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Not sure if I should upvote for being properly unpopular, or downvote for being absolutely fucking wrong.
In countries where people actually have easy access to ADHD testing, the numbers diagnosed are higher than anyone expected (~20%). It's still underdiagnosed in most countries IMO.
And the high numbers cast doubt on whether it's actually a disorder, or rather a symptom of our society being increasingly incompatible with human nature.
The first part is great. The "cast doubt" part sounds like naturalist bullshit.
If 1/5 of people can't "correctly" function in society in some specific way, you have to at least wonder if it's them who is wrong or society.
What are you getting at? It's simply human nature to desire to toil under capitalism. Those who struggle to devote 1/3 of their waking lives to making other people money are the wrong ones!
There's a difference between not being able to devote third of your life to capitalism and being unable to handle mundane tasks such as doing the dishes or taking out the trash. A lot of the ADHD memes here normalize the unability to even do the bare minimum.
or downvote for being absolutely fucking wrong
What am I wrong about exactly?
For many the symptoms mimic a lack of discipline so convincingly that they’ve spent their entire lives being reprimanded and disregarded this way.
That what one sees is all there is usually characterizes the easy, face-value opinion. How is it unpopular?
I mean, yeah it's an unpopular opinion. That's because it's utter bullshit, and a good bit douchey tbh.
You confuse self discipline with executive function. Most people with ADHD have plenty of self discipline, it just isn't always enough to overcome a neurological difference.
Self discipline is about building habits, and setting up tools to assist in executive function. That is where the self discipline comes in to adhd, and there's a shit ton of success at it.
Nevermind what I said in my post. This comment is a better TLDR (if a bit blunt)
But what if those people that claim having ADHD actually do have it but never have been diagnosed with it? What are you gonna say then, do they also only lack self discipline as demonstrated by not making an appointment?
You can have ADHD and still use it as an excuse for not getting things done. It may be a contributing factor but not the entire reason. It's not binary, there are more and less severe cases of it.
I don't think you have a strong understanding of ADHD.
I do think you're looking at the outsized influence of a very tiny subset young influencers that are making ADHD content.
Even if it were the case that people are using the "excuse" to be lazy, what do you think that has to do with the "you must constantly produce to be a contributing member of society" outlook on labor in latestage capitalism. Or how this could be the youth's response to feeling undervalued and under compensated for their labor.
Here's a source that's guaranteed to be milquetoast enough for you to believe https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2024/06/03/inflation-hit-gen-z-hardest/73901354007/
A large number of people are using it as an excuse. I don't see how this in any way refutes my claim. I think you're arguing against a point I haven't made.
You sound like someone with ADHD who has been made feel inadequate, told they don't have it, and are continuing the cycle of shaming for something outside your control.
Making this about me doesn't refute my claim either.
I don't believe in free will, thus nothing is under my control. I still try and get stuff done according to my best abilities despite my struggles. Telling a fat person that it's about their genes and there's nothing they can do about it is not true nor helpful.
Your claims don't need to be refuted. They manage that fine on their own by being patent nonsense.
I see you are getting a lot of flack but this point I think can be better understood if they think of the classic story about someone who gets messed up in an accident and does not have the will to do physical therapy because they tell themselves they just can't do it. I do think you will get that with things like this. Still the answer is not necessarily to kick the person out of the wheelchair although in the movies with that trope you do see that.
Yup, I think that's genuinely my case as well. I know I can pull it off, I just don't want to for the time being.
TL:DR You're not lazy, there's brain chemistry at work
There's a depression comorbidity with ADHD for a lot of adults.
https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-017-1463-3
Which can lead to executive function disorder, so you "know" you can do t you just cannot find the energy or will to.
https://psychcentral.com/adhd/adhd-executive-dysfunction
This is why early on stimulants were perscribed to patients with ADD/ADHD
I wonder how much of ADHD could be alleviated society wise. I think of it like how we made curbs to be wheelchair accessible which of course made it stroller, bike, wagon accesible. Its like if we had single payer healthcare in a system with one record system then we can just worry about getting to the doctor and being healthy and not how to pay or getting things from one doc to another or redoing tests. And if we had the pre filled tax return we can update or sign. Its like the world is made to be hard and it hurts everyone. both those overwelmed and those who can handle it but its still not great. We should be able to concentrate on what we need to concentrate on.
I don't think most people enjoy feeling like a burden, judged as lazy, or living in filth and failing to achieve their goals.
Usually for someone to smoke weed all day and play video games or w/e without maintaining hygiene and health something has to be seriously wrong. Animals not maintaining themselves is like the biggest warning sign that something is wrong.
To simplify that as 'So and so lacks self discipline' is moronic. Maybe they claim they have adhd and they don't but something is fucking wrong with a brain in that state and they need help.
I feel like an asshole for saying this but I tend to agree. I relate to every meme/post about ADHD I've ever seen, and most people I know do as well, so either we all have ADHD or, more likely, it's being misrepresented.
I likely have some combination of autism / ADHD myself as I relate hard with much of the posts / memes I see here but I also realize that I don't need pats on my head about how I shouldn't feel bad about my struggles because it's "all due to ADHD". Yeah, maybe I'm playing life on a hard mode but I still want to play.
Judging from your responses in this thread I don't think you do. As it's very evident you do not have a diagnosis. If you are undiagnosed you are not managing your internal feelings of inadequate production and I think you would be best served to talk to a mental health professional about an ADHD evaluation.
You shouldn't feel lazy or that it's extra effort for you to participate in society. That's a very lonely and terrible feeling I don't wish upon anyone.
You diagnose ADHD (or lack thereof) from messageboard replies?
I likely have some combination of autism / ADHD myself
Should probably stop using that as an excuse, bro. Just try a bit harder on this empathy and knowing-what-you're-talking-about thing. Wikipedia is your friend
Bro is a big tough guy careful guys he does not need pats on his head, thats cool bro but do u realyse there are people really struggling unlike u ? I dont know if u noticed but lifes not a game for a lot of people
do u realyse they are people really struggling
I aknowledge this in my open post. Those are not the people I'm refering to. That's why I said "a large number of.." instead of "everyone"
I wonder this myself. I relate to a lot as well but I do wonder as I was that shy, introverted, bookish, nerdy kid who also spoke in class today (although when you are a target for cruel jokes is that really about something wrong with me as a kid) who evolved into a hippie type. Honestly the names have changed but I just mentioned in another post how I have not really in relation to most folks I know. Im definately always been different and hung our with folks who like that to which you found at conventions and dNd groups and anime clubs and such. Now a days those things are mainstream but at the time it was quite the nerdy thing. Remember though that harrison ford was in the AV club in high school which was the nerd club of that age.
I'll toss in my 2cents. There are a few informed replies I think OP should go back and reread. I agree with OP that most of the comments are skewing AWAY from the actual topic. And, yes of course lazy dimwits are using the latest convenient terms to get out of doing whatever they ought to be doing.
Lazy will do what lazy can which I can personally corroborate. I know someone with severe ADHD who functions perfectly well in society, at home, and at work; they need patience, self-awareness, therapy, and a lot of medication that would melt my brain but let's them functional adequately. There are also periods where their house is a wreck because they can't get it together to clean up for a few days.
I know someone who celebrates when they "finally" get a diagnosis they know they've had for years but doctors "are so ignorant". This person just wants to smoke weed all day and watch D&D let's plays on YT; it's my niece btw, and they have issues-ADHD is not one of them.
My filter works like this: people with a genuine hidden disability will inform you instead of using it as an excuse for why something didn't get done. "I know I have been dropping the ball on kitchen duties. Could we swap household duties? Maybe I am more consistent with bathroom cleaning than the kitchen. And I will talk to my doctor about this at our next visit" OR "I have really bad ADHD. That's why we don't have any clean dishes and the kitchen stinks. But I will get right on it."
How is this not the mental health version of racism?
OP walks by black homeless person. "They might be black, but they are using their race as an excuse to be lazy. They are only getting in their own way"
OP walks by a disheveled person with ADHD. "They might have ADHD, but they are using it as an excuse to be a mess. They are only getting in their own way"
You are being judgemental, if not prejudicial AF.
If a homeless person claims the color of their skin is the sole reason they're homeless then they're absolutely using it as an excuse.
'Just pull yerself up by yer own bootstraps, lad!
While I do agree (or at least hope) that we all have the agency to positively influence our own lives and those around us, the main point there in my opinion is that different people have different resources in life. Someone that's experienced systemic racism, or someone who's brain is a wee bit non-standard just has it harder than someone not experiencing these issues.
I never claimed some people don't have it harder than others. It's a spectrum and a large number of people are not in the far end of it. Those are the people I'm talking about. Would it be easier if they didn't have this condition? Ofcourse it would. That however still doesn't mean that personal agency doesn't have a role in it. There are several reasons for why people struggle with getting things done and in the vast majority of cases having ADHD is just one of the contributing factors. It's an explanation, not an excuse.