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Do you have a go to tim hortons' order?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Iced Strawberry Watermelon Quencher with vanilla syrup and cold foam on top (light ice if possible), Croissant breakfast sandwich with bacon and egg, Strawberry dip donut or vanilla cream-filled (whichever looks cuter lol), and a 5-pack of Timbits with birthday cake, strawberry, and glazed if they have them!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Yeeeeezs you know what you want