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Mhmm "trans people can't be parents!" just like "gay people can't be parents!"

Still waiting to learn why that is, or could it be unadulterated bigotry?

Hi, trans woman here!

There are two aspects that affect fertility specifically for trans people:

• hormone treatment (HRT) involves replacing the body's endogenous sex hormones with those of the desired sex.
• "the surgery" or bottom surgery, which in most cases involves removal of the testies or ovaries/uterus, in addition to possible construction of desired genitalia.

The fact is most trans people don't have access to surgery. It's too expensive, or there are other concerns like not receiving support from doctors or therapists. Some people are simply afraid of the risks or undesirable results, which are very real as with any surgery. But it will put a final end to reproductive capacity. For now. Some of us hope one day science and technology will allow eg trans woman to conceive and carry a pregnancy.

HRT is far more accessible, and from a younger age, maybe 16 for puberty-blockers with parental consent in some areas -- but this is the exception. Most trans people can't get HRT until they are 18 and really I would say it's more common later in life. The 20s-30s can be a particularly distressing time (sex characteristics become even more defined) when trans people find motivation and means to medically transition. But this leaves time to have children, I know many trans people who had children before transitioning.

HRT obviously will put an end to reproductive capacity, at least while taking it, and in fact may become permanent. It's not unheard of for trans people to pause hormone therapy in order to attempt conceiving with their partner. Sometimes it works.

A better option would be freezing sperm, or I presume eggs, before starting medical transition. It's an expensive process, and so again not affordable to many trans people regardless of their desire for children.

It should also be stated that regardless of desire for children, quite a few trans people choose to not transition, for social, career, or personal reasons. Children and marriage are a commonly given reason I've seen.

I guess the Vatican and far-right don't know this, or maybe they do and pretend not to understand, although knowledge is something both claim to value. Then again I never considered the Catholic church to be experts on any sexual matters. They are usually centuries behind what science discovers in all fields. It turns out the bible isn't a great reference book for the human endocrine system.

The best option is not only improved access to gender-affirming care (this makes trans folks happier), less discrimination and scapegoating, but also increased education about and funding for preserving fertility. Being trans doesn't have to mean being childless.

No lectures before the third date, everyone knows that. Huge red flag.

Did anyone else not know it's pronounced see-la-kanth? I've been saying it wrong in my head all these years omg.

"Hey am I boring you, you've hardly said anything and your eyes are glazed?"

"Nnggh no baby... I-I'm... really close. P-please... d-don't stop"

Rural America is mostly a wasteland. It's either where people of means deliberately choose to live away from society, or it's people who are too ignorant, poor and/or drug-addled to have much choice. Neither group is going to be left-leaning... and that's why when you look at electoral maps, you see all that red.

Pick a highway, any will do, travel along it and tell me what you see. I already know. One little failed town after another. They might have a dive bar or ancient gas station, but most commercial buildings will be long abandoned. If you need anything, you'll have to find a decent city with a generic walmart, dollar general, mcdonalds, etc. Long gone are the mom-and-pop grocers, general stores, etc.

The irony is these are solid red Republican districts. Cities have major problems too, but they are full of action; plans, projects, hopes of a better future. There is no future for the average rural American.

They are frustrated and angry, as well they should be. Too bad they can't see the forest through the trees.

I feel ya.

I'm lying here alone right now, in my noisy hovel of an apartment, scared shitless, trying to block out the sound and light, to sleep as wave after wave of sorrow washes over me. The pills really aren't working so well lately. Hooray for "the weekend."

For the first time in my life I'm considering substance abuse. The world mostly just disgusts me right now.

Saaaame, happy for you <3

It's a scary world right now but we got this.

Well let's see...

There was John Doe #1. Jane Doe #1. John Doe #2 and #3... Jane Doe #6384 ...

Just another stable genius

I think it's hilarious that people are still using DOS in 2024!

Sim City 2k was the first time I used Windows 95. One of the teachers in my sixth grade class had it on their computer, and they let us take turns playing it. It seemed really amazing to those of us who grew up with more primitive computers, like Apple IIs, even Macs, various x86 clones running DOS, or occasionally Windows 3.1.

My first PC in 1998 even had Sim City 2k "Network Edition" pre-installed. Played the shit outta that game!

Well this is where it's headed. First it will be teachers, parents, doctors, therapists.

Then they'll want to register trans adults as sex offenders. Then all LGBTQ people.

Like so much of the government in the US, the infrastructure is there, ready to be abused. Change one line and it applies to all of us.

Anyone not realize just how awful it would be to get labeled a sex offender? It makes it almost impossible to find a place to live, or a job. People will seek you out and harass you in public. This is an extremely serious classification that shouldn't have anything to do with "culture wars". It should be reserved only for the worst classes of convicted criminals -- if it's not actually cruel and unusual and unnecessarily punative.

All conservatives are bastards