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Always, not just this weekend: Nintendogs + Cats on 3DS. I'm not in a rush to get through everything the game has, and I'm not "good at the game" insofar this is even a criterion for this type of game. I posted a screenshot in a comment to the weekly thread a few weeks ago. Since then, I discovered that you can only have 3000 screenshots on the 3DS's memory card (I made a post about that on [email protected]). 3000 might sound like a high number, but it is really not if you have a lot of near-misses in pressing the capture button. So now I have the interesting secondary task of sorting through all the screenshots that I moved to my desktop. Not really a game, though.

In addition to that, I started a new playthrough of Pokémon Crystal. I'm doing a not-so-hardcore Nuzlocke challenge to make it more interesting for myself. But this is really not about difficulty, this is what I can play in short bursts without having to use my brain all that much (I have other games in my backlog for that, and also other non-game things to do). While I still have my childhood Gameboy Color and game cartridges that I keep for sentimental reasons, I opt to play on an emulator on my Android for convenience.

Stardew Valley, maybe? There is both a Mac OS and a PC version.

Playing video games? I'm over here playing with my pets.

Image description: screenshot from the 3DS game Nintendogs + Cats. The image features a Yorkshire Terrier puppy, a grey tabby kitten, and a calico kitten. The dog is standing on its hind legs, front paws at the camera, wearing a blue collar with a white pattern. The two cats are a little further back, gracefully walking on the wooden floor. There are some furniture items in the background, with sunlight streaming in from a window.

is there maybe a way of thinking about dating preferences without actually dating?

That's an interesting thought. I feel like this question is at the heart of a lot of posts on forums like this, both by self-exploring bisexuals and by their supportive partners. There is not a one-size-fits-all answer. But we can brainstorm some options. Like:

• Explore your tastes through fiction and media. Are you into books, TV shows, movies, video games, podcasts, webcomics, internet memes, fan fiction? Lots of content out there, and lots of recommendation lists in blog posts and forum threads. Obviously, dating in real life doesn't work like in a romantic comedy or a game feature (sadly, you are not guaranteed a date just because you gifted someone your excess vegetables and the cookies you found while dumpster diving), but it still might give you a better idea of what you are looking for in a partner and in a relationship overall. Moreover, it gives you something low stakes to talk about, both to potential partners and to people you are coming out to (more on that below).
• Special shout-out to interactive media like video games. Wanna be a small town farmer who turns the heads of both the socially anxious goth-programmer and the romantic writer with the beach home, then end up with the jock? You can do that. Wanna go on a big adventurous journey, in northern-inspired dragon-land or radioactive wasteland or even in space, while you romance your increasingly realistic-looking companions through dialogue trees? You can do that. Wanna build a nice family home with color-coded furniture where your character and his husband can build a nice life for them and their growing family, at least until someone is trapped in a pool or eaten by a cowplant? You can do that. Whatever you wish, wish fulfillment is right around the corner (at least as long as you have a powerful enough computer or other gaming system, or find a way around that, like streaming). For more examples, the TV Tropes wiki has a page on games (and other media) with same-sex romance options.
• Media created by other people is one thing, but how about you creating something yourself? It doesn't have to be "good" in the sense that it would get a good grade by a teacher, or make money, or be considered high art. Write that short story where nothing really happens. Draw that stick-figure comic. Put that meme together. Daydream. Take the most silly, blatant self-insert premise and run with it. What if Mercutio from "Romeo and Juliet" didn't get killed in the feud between Montagues and Capulets because he left Verona as soon as he realized that wasn't a good environment for him? Well, maybe he would have landed in a new place, unsure where to go and how to progress in life, but maybe then he would have met this wizard/knight/superhero character (the one played by the good-looking actor in the live-action adaptation, of course) and they started a relationship where they epically fought crime and also went on romantic candlelight dinners together? And as Mercutio is a character from a theater play who has been portrayed by many different actors over the centuries, it is totally correct when his boyfriend compliments him for looking like you.
• Find ways to talk about your identity to real people, online or offline, that feel natural to you. Disclaimer, you know your surroundings best, so don't put yourself in an uncomfortable or dangerous situation. Find ways to acknowledge this as a part of yourself in your normal life, where it doesn't have to be a big life-altering coming-out talk or a romantic interaction. "Can you recommend a book with a queer male lead character, preferably something lighthearted, that one could gift to a friend or family member? So nothing overly depressing or creepy. Could also be a graphic novel." - "Hello fellow anonymous forum users, I'm thinking about subscribing to this game streaming service, does it have games with same-sex romance options that I might have overlooked? I know I am interested in games x, y, and z, are these a good fit for streaming to my mobile device? Can't afford more powerful hardware right now. Thanks for your help!" - "Oh, hi, supportive-but-clueless family member back home, yes, I am settling in here, no, I haven't met anyone yet, and actually, I don't want to talk about my anxieties about going or not going to a gay bar right now, anyway, I've explored the local library and bookstore and the people there were nice, and now I'm reading this cute coming-of-age story." - "Product review: the key chain and stickers look very well made and the pride flag colors come out just as great as in the product photos (I have the bi flag and the men loving men flag, specifically). Great purchase, totally recommended!" - "Inquiry: I'd like to commission a digital painting of that wizard-knight-superhero on a romantic date with my OC who looks like [description], can you do that? I obviously pay the going rate, I love the art on your profile!" - "Meme I made, to meme community of choice, press post!" Once you get comfortable with these types of interactions, it might get easier to talk to people you actually want to flirt with.

That's just my ideas, though.

Edits for fixing typos.

Image description: photo of a church building in front of a cloudy sky. The building consists of three towers, built out of light stone with green-ish roofs. It is generally built in baroque style, with exterior decorations like columns and little statues.

Due to the influx of users, Lemmy is experiencing more technical glitches than usual. The software isn't as mature as Mastodon was when people were fleeing Twitter en masse last fall.

An example. In theory, participating in a community on instance A with an account on instance B should work, but right now, some or all of a post's comments might be invisible when loading a post on a different instance. This is a known issue that will be fixed in a future update, hopefully soon. But right now, making a blanket statement that the instance doesn't matter isn't 100% true.

There is the character limit, and then there is the lack of error message. I don't think 20 characters is particularly unreasonable (it's the same Reddit has). But it's confusing that the software doesn't tell me, the user, what the problem is.

Thank you for looking into it!

Also, hi! This is my first post on Lemmy. How nice to be part of this community!