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[–] Stovetop@lemmy.world 126 points 11 months ago (5 children)

2008 was the beginning of the recession, and in many ways things never really recovered. Cost of college never went down. Housing remains unattainable for most young people. And the job market is becoming more exploitative than ever.

Financial uncertainty creates anxiety. People with too much anxiety don't have the time or energy for relationships and family. As it happens, countries where this is felt even more, like Korea and Japan, have it far worse.

[–] doggle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 55 points 11 months ago (4 children)

And it's a hard sell to get a girl at a bar/club to come back to your mom's house.

[–] kiagam@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

by that logic, nobody would have sex while in high school. And japan would have basically no virgins, since they have the love hotels.

btw, america needs those. very covenient, and with the housing prices and everyone living with their parents, very much in demand

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[–] nvermind@lemm.ee 15 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I like the Bourne Ultimatum theory better. We peaked there and will never achieve that high again!

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[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 83 points 11 months ago (3 children)

zero female sex partners

Well that's a meaningless study then

[–] Stovetop@lemmy.world 44 points 11 months ago

Meaningful if you're looking for predictors on birth rates, I suppose. Usually I see studies like this used to explain why populations start to decline.

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[–] ReallyActuallyFrankenstein 65 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

"Young male virgins" equals "men under age 30 who report zero female sex partners since they turned 18"?

Good thing no male has sex before 18 or with anyone who isn't female.

[–] Halosheep@lemm.ee 23 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

It's confirmed.

The Bourne Ultimatum turned men gay.

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[–] Zetta@mander.xyz 11 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Right, like what's the point in excluding this data? I guess it's probably safe to assume if you had sex under 18 you probably have had sex after 18 but still odd that it's like that.

[–] Fosheze@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I'm willing to bet that they just didn't want the legal hastle of collecting data on minors. Also minors are going to be more likely to lie about any potential sexual history.

As far a why they excluded man on man action I have no idea. If the origional graph was in an article about declining birth rates or something then that may explain it but idk what the original article was so idk if that is the case.

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[–] nifty@lemmy.world 60 points 11 months ago (5 children)

That’s when social media started earnestly taking a foothold. I am guessing maybe this has to do with depressed females (there are studies which indicate social media use affects females more and also depresses them). Depressed females likely have different preferences and standards than those who are not, perhaps. If you don’t like yourself, you’re unlikely to pursue and welcome relationships.

Alternatively, that was the time of the Great Recession. Perhaps some young adults in general are too economically stressed to do normal activities?

[–] vox@sopuli.xyz 38 points 11 months ago (3 children)

ugh i hate the word "females". why not just say "women"

[–] surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 25 points 11 months ago

Because the study is clearly talking about goats. You only use the word "women" when you're talking about humans.

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[–] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 25 points 11 months ago (2 children)

This is also around the time smartphones came out. Wait, were the boomers right?

[–] muffedtrims@lemmy.world 20 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Pornhub was launched on 25 May 2007. Just saying...

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[–] nifty@lemmy.world 16 points 11 months ago

Well broken clock, etc. etc.

[–] EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 11 months ago

Also, social media is a major contributor to the isolation epidemic going on, as is the economic situation and the work culture of countries like the US.

So what I'm saying is, you're probably right on all accounts.

I saw a great video once that went into how the economic situation is largely responsible for the cultural shift from "adult" as a thing you are to "adulting" - a thing you do. That from Millenials onwards, generations don't feel economically secure enough to partake in traditional cultural norms of middle-class adulthood. Things like buying a house and popping out 2.5 kids.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm trying to understand your post. Do you mean that the number of young men who are virgins has risen because women are depressed, thus implying that all of these young men are involuntarily celebite?

[–] nifty@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Not all, it’s hard to say

Note that I am not “blaming” women for the lack of sex these men are getting. I am saying that if you’re comparing yourself to the best female in your group and her outcomes, then you’re constantly going to feel like you’re not doing good enough for yourself. You’re going to get depressed, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not coupling. But you’re restricting yourself and constraining your choices.

It’s an untested hypothesis, but here’s some prelim evidence: https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2020/08/20/key-takeaways-on-americans-views-of-and-experiences-with-dating-and-relationships/

More women say dating is emotionally and physically risky now. What’s changed necessarily? I don’t know, I think it’s the hyper awareness induced by social media and also the increased economic pressures.

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[–] IWantToFuckSpez@kbin.social 36 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

In 2008 Sasha Grey won Performer of the Year award.

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 8 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

I am not going to figure out/imagine how many years ago was that, nope, no way, I know better.

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[–] Pixlbabble@lemmy.world 31 points 11 months ago (4 children)

Housing crash fucked everyone for generations.

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@literature.cafe 17 points 11 months ago

Mass adoption of cellphones, social media, streaming services and the destruction of third spaces. Endless entertainment, decreased socialization.

People have been fucking while living with their parents for most of humanity. That's not the problem, at least in terms of first experiences.

[–] Nom@lemm.ee 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)

When most people have to worry about their rent & food everyday of their life while working for ludicrous amounts of time every week, having a family or relationships in general just look like more expenses for the individual. It's not an issue only men face either.

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[–] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 27 points 11 months ago

Emphasis on "female".

[–] Zehzin@lemmy.world 25 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Also the year Persona 4 came out.

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[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 21 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

men under 30 who report zero female sex partners since turning 18

Okay, but what about male partners?

Also, can we clarify whether we're defining "sex" as "sexual contact" versus "penial vaginal intercourse"? Because I think ex-President Clinton is still a virgin under the second definition.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago

I'm pretty sure ex-President Clinton has a daughter who looks very similar to him.

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 14 points 11 months ago

I mean, I guess millennials were right in the middle period between having a healthy sex life prior to 18 and then various life clusterfucks hit the generation. I can only assume ppl gave up, secluded, moisturised, in their lane, flourishing in their shituation as best they can.

[–] Xantar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 11 months ago

Jesus Christ that's Jason Bourne !

[–] MSugarhill@feddit.de 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

How would that make them virgins? They could e8tger be gay, 9r have had sex before being 18.

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 19 points 11 months ago

If you don't fuck for 12 years, your virginity grows back.

[–] callouscomic@lemm.ee 12 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I bet young people today are more honest.

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[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 11 points 11 months ago (6 children)

See that peak a little while after 1989?

I lost my virginity in 1993.

😎

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[–] aBundleOfFerrets@sh.itjust.works 11 points 11 months ago (1 children)
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[–] Fosheze@lemmy.world 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Even in the late 1900s that number is still way higher than I thought it would be.

[–] The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 22 points 11 months ago (1 children)

"late 1900s" is something I'm not sure I'll ever get used to hearing.

[–] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 11 points 11 months ago

I never know if 1900s means 1900-1909 or 1900-1999.

[–] Acinonyx@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (7 children)

I'd not surprised if women had a much lower percentage

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[–] Sethayy@sh.itjust.works 33 points 11 months ago (3 children)

The most virgin thing you could possibly say to seeing this

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[–] mechoman444@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

What if you're 38? Asking for a friend.

[–] Cerothen@lemmy.ca 20 points 11 months ago

If your friend can hold it for 2 more years then they can get a movie made about them.

[–] usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

So Jason Bourne turned everyone gay?

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[–] HollowNaught@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago

Looks like I'm finally better than the majority at something!

sniffle

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