Because it's easier than admitting it
this post was submitted on 19 Nov 2023
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There's also the possibility of competing interests. There's no "wrong" answer, but people will argue certain facts to persuade others to take their position. This is called "politics."
Because I'm not! I'm not I'm not I'm not!
More seriously, we tend to make it a Great Big Thing when people are wrong. If we acknowledge it and move on, and let them do the same, I'm sure admitting when we're wrong would be much less painful.
Even though I believe I’m right, there’s always a possibility of being wrong. Learning to live with this realization hasn’t been easy since I really like being right and hate being wrong. I suppose lots of other people feel the same way.
No matter how hard I try, I am still wrong about a bunch of stuff, so it’s good to come to terms with this reality of life. Accepting it is easier than trying to fight against the inevitable. Once you realize you’re wrong, acknowledge your mistake, fix it, and move on.
In my experience, with most people, his typically goes away as they get older. You eventually hit a point where people's impressions of you dont matter anymore and it becomes much easier to freely admit you're wrong.
Of course, there are people that never grow out of it, and that is often read as confidence. There is a reason that "fake it until you make it" works.
I am 18 currently and I have pretty much stopped caring about what others think of me. It just feels as if wasting any more energy speaking to them would be useless. But when I don't defend myself people start verbally abusing me etc. I just don't know what to do in situations like these
what to do ... people start verbally abusing me
When I was 18, I started hangin out with a different crowd. ADULTS (of any age). If I was wrong, they'd explain why nicely. And vice versa. Learned a lot.
Sometimes an idea is so engraved in their heads that they cannot believe otherwise. Also, some people don't like to fact-check. They may hear a "fact" which is popular but is totally false, and they will never change their minds about it.
Because most people have their own idea of what is morally right in the world, and they want to cling onto that regardless of what other perspectives may exist. Both sides do this.
Also, in some cases, speaking the truth about something leads to them losing their jobs or livelihoods.
“It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends on his not understanding it.” - Upton Sinclair
I suppose the positions you are describing are not reached by reasoning, rather by being part of a group, religion or ideology. In those cases it’s quite clear that they can’t give up the position unless they weaken their ties to that group/religion/ideology, or abandon it entirely.
Some times in their life people are open to big changes, but most of the time not.