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[–] [email protected] 49 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hey, from an extroverted person, your friends don't think you're a bad friend, they know you find social stuff exhausting, they don't begrudge you, they're just happy to hear from you because they like you.

It's okay, do what you need to do. And, hey, sometimes I forget to reply and get back to it weeks later, too.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What about my parents, though?

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

No idea, I never get back to your parents either.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I got you both on this one. Their parents are delightful. They told me to tell you that they'll take whatever they can get and love you regardless.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Your parents also like me.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

Well, at least OP's mom does. 😉

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Speak for yourself, if someone ghosts me like that twice, I'm quite done with them. I am an introvert and I take the time at least once a day to reply to all messages from people I care about. Which's like 3.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago (2 children)

This has nothing to do with introversion. This is social anxiety.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Eh, I'm an introvert who isn't overly socially anxious, and I'll often ignore texts for a bit if I'm really not feeling up to doing whatever it is at the moment. But I usually get to it the next day or the one after. I don't like talking to people, but I don't feel very apprehensive about it either, I just find it draining and prefer to avoid it.

Usually I'll just say, "today isn't great for me, I'll get back to you." Then actually get back when I'm more interested in social interaction. I don't feel awkward about forgetting for a couple days, certainly not to the point of ghosting someone for weeks.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Or a lack of social understanding.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

yup.

i'll often ask them to call me later or next week or whatever. so i don't have to try to remember. because i probably won't.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

Me too

Just be like "hey call me later i'm "busy" rn"

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's not introversion, that's procrastination.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

procrastination is the tool, introversion is the root cause

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No, because I don't have anymore friends because of exactly this. Self-solving problem on a long enough timescale.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm getting old and sometimes, only sometimes, i think i created other problems this way. I mean, when i get really, really old, it will be pretty lonesome and if i fall in the kitchen and need help, who you gonna call?

Sure, i would call the emergency, AFTER the not existing friend came by and took care of any weed lying around. Just in case.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

If you make it that old it will be more likely that all your friends died from old age anyway

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

this is depression not introvertion

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

It is both \o/

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think I have unanswered texts from like 8 years ago.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

When you don't want to be awkward so you just assume your not friends unless they reach out again.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Actually, i have no problems with texting. It's the meeting in person that i find tiring

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Yeah. Feel this one hard but because of ADHD.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

Same, but only with replying to English speaking peoples. It’s exhausting to find correct words, look if some words weren’t skipped, make sure message doesn’t sound weird. When it comes to native language, I reply quite fast

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

This just reminded me I didn't reply to a message so did some damage control now. Thanks!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

when my social lights are out they turn them on again

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

ahem… horrible son. Hi mom!