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How long I've been single
I have never been in a relationship in my 36 years, in my daily life I feel secure, but I am fucking terrified when I think about finding a partner, I am interested in finding one as I am getting pissed at allways being alone, but I have no idea on where to start.
It's just really hard. I would put it up there as one of the most challenging things we do in life. It can be absolutely soul destroying to be rejected.
It's almost impossible to find someone these days. Social media made people a lot more picky and everyone is trying to find the perfect person that doesn't exist. Apps like tinder ruined it even more.
It depends on an age group. I would agree that in a group of 20-30 it's a mess, but 35+ you can find a decent partner (depending on your age of course).
Odd. That's backwards from what I generally hear people talk about. When you're still in your early twenties, it's very easy to meet people in college/university. Once you start getting older and leaving behind schooling and its associated extracurriculars, it gets way more difficult to meet people. Where are these 35+ people going out and finding partners? Not saying it's impossible by any stretch of the imagination, just a lot harder.
bingo.
the whole 'you'll do better when you're older' is a myth told to silence people who are unhappy in their 20s. Things don't get better, they stay the same or get worse. People don't magically mature at the age of 35 or anything... typically they just double down on bad attitudes.
I agree it's easier when you are older. Not in late 20s early 30s but there is a lot of movement when people break up because they chose badly when young. So after 35, it opens up again.
I have been single since 20 year so yeah it sucks
Same
I have a mild speech impairment. I don't stutter on a daily basis but when I'm under heavy stress or when I'm tired I tend to stutter-ish. On top of that I live in a country where I don't speak in my native language and sometimes I feel self-conscious about small mistakes I make (like using the wrong word or messing up the grammar) which induces the stress response. It's not a big deal but it makes me crazy when I can't express my thoughts in public.
people who shit on people for imperfect language are insecure assholes.
it's just as stupid online when people grammar police you for written words.
I don't mean to belittle your feelings about it, but I would find that cute af. There are certainly people around you that would feel the same.
Well, sometimes I get away with some petty wrongdoings just because I stutter. And I've learned it to use it for my advantage. Just to be clear, I'm not abusing this "power", it's mostly "organic".
I guess mental health. I am all kinds of fucked up.
Everything, but specially my ability yo make decisions.
It doesn't matter what we are talking about. You just have to say "Are you sure?" to make me feel insecure about any topic, at work, home or with friends. And, of course, then every bad consequence is my fault.
I would feel insecure anyways, but i can usually control my feelings. Say that sentence and i struggle even to walk.
Not getting enough updootes.
You ever think maybe you don't have imposter syndrome? You're just telling yourself you do because it feels like it, but you actually don't have it at all.
Yup, I'm just an actual imposter
Sus
'The woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those who sang the best.'
Teeth. Many years of poor dental hygiene.
I never feel like I fit in clothing wise no matter what. I've figured out a way to make a lot of pocket money and I continually buy clothes and shoes in the hopes that one day I feel right but I seldom do.
May I ask your body type? You don't have to answer here if you don't want to, but I have daughters of various shapes but similar sizes, might be able to help. I am literally more confident naked than in badly fitting clothes, you are not crazy. Those pictures you see online are tailored and styled, not off the rack. And often photoshopped as well.
My weight fluctuates. Sometimes I bloat up from medicine. Sometimes I can't eat and lose weight. I can't seem to just be me and be happy and have people like me no matter what my weight is. It is really frustrating going through your whole life hating your body because of external standards.
"Don't care what other people think."
Ok yeah well when you feel like people stare at you and silent judge you all the time, and internally you do the same thing to others and hate yourself even more for being part of the problem.
It's constant brainwashing of the 'ideal body' when the reality is people come in all shapes and sizes. It's hard to change that mindset when all the ads you see around you tell you differently.
I don't have a girlfriend (because I can't get one) when everyone around me is in a relationship.
Irrationally insecure? My weight, or more accurately, my size. I was an eating disordered teen, still get stress anorexia, but even when healthy and relaxed my mind just thinks I am too big, when objectively and logically I know I am in great shape for someone with kids and over half a century of years. I feel fat unless underweight.
Rationally insecure? I don't trust my job or the economy overall. Have been homeless and so poor, dug out of it and doing great but I am not relaxed about it at all. I don't think that's irrational though.
I get called judgemental all the time. I have on idea why. I don't judge anyone. And yet.... they judge me as judgemental.
It drives me nuts. I think it's just my face and the fact I don't smile constantly. It also makes socializing very difficult, because I only tend to get along with very secure chill folks... which there aren't many of in the world. I often have people blow up at me for 'being mean to them' even though I have said nothing to them and didn't even notice them.
Being overly secure can be a problem too... I'm quite secure, because I've gone out of my way to work on insecurities. Buuut this has the consequence of insecure people seeing me as arrogant 🤷
What do you got?
My singleness. I know the problem is me but I can't seem to be the person people want.
Maybe it's not that you can't be what someone else wants, but that you aren't finding or building relationships with the people that would want you. There are so many people with such vasts tastes, that there is someone for everyone, even serial killers or 40 year olds that dress in diapers. Whatever you are, there are people that are looking for that. It's a matter of finding and building a relationship with them. ♥️
I have imposter syndrome in life. I constantly feel like having to behave in a way I’m not. I’m often times scared in the public in fear of embarrassment or whatever. Certain scenarios already make me freak out in my head before they even have a chance to occur. I keep on not … living … enjoying life. always fearsome of bad things to happen in the future, not giving myself time and room to grieve. My last relationship took my belief that everything is going to be fine, and I was kinda bitter before that already.
I also have imposters at work esp. because I don’t have any degree whatsoever to prove that I know what I am doing, but since it’s worked out for a couple of years that is kind of the least worry most of the time.
Looks. Never liked the face, I always look tired or otherwise scary. I'm absolutely blessed to have a preference in living my own life, I can't imagine trying dating or anything.