I just flunked out of what I thought was going to be my career (physics) I'm not sure if this is the correct term but I failed at my bachelor's? I'm thinking of doing an engineering degree instead.
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You failed at doing what you weren't meant to do. You succeeded in moving in the right direction. You got this
Thanks my friend, not gonna lie I actually cried, I thought I had it I studied hard for the final exam but it still wasn't enough. Whatever it is I enter next I'll make sure to change my studying habits.
No worries! And good luck
In future you may look back and see this as an important turning point in your life that you’d never want to change.
I switched out from my original degree and went into an entirely different field and if it wasn’t for that I wouldn’t have anything like the life I’ve got now.
I was on the same boat, man. I was doing really well in HS, always thought I was going to be a scientist, etc... college years hit me hard, not only in the materials difficulty and studying habits, but also had a nasty incident which gave me PTSD on top of that.
Long story short, I also dropped out of Physics after years of trying and pretending I could. I couldn't. I also cried. First to myself and then others.
After that... it took many years but I eventually got back to college for that degree in Comp Sci. I am already working as a programmer, so it helps me focus in my path to follow.
If you're following up with an engineering degree, that's actually a solid choice. A lot of scientists are engineers too, both are STEM so there's a lot of compatible subjects if you're still eyeing on the physics path. You could get a bachelor's in engineering and then a masters in physics or astronomy, for example, or simply follow where your heart or money is.
Don't pressure yourself too much on dropping out. Yes, it's a failure and it will serve well to retrace the steps and identify what made us fail, but it's never the person themselves. You made a mistake, but you are not the mistake or the failure. That means you can and will be better.
Sorry for the long rant. Hope you get better man.
Thanks for the kind words stranger, your story rings so many bells to me too, I basically cried internally once I knew it was all over and then to my family, I am thankful that I have a lot of support at home so I was able to process it in peace.
I have been placing a lot of pressure on myself for this but it's in the past all I can do is learn from it and do better which is what I am planning to do.
I hope you find a lot of success in your life my friend! Thank you for your words.
A bit better than usual lately, which is nice. Getting some PR photos today to finally get my IDs updated since my name change certificate arrived! I will finally be rid of my dead name!
Also started working on my first leather working project this week. While it's rough and I'm missing a couple of tools to finish it well, I'm happy to be learning a new skill.
All in all, a good week, which is a nice change of pace.
Had to put down a 21 year old cat, spent $1700 at the mechanic on my car, and a power surge killed my elliptical's electronics. I've had better weeks.
Sorry about all that, I feel you. I had to put down my 20 year old cat a couple weeks ago and learned my dad has cancer the day before that. This week I spent a ton of money to update our home electricals and then just learned the washer is now broken. Stay strong and hang in there and we'll get through all this!
One day at a time. I've got good games and people who love me, I'll be fine.
I had a cat that lived to be 21, too. My sympathies; I remember how hard it was to lose him.
Whenever one of my cats has died, I always end up thinking of a passage from May Sarton's The Fur Person:
"They did not love him for his glossy tiger coat, nor his white shirt front and white paws, nor his great green eyes, no, not even for the white tip to his tail. They loved him because he was himself."
Overall good but the nice weather is tanking my work motivation.. I'd rather be outside in the woods than in front of a computer tbh, but what can you do?
Keeping up with Lemmy/Beehaw is fun! I'm definitely posting more frequently than I ever did on reddit tbh.
I can relate to that, there is an entrance to a small patch of woodland that I can see from my office window. I often wish I could just leave and go for a stroll through it when the weather is good.
I kind of want to bring my computer out there and work from the woods :)
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I admit I haven't spent as much time in the woods in my life so far as I would've liked, but I've heard it's really good for the human psyche to spend time deep in nature.
Definitely couldn't agree more - Beehaw is so much more friendly and engaging than Reddit ever was for me. I don't know which aspect of the platform does it most for me, but I feel way more inclined to comment and post when I can trust that I'm not going to get ripped to shreds in the replies.
Give it a shot if you've got any forests close by, it really is nice!
Yeah, focusing on a small(ish) population of people who actually agreed to be nice to each other helps a bunch too!
I just started painting and drawing again and couldn't be happier with it - I use it to meditate after a long day at work and usually just before heading off to bed! Hope you all are doing great!
Pretty good!
I dusted off my Beehaw account from when I left Twitter and I'm having lots of fun talking to you all in comparison to a lot of sites. I installed Linux and I'm enjoying playing with all the neat new software. Currently tinkering with templates in Zim Wiki while I wait for my potatoes to cook. I also got introduced to a few low-end games I never would've known about normally and I definitely plan on trying some out.
I was wondering if the site was being buggy haha. Saw that my comments took a while to post and had to refresh.
Yeah, some of my upvotes (is that what they're called here?) aren't registering and I'm having to click multiple times to get it to stick. I think it's just the huge increase in load from Reddit going dark. Things should smooth out over the next week or two. So far I'm loving the smaller community, I've only seen one terrible troll and it was actually OP here that already banned them in another thread. They came from another instance.
I got my laptop back from the repair shop. They said I really needed to replace the internal keyboard and touchpad components, but I just disabled them and stuck on an external keyboard and mouse.
Then I played Sims 4 for about four hours. Fun!
Not fantastic tbh. Ran into a rather jarring trigger of my biggest phobia at work today and am still feeling a bit shaky. Hopefully will be a bit more stable for the rest of the day.
Little stressed out. Pregnant wife just tested positive for COVID, I'm in the clear so far and my daughter seems to be, too. Gotta head to the store to get some more tests though, but we're pretty strapped for cash until tomorrow. I've been in the dumps lately but actually today I'm feeling pretty good all things considered. Weird how that goes!
Super stressed out, honestly. It sucks a lot, because dad & I took my offspring to a cabin trip & all I can think about is my current situation. I don't wanna go too deep into it, but I'm having trouble with my place of care. Not sure about the correct terminology in English, but basically, I've filed a complaint & am awaiting their response.
That said, I've been enjoying Beehaw a lot & I'd like to wish everyone a wonderful rest of the week!
Not great. Struggling a lot with my mental health. Trying my best to get through this.
It stinks to hear you’re struggling friend. But it’s good to hear you’re trying your best to make it through. ❤️🍁
❤️thanks
got a lot going on, an important job interview, studying, trying to help a friend going through a tough time.
Things are good! Workload got lightened a lot so I have time to catch up of stuff around the house and work on some projects I've had on hold. The weather's also getting to the point I like here. I live for rainy afternoons.
Just getting started, but I'll be starting my holiday in Lanzarote on Sunday. I'm looking forwards to it of course!
I know that I did a good job of things this week more than I feel I did a good job of things this week, if that makes sense 😅 I can always envision more getting done better than I've done it, but given my abilities and level of support I did very well. I'm recovering from work and looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow
Oh it's going great ! Finally getting some quiet weather that allows me to go offshore, i work on wind farms. It's nice to get out of the office, it's too toxic and political there, i like working out in field with the technicians waaaay more. Oh and the sunsets on a blue sky day, nothing beats it.
Man, your job sounds awesome. Have a nice time out on the water!
Thanks dude and how is your week going, i hope it's awesome ?
Here is a picture of my trup home tonight, it was a lovely sunset.
My week is good so far, thanks for asking. I hope you have an awesome week, too!
I love your picture! I haven't been to the sea in years, and I miss it.
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I've had a stomach bug (i think) all week so it could be better.
good luck with the site and thanks for your work!
personally just wish I could actually breathe through my nose again but otherwise pretty good tbqh
Been suuuuuper busy with a move. The worst of it should be done today, though.
Going good! Started putting together a little digital garden to keep some of my favorite saved posts from reddit before deleting my account.
This digital garden is intriguing. Is that essay your own or are you just sharing the concept. It looks super interesting.
Not my essay! It's just the best summary I've seen so far. My garden is still under construction, but I might share it here when it's done.
Edit: if you're interested in the specifics of how to make one easily, I'm using Obsidian, a great free notetaking app with a paid Publish feature (there's a student discount on Publish too, so that's a plus). There are some guides on making one there, like this one.
Okay that's cool.
Hmm I'm using Logseq already as I wanted something open source. I'll read into this when I have some more time as I'm already in the habit of collecting lots of links and resources.
Super happy I stumbled on this.
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I'm so exhausted from last week, just finally recovering from a sickness that felt endless. But I'm starting off this week with a lot of 'spring cleaning,' and I'm going to treat myself later to a nice meal if all goes well. Really enjoying the switch from Dendron to Logseq for my personal knowledge management system.
Hang in there! Y'all have done a great job with the site so far, and hopefully everything will calm down soon. 💛
I've had an observation that it seems like there are two groups of redditfugee here in the threadiverse. One group is excited to have a stronger sense of the kind of “intolerant of intolerance” moderation some instances have and another group who's excited about the Fediverse to be a lot like Reddit without all the pesky moderation.
@alyaza Just getting started of course, but going alright so far. Been busy trying to make sense of some programming, to try to bend it to my own application. I’m not really a developer, but hopefully I’ll figure this bit out.
Hope all is going well with Beehaw
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