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Play a game with yourselves. Imagine the silliest reason to ban hatpins, see if you got it right.

Some articles to those that prefer only to read, but the video is a really good analysis of the situation and shows how a healthy discussion around the subject should be conducted:

• https://www.thepinknews.com/2025/03/11/natalee-b-fitness-the-girls-spot/
• https://www.indy100.com/news/the-girls-spot-women-only-gym-trans-2671352416

It’s an informative and educative video around a specific case that showcases how misogyny can also be expressed in the form of transphobia and how the fear of aggression might lead to unfortunate and harmful decisions.

More explicitly, it’s about the plans to open a women-only gym that were inclusive of all women, but that changed when the threats and fear of men invading that space pretending to be women poisoned the ideal.

I believe the video is being fair in presenting the point of view of someone that seems to genuinely want to do the right thing and is being transphobic in the process.

Content Warning - Very crude language and discussion of subjects that might be triggering sometimes.

This is me doing my part for the gay agenda. We Are Having Gay Sex is a podcast with degenerates for degenerates that I would recommend to everyone that look for fun conversations with a diverse group of people. They are not serious, they are terrible and surprisingly educative. Ashley Gavin is absolutely nice when she’s not telling people to kill themselves and a great comedian you might know from elsewhere. This is the podcast that made me finally give a chance to podcasts and I finally decided to curate a small list to get you started.

The channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ashgavs/videos

The list:

• How to Date a Trans Woman w/ Brenda Jordan - The perfect representation of how wonderfully degenerate they can be.

• Natalie Wynn (ContraPoints) Gives Up Men for You – A degenerate nerd.

• Abigail Thorn Has a (S)existential Crisis – A nerd actress.

• Chappell Roan is Gay, for Realsies – Queerbait episode.

• Calvin Cato Gets a Mobile Home Handy – Men are welcome too.

• We're Having Gay Sex w/ Anna Lee of Lioness Health – Being tricked into genuinely learning about sex toys.

• Irene Tu DENIES Non-Binary Identity – We are talking about not wanting sex today.

• Jade Catta-Preta Shines a Light on Snatch – Brazilians represented outside Ash stories.

I'm not an expert on the subject, but a discussion elsewhere reminded me of some tests related to tracking and fingerprinting. I believe it's a nice starting point if you are interested or want to show others how much information can be used to track them.

Growing up, your IP was the great identifier, and I’m old enough that it might have been true for a good chunk of time. Hiding your IP is still important, but most companies don’t really care about you as an individual. Actually, the fact you are hiding you IP is just more relevant information to put you in the most adequate group. At the end of the day, I assume you are unique just because they have enough information to create a group with you alone.

https://coveryourtracks.eff.org/

https://www.amiunique.org/

CW: naked chests

I just saw a video commenting this project. It's about the censorship of female nipples by Instagram and how a number of AI judge the gender of a person.

Indirect link to the Instagram account: https://www.picuki.com/profile/in_transitu_ig

I never realized how the language of the terms made everything so very silly. As usual, to conform to conservative binary notions, they invented a concept without base to hide the bigotry. There's no way a nipple can be visually female, but it will redirect the conversation and shield them from most disputes.

It's not anything new, but I liked the project and it's a good reminder of the issue and that we shouldn't accept to talk in terms that deny reality.

I believe the problem is never showing evidence, but that the evidence is overwhelming. I could explain the general idea and, maybe, one or two specifics. People that use the XX/XY binary argument wouldn’t be able to explain either, but it’s usually only used because it conforms to a bias. And we are only talking about humans here. Language would implode if we tried to maintain convenient binaries and still back it up with science.

I've never been on twitter, but I'm not that surprised so many of us here were driving engagement.

OR Another perspective on separating the art from the artist.

Story time. I needed a haircut and shop from the neighborhood is good enough for me. The guy that runs it always had a extreme way of thinking, bordering dangerous territory, but a nice person that argues using what they know and listens. Until today, when I realized he just needed to talk to someone much worse to bring out all the bigotry inside of him. So he’s transphobic, homophobic and doesn’t support neurodivergent diagnosis. He’s a feminist, which the other client wasn’t, so it was horribly funny watching him trying to convince someone that women weren’t better off dealing with reusable diapers. It was bad. I considered leaving, but staying was a last kindness to someone that never treated me poorly, but that I can’t support anymore. He even apologized for the conversation, certainly unaware that his other client wasn’t the most awful for me.

Lately, I have been torturing myself by following the allegations against Neil Gaiman. I honestly don’t know the reason I’m doing that, but I am. I was quick to drop him as a choice in entertainment, specially because the parts he corroborate are already bad enough. Then, as usual, there’s the argument of separating the art from the artist. I have my issues with that, but today I found a new point of view with my experience. (not really, but a new way to demonstrate it)

I needed a haircut. I just shave my head, so it’s quite simple. Doing it at home during the pandemic was bad. Finding someone else to do it at a reasonable price and be completely satisfied will take some tries, again. It doesn’t have to be him. There are options. The next one might be secretly worse, might be the same or, with all the luck, someone better. At the end of the day, I don’t want to ever have to sit and listen to that kind of conversation because it’s simply convenient and because my leaving will not change anything.

This is mostly me venting. It drained me more than I thought it would. I'll probably not answer any comment so soon. I don't have the strength to spellcheck what I just wrote to tell the truth.

I really tried to ignore it and let it go as just another passing trend. It’s not my language, not my culture and not my battleground, but it’s hard. It hurt me seeing it slowly spreading and getting bigger. What made me decide to vent was reading someone talk about their struggles and seeing a familiar sentence that might be familiar to all: “I was a weird child”.

Being weird is not usually a problem, the issue usually is people being incapable to accept what they consider weird. Different is not wrong, queer is not wrong, expressing yourself and living the only way you know when it’s not hurting anyone around you is definitely not wrong, even if it doesn’t conform with society.

All these horrible people hate being called weird because it’s what they having been calling us the whole time, but in more specific ways. I feel using it as a slur now just reinforces the negative connotations and validate their view.

Update: semantic satiation to the rescue. Weird became a meme and a trend everyone wanted to take part and use regardless of it making sense.

My friend wants to punch their aggressor, so they tell me. They think about running into him on the street and punching him on the face. Between the two of us, I’m definitely the pacifist and I would always want a world without violent solutions, but, in this case, I wholeheartedly support their desire to simply punch him in the face.

You see, they ended up hurting themselves days after their incident, weeks later they got the courage to finally look for legal counsel, then their family withdrew support for the supposed well-being of not my friend. To make matters worse, the same night the little bit of power my friend could’ve had was denied, they had an encounter with their aggressor. They didn’t punch his face, they left for home shaking.

Should I tell my friend to not think about punching their aggressor’s face? Should I deny them their small coping mechanism? I’m the pacifist, but my fantasies would not be of simply punching him in the face. I would go low, very low, lower than him, in creative and cruel ways that make me actually sick by just considering them in passage, but that wouldn’t be more terrible than the actual reality so many people have to endure because of people like him.

Stop judging the words of those suffering under the boot when that’s the only power they really have, their only solace. We are mostly not David, we are Don Quixote.

Once again I go back to the Exiled Lands (Savage Wilds this time, actually), and once again I can't help editing ".../Conan Exiles/ConanSandbox/Config/DefaultGame.ini" to strip away the opening credits that I can't really skip otherwise or automatically. Not everyone is bothered by it and the wait time is the same, but I'm happier this way.

Do you have some quirk like that in your gaming life? Something that takes at least a bit of effort or research to make your setup just nice? Give me all your most silly and trivial examples. All praise mods that automate doors.

"Plan to follow, look to overtake". That's quite a simple rule that should be taught to everyone. It's a nice instructional video they won't put drivers in the defensive.