Bisexual

i guess i just wanted to share my story. if you look at my bio, yes, it DOES say i’m in love with a certain user. this is true. however, i’m in an open relationship so i also like my ex nico.

i dated nico for about a year and three months but we broke up due to him no longer speaking to anyone due to mental health issues.

after a while, he got better and we started talking again and we still liked each other. after all, we did date for so long.

some people may be thinking, “ok, and you guys clearly still like each other and he’s in a better mental state. why don’t you guys just date again?”

well, nico’s kind of in what i guess is a “situationship”. nico, now single, was asked by his friend (m) if he would marry him. nico took this as a platonic joke and said yes. however, nico’s “bf” then announced to everyone that they were dating and he now had a boyfriend.

nico does not have any romantic feelings for his “boyfriend”, and when he said this and that he was going to break up, his “boyfriend” begged him not to leave him.

nico says he truly isn’t attracted to anyone except for me, and that he was going to officially break up with him next time he saw him on monday. he also said afterwards, we could date again :)

not to be weird or spiritual, but i kind of believe we’re soulmates. after all, we dated for so long (he was my longest relationship yet), we still like each other despite not speaking and being separated, and despite being in relationships, none of them have worked out yet except for ours. he’s gotten into many short-lived relationships, as have i, but they always ended in them not wanting a relationship, cheating, or losing feelings quickly, whereas we have always liked each other and found a way back to each other.

What games would you recommend that include bisexual characters or sexual preferences? Or what games would you recommend that were developed by a bisexual person?

I’m now on good terms with his ex. It turns out he’s only nice to certain people his brain approves of. While he certainly likes me at least as a friend, he has mental issues and a lot of personal issues he can’t share.

(Reason but not an excuse)

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I (18nb/18m) have been friends with Karl (18m/maybe 19m now) since freshman year. We had been seated together in science class on the first day and really hit it off since then. Karl also has bad social anxiety and already had when I met him, so he only really talked to and trusted me.

Later on in freshman year, I had a friend group with a guy I’ll call Liam, and Karl asked if he could join it because he was looking for friends but was painfully shy so would only befriend Liam’s group if I was there with him. Karl and Liam got close pretty quickly.

I had unrequited feelings for Liam at the time, but thought nothing of it when he and Karl started to get close until Liam told me he was attracted to Karl, and that he was going to confess to him soon. Of course, I was happy for him but was also trying to hide my jealousy. When Liam confessed to Karl, he said yes, and for a while, I knew Karl was interested in him as he told me “I think I’m straight mostly, but I’d totally go out with Liam if he asked me out.”

Liam and Karl dated for the entirety of freshman year, but Karl is also quite Christian along with his family, so he always kind of had internalized homophobia which got worse through the years. Coupled with his anxiety, Liam said it never really felt like Karl was actually into him besides the fact that he would hug Liam and tell him he loved him. They broke up during the beginning of sophomore year because it didn’t feel to Liam like Karl liked him.

Perhaps this would be the first red flag, but I confessed to Liam eventually since we started to hit it off and he told me he was bi, and he said “Sorry, you’re not my type. I’m not into shy guys with… disabilities.” (I’m neurodivergent) I said okay and cried but was into him for all of freshman year and part of sophomore.

After they broke up, Karl and Liam were fine, but towards the end of junior year, started acting very weird towards Liam and avoiding him, so I thought they got into a fight. Liam then started to take photos of Karl and post them online along with his address or phone number depending on the post because “Karl is an ass and none of you should be friends with him”.

Karl never knew about this and I didn’t find out about the address thing until recently. I asked Karl at the beginning of senior year why he was acting this way towards Liam, and Karl told me “because Liam’s weird and we don’t have anything in common”. I did not further question anything.

BE Later on, Karl became somewhat attached to me and would spend a lot of time with me. He made a joke that I was his wife and that we should get married and live together, which I took as just that: a joke.

We started to hang out more, Karl would compliment me a lot (I’d do likewise) and we’d help each other with work, but we could never hang out because he had sports. Before I turned 18, I realized one night I couldn’t stop thinking about him and even had a dream about him. I suddenly found him sexy as hell.

I started questioning whether or not I liked him, and later realized, “Of course I do!”. I remember one time, which I posted about, he called me cute. I also realized he always seemed to treat me slightly differently than others, but I didn’t know if it was because of my condition or because of another reason. He would be very flirty and touchy with most people, for example, but never me.

He would sometimes be moody, somehow forget when I had partners in the past (he forgot I had a girlfriend), and get especially moody on the subject of romance. I also realized even though he was sad when I broke up with her, he started to compliment me more and be nice after the fact.

Now, he’s being moody again. When we work together, he’ll be nice and help me, but sometimes he’ll be very snippy and rude. He’ll boss me around, tell me he doesn’t like me, or treat me like his pet, but then he’ll be normal toward me. He also seems to have brought me up quite a few times to his parents and is not at all opposed to us hanging out when he can.

With his rude behavior, I don’t even know if I like him that way anymore, but I’m still curious as to how he MAY feel about me.

I, in the past, have posted about my journey with Karl, but I realized he was really moody, had internalized homophobia, and though at times he was nice, his moodiness, bossiness and somewhat rude behavior wasn’t a good match for me.

I remember after hearing I was talking to a girl (romantically), he got a bit mad and moody. He gets really weird on the topic of crushes as well but his behavior reminds me too much of some annoying girl in freshman year.

I guess I like him a little and I’m just upset a bit, but still.

In the end this ramble will be pretty meaningless until I actually manage to have any actual relationship, cuz its kinda dumb to talk about it never being in one (well technically there was one week long disaster, but that's not a story for today). Ive got disorders and am well aware of my perception of reality being distorted, which doesn't mean I actually can recognize these distortions. For some reason, whether those distortions or experience, I consider gay peoples very cool and interesting and it would kinda feel nice to be one of those? I think? Idk, am histrionic, Ive had a history of jokingly flirting with all irl friends regardless of gender, but I did it more for the sport of it than to make it into something serious (don't do it anymore, realized it was too easy for me to overstep boundaries). Sometimes I get a like on a dating app from a man I would consider really fucking good lookin', but like, why do they send me a like to never ever respond? I hate dating apps. So yeah, I just wanted to ramble a bit, please yell at me if you mind

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he (19nb) and i (18f) plan on having sex sometime in the near future, but the only thing is i’m a virgin, so he’ll be my first.

i feel like if he loves me, he won’t care that much, but what if i end up being TERRIBLE at sex?

So, yes, I still like Karl, the guy I’ve been talking about, but I can be attracted to more than one person.

So, Nichole (17F) and I (18nb) have been talking a lot more recently. We’ve been friends since sophomore year (she was a freshman) but we haven’t really talked until recently.

I started to gain feelings for her after we did more stuff together, like calling.

Quite recently, we were discussing sex, and she said she would be down to have sex with me.

She also said that we could date if I wanted to, but if I didn’t see her that way, we could just be friends with benefits.

sooooo… i kinda just got out of a ”situationship” as they call it. however, i (18f) have kind of liked someone (19nb) on-and-off, a friend i’ve known who ISN’T long distance.

i liked them at first when i was around 17, them 18, but they were already dating so i decided to move on. we started chatting again and i still kinda liked them but didn’t notice, and they liked me too and just confessed recently.

omg i love him so much!! i have a bf nowwww :3

So, I (18nb) have posted about Karl (18m) before. I’ve had a huge crush on him for a while. Everything about him is so hot.

I’m into him in many different ways, which has never happened before (but obviously I want to try for romantic).

Buuut, after we go our separate ways due to going to different universities, we aren’t gonna see each other ever.

I will also probably be going to a different town, and I only had a few classes with him which I don’t anymore.

I’ve tried possibly going to his house and arranging dates to hang out but he’s really busy with athletics and I can’t text him because he doesn’t use his phone.

honestly, francine, stan and hayley too.

I already told you how it all started in my previous posts, but now it's different because I started having sex with him, before he only gave me blowjobs and now I started fucking his ass. I have to admit that it's a very nice thing to do, I've never fucked a butt before, I've always fucked pussies.

and I'm a little confused, because it started for money [not counting the jerk off we did in college watching porn] and I feel absolutely nothing for him other than friendship and brotherhood, he doesn't attract me at all but I enjoy fucking him, although it's not as satisfying as doing it with a woman.

and I realized that what I enjoy is having a man on a par dominated and in my power. that makes me horny and I don't know why.

for anyone who wants to give proper advice or know our ages, yes, we are still quite young. i’m 18f, he’s 19.

i recently broke up with sam, my long-distance bf of a few years because he ghosted me. last night, he finally answered his phone and got to talk to me, that he’d love to still be friends but he was ghosting due to poor mental health.

he explained that he knew it was wrong and he should’ve done something other than ghosting his gf, and despite having mental health problems, he still indeed had feelings for me and would like to give it another try when he can be a better bf and is more mentally stable.

on one hand, i kind of hope he doesn’t lose feelings for me, as i think my feelings for him are still kinda there, but i also would support him with romance and such no matter what, and even if he doesn’t have feelings for anyone.

i also hope he gets better and don’t want to pressure him into a relationship he’s obviously not ready for. i think he should take his time. i also need a break due to being hurt, recently breaking up, and having been ghosted.

but i’m no longer upset that it happened as i got to talk to him, and would be willing to give it another try.

i guess this no longer makes me a lesbian romantically but biromantic :)

Translation for the Spanish part:

Me: You’re the best girlfriend!!

Her: I’m notttt

You are

I don’t want to have this discussion 😠

It’s you

You’re the winner

Me: AAAAAAAAA

Very well then

This is why I love lesbian relationships

Her: Real/True

I made a Lemmy account

I love regardless of gender. Some people swoon over men, some over women. I'd swoon over anyone.

I was straight until my first girl crush in high school. For a while, I was bi with a heavy preference for men.

Now, don't get me wrong, I still like men, but as I got older, I like them less and had bad luck with them (primarily regarding sex or emotional unavailability or even cheating). While not all men are this way, it still changed my perception of them in dating.

I'm happy with my current GF as of now.

To add more lightheartedness to this community, I’m so excited for my friend Karl to not be sick so I can see him.

(I may not know if he likes me or not, and he may act a little strange, but I know he likes me as a friend and that’s great!)

(for now, i’m probably a lesbian but I’m currently talking about male love interests, so maybe it’d be best to say here)

i’m getting over a breakup with a guy who didn’t even care about me, include me in anything, nor tell anyone about me (he would also tell guys he was single, as i found out later).

i think he turned out to be gay and ghosted me because of it, but it’s still bad to not just tell me that, along with the other stuff.

there is this other guy (let’s say ethan because i barely remember his real name anyway) who i blocked because he kept harassing me. at first, i was happy to start being his online friend (i had many which both my bf and gf also have and were ok with this) and thought he was being flirty/calling me pretty to be silly.

i told him several times i wasn’t interested, and if he kept asking if i would be his gf, flirting, and calling me hot/pretty/etc. i would block him.

now, if my partners (bf [now ex] & gf) knew about the person i was dating, they would let me be open, so i was considering introducing him to them to make him happy.

however, i told my bf (gf is hardly ever available) about ethan and even he found him weird, and i told him my bf said no. if he said no, i wouldn’t ask my gf due to it not being fair if one said yes and the other said no.

ethan persisted that i either break up or cheat, and i said no to both. he said he would treat me a lot better than they could, and for some reason, would completely ignore the fact that i liked girls and had a gf, only focusing on my bf. (acted like i was single when i told him i still had a gf but broke up with my bf)

he guilt tripped me and got upset at me for saying no, and when i unblocked him after a while to see how he was doing (if he found a girl, if he was doing better and would stop flirting, if he lost feelings, etc.)

now, he also had just gotten over a breakup (i know it’s a bad sign that he kept criticizing her after they broke up though and that i’m “so much better and kinder than her”), and he “doesn’t even miss her”?

they had dated for a few years, since he was age 16, but apparently he left after she started showing signs of schizophrenia?

our convo started out normal after i decided to catch up with him and i told him i was going through a breakup. he told me we should start going through a talking stage (“if you want to of course!”), because, like he said before “he could treat me so much better than anyone else”. i knew that “if i wanted to” was just him being nice, because he didn’t care about my consent either way, he would get mad and pressure me into “consenting” if I said no.

he also told me how he lost his virginity with his ex when they dated sometime at 16, so i’m scared if we decided to meet up, he would somehow pressure me into doing the deed with him.

i know these are all red flags, and my ex had higher standards/ethics (is that the word?) than this dude, but it’s honestly such a big step for me to go from not receiving any attention to receiving a lot of attention.

should i follow through with it and, when my girlfriend is available to talk (she’s going thru a lot) start talking to him? or am i just feeling bad because of my breakup? would it be worth it to trust ethan and give it a shot?

Not my favourite Moonchild Sanelly track (Gwara Gwara), but it's fun and just I love the revelling in bi-ness here.

Edit: also riffing on her older and more fun (and sexual) track Boys and Girls.

I’m 18nb but amab, guy I like (Karl) is 18M and quite religious.

He seems to be fine with LGBT and makes a lot of gay jokes (he flirts with all his friends except me, save the one time he said I was cute) but also has a religious family + culture and internalized homophobia.

He calls the guys his boyfriend/hubby and the girls his girlfriend/wifey as a joke. He also calls them hot or smacks their butt/holds their hand (consensually) but seems shyer/less willing around me.

I know he’s not straight because he went out with a guy, so I at least have some sort of chance with him.

Anyway, regardless of whether or not he actually likes me, he was very reluctant to admit it to his now ex-boyfriend, and with religious parents and internalized homophobia, I’m not sure how to follow through if I do confess.

Hi, I wanted to share a personal experience I've had with my roommate and close friend, to see if anyone else has been through something similar or has advice on how to handle this situation.

It all started in 2023, when I entered college. My friend (let's call him "Alex") and I became roommates from freshman year. Alex is bisexual, although I didn't know that at the time. We got along really well from the start, and living together was pretty normal. Back then, I had a girlfriend, and Alex always gave us space when we needed privacy in the room.

My girlfriend and I broke up. After that, the dynamic between Alex and I changed. We spent a lot of time together in the room, and over time we became more comfortable with our intimacy. There were a couple of times when we caught each other masturbating, but instead of it being awkward, we talked about it and normalized it. By the end of 2023, we were already so comfortable that we could stand in our underwear in front of each other and even change clothes without any problems.

In 2024, things took a more intense turn. One night, after a tiring day of studying, we decided to smoke weed. It was my first time doing it, although Alex was already experienced. We were watching an episode of Game of Thrones when suddenly, we ended up watching porn together. We started masturbating at the same time, and at one point, Alex touched me and I touched him. He ended up masturbating me until I came. The next day, we talked about it and we both agreed that it wasn't awkward, although it was a little weird.

After that, we started watching porn together more often, but without touching each other. However, our senior year of college, we decided to become roommates again. During that year, the dynamic intensified. We started masturbating each other from time to time, and while it was sporadic at first, it eventually became more frequent.

After graduating, we decided to continue living together to save on rent. That year, Alex confessed to me that he was bisexual, although he clarified that he was not attracted to me. At the time, I felt a little rejected, I don't know why, but we talked about it and got over it.

We decided to do adult content together again, but this time more explicit. We recorded videos of each other masturbating, and on one occasion, Alex gave me a blowjob. While I enjoyed the experience, I still don't consider myself gay or bisexual. I don't feel romantic or sexual attraction towards men in general, or Alex in particular. He's also made it clear that he's not attracted to me, and we've both set clear boundaries in our relationship.

Now, in 2025, we still live together and occasionally make content together, but always respecting our boundaries. However, Alex recently made me a proposition that has me thinking. He told me that we could do anal penetration content, and that he'd be willing to have me fuck him. For me, that's already a boundary I'm not sure I want to cross. While I enjoy the dynamic we have, I feel like this could change things between us.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How do you guys handle the line between friendship and physical intimacy? Do you think crossing this boundary could affect our friendship in the long run? I appreciate any advice or insight. Thanks for reading.

Marilyn Monroe and The Fonz, my childhood crushes