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[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

All of my good long term relationships came from times when I encountered someone adjacent to my other interests.

Well yeah, "putting yourself out there" doesn't mean doing things you hate, it means doing things you like that involve other people, but forcing yourself to try doing them with unfamiliar people. If you like board games or whatever, look for a local group at the library or something. But you're not going to meet new people to play with if you just sit at home.

Don't go to a dance club if you hate dancing, but that doesn't mean you should just stay home.

I actually need someone that I can talk to openly and constructively across all of my interests

I don't think you'll ever find someone who matches you on all your interests, but hopefully you find someone who is willing to listen to you ramble on about them, and support you pursuing them. They'll have their own interests as well and expect the same from you.

My wife and I are both fairly introverted, and we met at a school dance that neither of us really wanted to attend. We awkwardly exchanged numbers, then texted for a bit before our first date, which was playing video games at my place. She beat me at a fighting game, and that's how I knew it'd have a chance at working out. Nothing is perfect, but we have enough overlap to have something to talk about, along with separate interests. We both like video games, but she prefers team games (MMOs, games like REPO, etc), while I like SP games. She likes to paint and read romantic manga, I'm more into sci fi and fantasy novels. We both like movies and road trips, and we have a similar sense of humor.

I sincerely believe you need just a bit of overlap to share common ground, with enough differences to keep things interesting.

I’m now content with being alone.

I hope you can find more than contentment. If not romance, at least a trusting friendship. Maybe you have that, idk, or maybe you're happier than you're letting on, my point is that I believe everyone deserves to be happy, but that often requires a bit of discomfort to "put yourself out there" and make it possible to find fulfilling companionship.

Everyone is different of course, I just feel bad when I see someone blaming everyone else for their loneliness. That doesn't seem to be the case for you, I'm more referring to the OP here (and honestly, most of my comment here is in that context).

Anyway, finding a good fit is really hard, especially as you get older, since there are naturally fewer people available and everyone seems to be busy. Anyway, good luck with whatever fulfills you, and I hope something you or I wrote here helps someone.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

Really? I haven't tried that since they revamped the sharing thing. I have three accounts, one for me, my wife, and one my kids share, and they're all linked. Most of the time my kids use my account, but I can easily change that if it'll allow simultaneous play (on different games).

Thanks for the tip, I'll try it out!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 hours ago

Cool, the app that doesn't exist on my phone will access an account I don't have. I've never used WhatsApp and I don't plan to start now.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 hours ago

Yeah, and it's presumptious of them to access the WhatsApp account I don't have...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Right, and it depends on what "quite off target" means. Are we talking about greens becoming purples? Or dark greens becoming bright greens? If the image is still mostly recognizable, just with poor saturation or contrast or whatever, I think it's acceptable for older software.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

Oh sure, I just read it as validating self-destructive habits of "incels," where they look for reasons to "justify" their victimhood. They jump to insane extremes, like saying, "I have to completely change everything about myself to get a GF/BF," but honestly all it really takes is a little bit of confidence (going to meetups you're interested in helps), practicing reasonable hygiene, and making yourself available.

No one deserves to partner with someone that later never showers and never leaves the house after they remove the mask of their true self.

Sure, but on the flip-side, finding someone you really care about does a lot to motivate you to change your habits to make sure they are comfortable being around you. The first step is finding someone you're compatible with, and that is unlikely to happen without making an effort.

Don’t tell people to conform to combat loneliness

Right, and that's not what I'm saying. Instead, I'm saying if you want a thing, there are certain expectations to get it. If you don't want companionship, that's totally fine. But if you do and you're not getting it, there are certain things you need to do to improve your chances, and whining about it online while locking yourself up in your home isn't it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

it would work

And that's probably enough. I don't know enough about HDR to know if it would look anything like the artist imagined, but as long as it's close enough, it's fine if it's not optimal. Having things completely break is far less than ideal.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

The US and Ukraine are in very different positions...

[–] [email protected] 18 points 16 hours ago

Yup, it's probably in reverse order.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 16 hours ago

It's still okay in certain cess pools on the internet.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago

That sounds awesome!

I chose a bit of a different life path with different rewards and caveats. I'm glad you found something that brings you joy. :)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago

Exactly. I have something like 10-20 "complete" games because they either give 100% completion for rolling credits or I really enjoyed the game and ended up completing the achievements anyway. Of the rest, I've probably rolled credits on 80% of my "played" games, because sometimes I just lose interest before I reach the end, while still enjoying my time w/ it.

Games should be fun, and if they stop being fun, move on.

 

I didn't notice this until the other post about them potentially deprecating YaST (at least putting in on maintenance mode). I figured we could use a thread to discuss other changes coming in Leap 16.

 

Current setup:

  • one giant docker compose file
  • Caddy TLS trunking
  • only exposed port is Caddy

I've been trying out podman, and I got a new service running (seafile), and I did it via podman generate kube so I can run it w/ podman kube play. My understanding is that the "podman way" is to use quadlets, which means container, network, etc files managed by systemd, so I tried out podlet podman kube play to generate a systemd-compatible file, but it just spat out a .kube file.

Since I'm just starting out, it wouldn't be a ton of work to convert to separate unit files, or I can continue with the .kube file way. I'm just not sure which to do.

At the end of this process, here's what I'd like in the end:

  • Caddy is the only exposed port - could block w/ firewall, but it would be nice if they worked over a hidden network
  • each service works as its own unit, so I can reuse ports and whatnot - I may move services across devices eventually, and I'd rather not have to remember custom ports and instead use host names
  • automatically update images - shouldn't change the tag, just grab the latest from that tag

Is there a good reason to prefer .kube over .container et al or vice versa? Which is the "preferred" way to do this? Both are documented on the same "quadlet" doc page, which just describes the acceptable formats. I don't think I want kubernetes anytime soon, so the only reason I went that way is because it looked similar to compose.yml and I saw a guide for it, but I'm willing to put in some work to port from that if needed (and the docs for the kube yaml file kinda sucks). I just want a way to ship around a few files so moving a service to a new device is easy. I'll only really have like 3-4 devices (NAS, VPS, and maybe an RPi or two), and I currently only have one (NAS).

Also, is there a customary place to stick stuff like config files? I'm currently using my user's home directory, but that's not great long-term. I'll rarely need to touch these, so I guess I could stick them on my NAS mount (currently /srv/nas/) next to the data (/srv/nas//). But if there's a standard place to stick this, I'd prefer to do that.

Anyway, just looking for an opinionated workflow to follow here. I could keep going with the kube yaml file route, or I could switch to the .container route, I don't mind either way since I'm still early in the process. I'm currently thinking of porting to the .container method to try it out, but I don't know if that's the "right" way or if ".kube` with a yaml config is the "right" way.

 

Apparently US bandwidth was reduced to 1TB for their base plan, though they have 20TB for the same plan in Europe. I don't use much bandwidth right now, but I could need more in the future depending on how I do backups and whatnot.

So I'm shopping around in case I need to make a switch. Here's what I use it for:

  • VPN to get around CGNAT - so all traffic for my internal services goes through it
  • HAProxy - forwards traffic to my various services
  • small test servers - very low requirements, basically just STUN servers
  • low traffic blog

Hard requirements:

  • custom ISO, or at least openSUSE support
  • inexpensive - shooting for ~$5/month, I don't need much
  • decent bandwidth (bare minimum 50mbps, ideally 1gbps+), with high-ish caps - I won't use much data most of the time (handful of GB), but occasionally might use 2-5TB

Nice to have:

  • unmetered/generous bandwidth - would like to run a Tor relay
  • inexpensive storage - need to put my offsite backups somewhere
  • API - I'm a nerd and like automating things :)
  • location near me - I'm in the US, so anywhere in NA works

Not needed:

  • fast processors
  • lots of RAM
  • loose policies around torrenting and processing (no crypto or piracy here)
  • support features, recipes, etc - I can figure stuff out on my own

I'll probably stick with Hetzner for now because:

  • pricing is still fair (transfer is in line with competitors)
  • can probably move my server to Germany w/o major issues for more bandwidth
  • they hit all of the other requirements, nice to haves, and many unneeded features

Anyway, thoughts? The bandwidth change pisses me off, so let me know if there's a better alternative.

 

I thought this was an interesting video and I think it does a good job explaining at least part of why Trump won. Here's the original paper if you're interested.

I think the economy was a major factor in deciding this election, but obviously there are a lot of other factors to consider, such as the DNC not having a primary, Biden having a poor approval rating, and concerns around China and Russia, among a host of others. However, this seems to do a fantastic job explaining the results as well.

What do you think? Do you think public perception of the economy and political party influence on the economy was a significant factor in this election? Do you think that indicates a decent likelihood of either an economic correction or at least reduced returns at some point in Trump's presidency?

 

Here's what I currently have:

  • Ryzen 1700 w/ 16GB RAM
  • GTX 750 ti
  • 1x SATA SSD - 120GB, currently use <50GB
  • 2x 8TB SATA HDD
  • runs openSUSE Leap, considering switch to microOS

And main services I run (total disk usage for OS+services - data is :

  • NextCloud - possibly switch to ownCloud infinite scale
  • Jellyfin - transcoding is nice to have, but not required
  • samba
  • various small services (Unifi Controller, vaultwarden, etc)

And services I plan to run:

  • CI/CD for Rust projects - infrequent builds
  • HomeAssistant
  • maybe speech to text? I'm looking to build an Alexa replacement
  • Minecraft server - small scale, only like 2-3 players, very few mods

HW wishlist:

  • 16GB RAM - 8GB may be a little low longer term
  • 4x SATA - may add 2 more HDDs
  • m.2 - replace my SATA SSD; ideally 2x for RAID, but I can do backups; performance isn't the concern here (1x sata + PCIe would work)
  • dual NIC - not required, but would simplify router config for private network; could use USB to Eth dongle, this is just for security cameras and whatnot
  • very small - mini-ITX at the largest; I want to shove this under my bed
  • very quiet
  • very low power - my Ryzen 1700 is overkill, this is mostly for the "quiet" req, but also paying less is nice

I've heard good things about N100 devices, but I haven't seen anything w/ 4x SATA or an accessible PCIe for a SATA adapter.

The closest I've seen is a ZimaBlade, but I'm worried about:

  • performance, especially as a CI server
  • power supply - why couldn't they just do regular USB-C?
  • access to extra USB ports - its hidden in the case

I don't need x86 for anything, ARM would be fine, but I'm having trouble finding anything with >8GB RAM and SATA/PCIe options are a bit... limited.

Anyway, thoughts?

 

This interview mostly goes over social policy, so I hope there's a follow-up with fiscal policy as well.

Here's an AI-generated transcript, which has some mistakes but hopefully is helpful. I tried copying it here, but it was too long.

Some interesting tidbits I liked:

  • Liz challenged Chase on gender affirming care - his response was "no to surgery before 18, yes to medication if parents and doctors agree"
  • open borders - wants an "Ellis Island"-style system where you register and then get to work, while still maintaining a strong police presence to keep out criminals
  • courting those on the right of the LP - wants to work together on common causes, but will disagree on social issues
  • vaccine mandates - no mandates from the government, but private businesses absolutely can; he thinks businesses requiring masks/vaccines is stupid because it limits customers

The whole discussion was pretty interesting, and I think it's interesting that Liz Wolfe came out as more conservative than Zach (apparently, Zach rarely discusses personal opinions).

So far I'm pretty happy with Chase as the candidate because:

  • he's pretty well-spoken - reminds me a bit of Gary Johnson with less "aloof"-ness
  • he appears confident and seems to do a good job justifying his positions on core libertarian principles
  • very different from both Trump and Biden, so he should contrast well
  • going after young voters - he's young, and he's highlighting issues that young people seem to care about, so I'm hopeful that'll resonate with young voters

I certainly disagree with him on some issues, but I think he'll be a good voice for the party. I would like to see more discussion on economic policy though.

Anyway, what are your thoughts? Are you excited for a Chase Oliver campaign, or do you think the Libertarian Party should have made a different choice?

 

Looks like most of the improvements have nothing to do with GNOME, so they should also probably impact Kalpa (the KDE MicroOS distro).

I'm particularly interested in these developments because I'm going to upgrade the CPU on my NAS (old Phenom II -> Ryzen 1700), and I'm considering reinstalling w/ MicroOS. It's currently running on an old SATA SSD, but NVMe drives are getting so cheap that it's probably worth an upgrade.

 

Oliver's victory on Sunday night was a blow to the Mises Caucus, the right-leaning faction that took control of the Libertarian Party at the 2022 convention and that had orchestrated Trump's appearance at the convention. That faction's preferred candidate was Rectenwald.

I'm not a fan of the Mises Caucus, so I think this is hilarious.

There was widespread media attention in recent weeks fixated on whether the Libertarian Party would nominate a prominent non-Libertarian like Kennedy or even Trump.

Neither got anywhere close to winning. Kennedy was eliminated after the first round of balloting, while Trump did not even qualify for the first round and received just six write-in votes.

Good on you LP.

Now, I know next to nothing about Chase Oliver, but being gay and young will certainly set him apart from the old men he's competing against. I hope he'll get a good amount of media attention to spread the libertarian message.

Anyway, what are your thoughts? Did the convention make the right call? Would one of the other candidates have been better? Would you prefer no candidate?

 

From the website:

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Important dates:

  • expected summit date is Nov. 2 and 3 soon after Open Source Summit Japan
  • call for speakers is going to end around the end of July

There will be another announcement in a couple weeks.

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