I am pro supying Ukraine with weapons, I am pro having a European defense pact, I just don't think USA is doing it for democracy but for own imperialistic reasons.
There's a huge difference between realizing that every bullet the US ships to Ukraine helps weaken a major geopolitical opponent at several thousand times the efficiency of any other method, and claiming that doing so is "escalating the situation".
The situation is one (nuclear) step removed from maximum escalation, and it's been like that since the first Russian stepped into Crimea, and the blame lies entirely with Russia.
The claim that "outside parties are making the war worse" is quite literally propaganda by the party committing the genocide. Sure, every country helping Ukraine benefits from the aid they send, but that doesn't mean it's escalating, except in the sense that the war would be over if Russia had won.
Every country is wrapping their contribution to the downfall of a geopolitical opponent in a nice gift wrap of ethical behaviour, and the fact that Russia sucks doesn't mean the US doesn't suck. But the only party escalating is Russia, and it can only ever be Russia.
Win win!