Develop an alcohol addiction, seems to work for others.
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This post makes no sense and has zero context. What clay sculptures? What? Huh? Why are they saying to seek therapy? Maybe provide even the minimum of context? I didn't see how anyone could possibly give you advice based on the information you provided here.
Translation: I have written a post about my thoughts online. I was told to seek therapy, but I don't have enough money to pay for one. What now?
Tis a joke.
I do not recommend this Van gogh method
No but seriously why people say such things as if it was some kind of magic pill, free thing
- Either they think it is some kind of no brainer solution to everything they do not like
- Or they say it as a form of derogatory remark which is doubly questionable
It’s like everything wrong with XXI century can be summed up by this phrase.
XXI century, go seek therapy, you are the worst timeline
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Therapy will be a useless tool to combat mental health until thrapists can legally decide the government has to pay welfare to people who they decide can not handle 40hrs a week.
Therapy can't fix the main economic stressors that are the cause of most people's mental issues.
That’s what I have been thinking. Therapy could be a way to make the masses more productive and obey the senseless laws of society
- start an IRL clay sculpting club
- socialize with IRL people
- ...?
- Profit
Either you're trolling or you're exaggerating.
Therapy is one tool that can assist personal growth. You could also try reading into Stoicism or make friends you can talk to candidly or take some acid.
Hey, hey, hey: Mushrooms before acid (although honestly trying to make friends with shared interests is probably the best idea).
Okay but if it is so essential as the contemporary society would allow you to believe then why it is more expensive than an hour with a sex worker? (At least here) somehow I cannot get the therapy prostitution connection out of my mind.
Like why would I say to some stranger (I choose based on looks and opinions lol) my feelings and pay them for it and also wait for dates available like it was some highly sought service competition and I am just some 10th gear in queue of the bucks making machine.
Not only I must pay for this but also wait patiently for a month. Some crazy stuff
And what is that will be revealed to me that I didn’t know already if anything? For an hour of feeling good after waiting for weeks I will pay 150 dollars??
I could get one pack of high quality cocaine for that /j not to mention all the stuff that I actually need to buy
And if it doesn’t work then money wasted? What does "working" even mean in this context i don’t know. Hopefully makes me earn more money because I need that.
Right now I am unable to work prolly cause some autism but who knows. I am unable to resist daily grind and emotions of commuting and working for more than a month without mental breakdown.
Will therapy fix that?
Therapy isn’t brain medicine. It’s different for lots of people, however to me it was an opportunity to practice skills I otherwise wouldn’t in a safe environment. The main skills I was able to practice were self reflection and emotional expression.
If I hadn’t gone to therapy, I would still be practically unable to open up to the people closest to me and I would still have my self image corrupted by delusions of self hatred from depression.
It’s sounds like fru-fru bullshit, but it does slowly make a difference. Eventually I realized that all my relationships became more healthy and my self confidence was significantly improved.
Lots of people -especially men in my experience- have no experience opening up and have a lot of deep fears about it and they end up self-isolating way more than is healthy. Therapy is the only real way where you can express yourself and get a sanity check without any kind of blowback.
So what I would just go there and talk about what for 150 dollars? They would sniff it out what I need or…? Or do I need to know what I need? How many 150 dollar meetings for figuring it out?
I need money and fearlessness, now give me that or at least ways to achieve it
Then there is also power I have been eyeing if I have these things but that can wait and will come with the first two
Fearlessness -> Money -> Power that’s how it looks like in the long run
However on my path I am brought down by some stupid things like daily commute problems or mental overload or anxiety. I just want to surgically cut them out
Generally when you start out, they have to get a feel for how you think and it’s mostly just you complaining about what stresses you out. After a few sessions, a decent therapist will have figured out some patterns in how you think and will be better able to direct the conversation so you end up talking about more of the situation than you typically think of on your own. From this it’s up to you to figure out how you want to solve the problem and/or what you want your goals to be.
I get the never ending struggle for more money. That’s a tough one let me know if you figure it out lol.
Fearlessness is probably a pretty unhealthy goal imo. Fear is a normal, healthy response that keeps you from making bad decisions. I think what you would really benefit from is: increased self-confidence, stress management skills, and good planning. You could definitely tell a therapist that you’re looking to become fearless or at least less fearful and they would be able to better look for what you might be hung up on.
I personally suffer from pretty bad anxiety and I know it holds me back, but I’ve become more confident in my own judgement and I’ve become better able to seek support from the people in my life thanks to therapy. Things haven’t turned around for me yet, but I feel better about the future and that’s a massive improvement on its own.
No I don’t want fear. I don’t want to feel fear ever again. Whatever it takes to do that I will do
Fear is a prison
I need to somehow crush that fearful part of me and kill it because it is broken
Okay I am afraid to come there to therapist actually first so maybe let’s start with that part
I probably shouldn’t tell you what your goals should be, that’s my bad. That said, you’ll eventually become less fearful on your path to fearlessness and it’ll be up to you to decide when it’s good enough.
If you’re afraid of therapy, I understand that. I don’t know you, but I was personally afraid of my inner thoughts causing people to reject me and I was also afraid that I may come to discover I’m worse than I thought. I’ll tell you how I came to see those things over time and maybe you feel something similar even if you can’t describe it and it may help. I unfortunately can’t do much more.
For the first fear (rejection) there’s two main things I clung on to: 1) There’s always someone worse than you out there and likely any therapist has already dealt with someone much worse than you or I. 2) Therapists are trained to deal with all kinds of people and manage whatever stress that may cause them. It’s why they cost so much money and that training is the difference between a therapist and a good listener. It’s also worth mentioning that they’re legally required to maintain confidentiality and unless you’re a danger to others, they’ll never spread anything you say.
For the second fear of realizing I was worse than I thought, that wasn’t really assuaged until I started. One thing most people come to realize as they become better at self reflection and self evaluation is that your imagination is almost always worse than the reality.
Whatever your particular fears are, it’ll take a measure of will power to overcome them no matter what. You should be proud then when you do go since you overcame your fear for your own betterment.
thank you, sincerely, this is very helpful comment and something that I don't feel like maybe I deserve omggg I need to work on that lol
Why not someone making a nice comment, take it and appreciate it
I will pick some therapist tomorrow and we will see what kind of shit will come up, I bet it will feel fucking terrible
Good luck!
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I wouldn't say it's essential, more one option out of a whole bunch you could use to improve yourself (though we pay for many essential things like housing, water, food... Welcome to life as we know it).
Therapy isn't going to "fix" anything. It's a way of helping you reflect on yourself, see where your problems are, give you some perspective and start to see things differently. It can help you understand why you have certain behaviours and traits and work on unpicking them or unlearning them. But like I said, lots of other things can help you get there too, like meeting new people and having good chats, taking drugs that change your perspective, travelling, reading books. All of the above combined.
Shit I know exactly what are my problems, like I probably have all the extensive library of browser bookmarks on mental health relating to my stuff.
The main main problem is inability to cope with some trans related things
I won’t come out to the world in a sorry state I am in
Well that's a really good starting place :) If you did want to try therapy, being able to go in saying "I have these issues and I need to learn how to cope them" then you've got something to work on.
It would be helpful to find a therapist who is a specialist in trans issues, and hopefully they can help you work through what you're struggling with. They can help you reflect on why you feel a certain way, or why certain things make you feel uncomfortable or how to cope with everyday things you have to face from other people. Sorry if I'm making any assumptions about what you need, but hopefully you get the gist of what I'm saying.
Yeah I guess but why not just burn them all to the ground instead? That’s doubly tempting. They will have to get therapy to adjust to a world with me after I am finished. Why not go this way instead?
Why do I need to go instead of them? I want to traumatise them
I am not a fucking victim here, they are the victims
I swear one funny look one more time and I am going to beat the shit out of someone, cameras or not something will break and I won’t control myself anymore.
Yeah you shouldn't have to, none of us should have to face prejudice. But talking to someone could help you learn how to deal with difficult situations, or manage your emotional reaction when something bad happens (I'm not trying to invalidate how you feel, feeling rage is justified, but finding more productive outlets for anger can be really helpful, I've found this for myself personally), or they can just be someone you can vent all these thoughts to about wanting to burn them all to the ground. They could also help you consider other practical/logistical solutions to problems you're facing.
Some ancient Greek dude said all men should aspire to be like feral dogs, or something like that. Hope that helps.
Jules Bastien-Lepage (1848–1884) A painting of Diogenes
Edit: in case anyone takes me seriously, don't. Taking mental health advice from ancient Greek ascetics is a terrible idea.
This post smacks of disingenuousness.
At the risk of being impolite, it reeks of cuckoo.
The solution really depends on the problem. We don't know why they told you to seek therapy.
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Check your local library and city/county department of health, they may run free or low cost group therapy sessions.
Why in god's name should you need therapy for writing about clay sculpting?!
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Reditors say, goto therapist.
Therapists say, goto redit.
But they are all the same.
/s
Online therapy is good. One of the major downsides is it doesn't get you going outside though, which is a major benefit of therapy at a clinic.
Other than that, make more friends and chat it out with them (join a run club in your city, for example) or use an AI therapist. There's a lot of people who will shreik and yell at these options, but if you have no other options, they're great
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What? We need more context.
Go through a Christian program. Super cheap or fee
I am trans, nonbinary, xenogendrr, they gonna crucify me or something lmao
But a solid advice otherwise
I'm an atheist, I got therapy after a divorce for $50 a session through a Christian program in my city. They don't care who you are and if they do then they're going against their license and can get sued/fired.
I don’t know I am afraid though I am not very resistant to hostility
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