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On reading the headline, I thought I must be misremembering who the name Connor McGregor referred to but apparently no. Granted, as an American, I'm not one to throw stones.

I mean in the context of a serious setting where it’s not being used as a joke.

I thought kid gloves were for dealing with kids but actually they’re made from the skin of kids.

Also of note, I thought the kids were children.

I’ve seen people using “that’s what she said” in a very serious setting, as a way to say “good point/touché”.

As in there was a literal she who literally said that? Otherwise I can’t understand this.

You really should tell people what you're feeling when there's a disagreement like this. If she wants to grab you things from the store when you're looking forward to going yourself, tell her you're looking forward to it. All you told her at the start was that you were intending to go, not why.

And while you later characterize it as a fight, you actually caved preemptively if this transcript is accurate. You felt this would become a fight and headed that hypothetical fight off but all that actually happened was she was stating her case and you said "okay". She has no reason to view that conversation as a point of tension in need of resolving, no reason to view the request for cat supplies as a peace offering the way that you do.

Lastly, when you don't tell somebody specifics, they don't automatically know whether you feel the specifics are irrelevant or you forgot to mention them or you just assumed they should already know them. These are all plausible scenarios and in the majority of them you have a preference and could be let down if it is not fulfilled. Since you're the sort of person to blow up at somebody for offenses they didn't know they were committing, she's right to be worried about failing you. She wasn't demanding you give her anything, and in situations like that you're always free to tell them there's nothing to give. "No preference what kinds. I don't know what aisle it is, you should ask somebody at the store."

That's all ways to think about these sorts of things in the future. What I suggest for right now is that you go back and relay the same core of this whole thing to her that you relayed to us:

The thing that she wants is to feel good about buying me something. But I don’t want that. That’s the disagreement.

If you lay out in plain terms this disconnect between the kind of considerate you see she's trying to be and the kind of considerate you need people to be, that would probably help her a lot.

He’s never trying to distract from crises, his personality is just naturally like this.

I like a name that can be broken down multiple ways to convey things about tone and relationships dynamics beyond the binary divide of formal name and nickname. Indiana Jones jumps to mind; practically no two people in a movie call him the same thing. He's got two different titles, a given name, a surname, a chosen name, a diminutive of the chosen name, and whatever you call the category "Junior" falls into. And no two of those names or name components have the same mood when you hear them next to each other out of context.

I look at Harrison Bach up there and I'm feeling like, out of this cast, he in particular doesn't really give you that freedom to play. Harrison and Bach are equally easy to say, equally serious sounding, and Harry is like the least informal classical nickname. But it is cute that him and his best friend have rhyming nicknames. Me liking the Harry part of it in particular but in light of your discomfort with his sharing the name of Harry Potter, maybe change his given name to Laurence and nickname to Larry? You preserve the rhyme and now all three of his names have a significant tonal difference from each other.

Terry is great, no notes.

Minthe and Minty sound almost exactly the same as each other, so I don't buy Minty as even being her nickname. Minnie or Thee could work better as diminutives but might I suggest breaking the mold here and giving her a nickname that isn't derived from her name at all? I don't have a suggestion for one, though, not knowing anything about the character that might have inspired a nickname.

Adulphine "Alfie" Mordred. In terms of that Indiana Jones factor, these are the three most sonically different names any of these characters have and I love that for her but you're not wrong about it being kind of a lot. The question isn't really whether it's right to be kind of a lot in a vacuum, though, it's whether it makes sense for this character's name to be kind of a lot diegetically.

This curse she carries, what's the nature of it? Is it because she comes from a family of evil aristocrats? Because I have to assume any Mordred who willingly names their kid Adulphine has to be one, even without those names having associations. Frankly, if I met an Adulphine Mordred in real life, my first thought would be "vampires are real" before I registered what other famous people/characters those names sort of/do belong to. If the curse is supposed to be bad luck that could have happened to anybody and her origins are otherwise unassuming, you gotta go back to the drawing board and give her the most incognito formal name out of the whole crew with only an evil-sounding nickname, and a recently-acquired one at that.

Because they like the other stuff. It’s not exactly a TellTale game we’re talking about.

This isn’t the first RPG AC to have that feature, I’m pretty sure, just the first to label it “canon.” And it’s true there are people out there who are extremely strongly opposed to narrative freedom and obsessed with knowing objective canon, considering it infantilizing to allow players the freedom to influence characterization in dialogue. I cannot fathom what leads anyone to that mindset but I’ve met a few.

They may be a tiny minority but this seems like a harmless and low-effort way to accommodate that handful of weirdos.

(Hilarious that this is happening in a game where the series villains are the people trying to eliminate free will, though.)

At my absolute lowest points of soreness and coughing, nothing beats getting a hot shower going and just sitting cross-legged on the floor of it. Just relax your spine and slump forward and breathe in the steam while hot water pelts your whole back.

Because that’s more effort and most people don’t care.

Mortol stole my puzzle platformer idea and did a better job than I ever would have done with it. I am livid.