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How do you people function in society? Do you not have to speak to others for your job?
I used to be way more extroverted, but even as my now more introverted self I can still go talk to anyone about anything in person or over the phone. I do not understand how people can function as a member of society without the ability to speak to other people using their voices.
I can talk on the phone - if left with no other choice. And then I need to lie down because it's exhausting as fuck.
Good lord. You go to therapy for that? That is beyond not normal.
It comes up every once in a while in therapy.
In case you're interested: The problem for me is that I can't see the other person's face so I have trouble judging their reactions. Are they mad at me, are they confused by what I said, are they joking around? When in doubt, I tend to default to the worst possibility so I'm constantly on the defense. That's what's exhausting about it. It's a little easier with friends and family because I can of course interpret their voices more easily but I still don't enjoy it. I know it's not "normal" but it's also not something that's going to change anytime soon.
Sucks you're affected badly by this. I think those of us that grew up before texting and IM don't have this problem so badly. It doesn't bother me and I've got serious anxiety issues. I can talk on the phone with bosses, whatever, but sending me a text that says "We need to talk" with no follow-up is such a dick move.
Nothing to do with texting, I'm old. 🤷
Social anxiety is not at all uncommon. Therapy would only really be beneficial if the anxiety was causing problems in a person's life. It could be that the person you replied to may need to lie down after a phone call, and is then fully functional afterward. Unless they're bothered by this process or it somehow impedes upon their day-to-day life, it otherwise would seem like they already have their recovery mechanisms figured out and are doing well for themself. They're playing the hand they were dealt, and they're still in the game.
I work in 911 dispatch, my job is talking to people, and often quite unpleasant people at that.
On my own time, fuck that noise. Live conversation kind of sucks. When it's next based I can walk away from it, think about it, come back write my reply and hit send. Most of the time I can't exactly walk away from a live phone, radio, or in-person conversation and say "hey, good question, I'm gonna go take the dog for a walk while I think about that and get back to you in like 10 minutes" there's an expectation that I'm gonna be there engaged in the conversation and keep everything flowing, and most of the time that sort of urgency just isn't needed. I want to be a part of the conversation, but I don't necessarily have big chunks of my leisure time to set aside to just talking to people, but I can squeeze in a message here or there while I'm doing whatever else I'm doing.
Take this whole exchange for example, I saw your comment, decided I wanted to reply to that, but I had some things I needed to take care of, so I did them, thought about what I was going to say, and wrote it out when I had a few minutes. You're going to see it when it's convenient for you, and maybe write your own reply, which I'll see and reply to when it's convenient for me, and so we'll have a back-and forth conversation that may span a few hours or even days, even though each of us only wrote a couple messages.