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Would you enter a relationship with someone with genital herpes? (sh.itjust.works)

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Edit: Oh geez. I guess I might’ve just gotten worked up on just the stigma. Hell, I wonder if I gave it to her now. I’ve slept around way more than her.

Edit 2: I cut out the whole long story because I’m a bit embarrassed to have overthought it so much and I guess it’s not really relevant. I’ll leave the post up so maybe other anxious people can see the responses.

The spark notes version is: I loved a girl and let her go and when she came back, she and I worried about her having herpes.

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[-] [email protected] 31 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

I would be more concerned with the people who don't disclose it more than the person being responsible about it. Most people who have HSV2 don't know they have it because:

they're asymptomatic
shedding can occur when asymptomatic and they got it from someone who didn't know they had it
most routine std panels do not include herpes, even if sold as a "complete" panel
some blood tests are less accurate for herpes (antibody is more accurate).
Testing is only recommended by drs if symptomatic or if you suspect exposure. But if you are not symptomatic then some drs view this as a ethical dilemma due to the psychological and emotional harm a false positive can cause for a lifelong and incurable disease

This article is worth a read if you haven't already.

Anyway, to answer your question, yes, i would(and am in one). I don't want to tell you how to feel but for me it's not a big deal.

this post was submitted on 20 Jul 2025

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