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Sometimes I see people rant about people in a way that makes me believe they rarely interact with anyone face to face. Complete lack of anything positive to say about others, can only discuss topics that mean something to themselves, no ability to put themselves in someone else's shoes.

They spend so much time on Lemmy that they start replying to their own comments.

When they seem to think it's socially acceptable to scroll while hanging out with other people. I usually give the benefit of the doubt--"oh they're responding to a text....... right? oh damn, they are scrolling? and I'm sitting right here with them?"

If they frequently reference memes IRL, says "lol" with their voice, complain that you don't answer messages immediately, sit idle in a voice chatroom, notices the the typo, anime profile pic, uses x.com.

A number of tells. Here's my shortlist.

• Missing work, school, or other important obligations. Basically neglecting responsibilities.
• Preferring online interactions over face-to-face ones. On the phone all the time, even when with people.
• Anxious, irritable, or depressed when not online
• Losing track of time while online.
• Sleep deprived.
• Not sure how to answer when asked how much they're online

Don't ask how I know...

Constantly referencing TikToks/Insta reels

Unironically talking about YouTuber beefs

The only jokes they’re capable of making are meme references

Their phone’s photo album is practically empty or only screenshots

You're here.

Nice try mom! I'm still not cleaning my room. Stay off my forum.

I once ran out of questions I could answer on OKCupid.

I noticed that a lot of my friends who are really online think that everyone will always agree with them.

My theory is that this happens because they are used to their algorithm only showing them content/comments of things they agree with and since that makes the bulk of interactions with other people, they think everyone is like that.

Also dehumanizing people who they aren't politically aligned with. I think that people who "touch grass" more often, deal with people all over the political spectrum so they can separate the human side from the politics side.

These are just my theories btw I don't have evidence aside from my anecdotes. A sample pool of like 10 people lol so clearly not enough

I dont know anymore, been here too long.

The question lacks depth of perspective. Human social needs are a fundamental part of life. The question lacks an understanding of the range of circumstances some human experience. Also, this perspective can be degrading and demeaning to someone such as myself that experiences nearly complete social isolation due to physical disability.

They use Lemmy

Sending me news links that are social media posts containing a link to a news article. Especially if it's from Xitter: no way I'm logging into that place just to see replies.

It tells me that they didn't read the article and that they expect me to care what the shit posters reacting to the headline think.

They keep rambling on about jeans and beans even though you stopped contributing to the conversation several minutes ago...

"Lol"

Sometimes I hear a remark during a conversation that just seems out of place, but is said with the air of a proverb, and that's how I know it's a reference to something popular on social media and that for me is too online.

When they know who pedobear is

When by hearing their opinion on, say, gun-control I can then succesfully predict their stance on 15 other completely unrelated subjects.

When they are actively livestreaming themselves.

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