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These mods on their power-trips really need to stop (programming.dev)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I just got banned from [email protected], which seems to be the biggest Linux community out there.

For context, it was about the recent Vaxerski incident, where I shared my personal opinion about the whole gender stuff. I wasn't even trying to be hurtful against anyone, just shared my 2 cents in an already ongoing conversation.

Sure, ine might not agree with my opinion, and I don't agree with others, and this is totally normal. But at least we should be able to have sane and respectful conversations where no one is insulting each other, or anyone else... without having a mod intervening into the conversation

So to all the mods out there: Your personal opinion does not give you the right to delete comments and block users, just because their opinions don't align with yours!

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[–] [email protected] 94 points 11 months ago (8 children)

If anyone wants to know why this user was banned.

[–] [email protected] 52 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Lmao. So OP is unwilling to show others the simple courtesy of respecting their gender identity then comes running here to whine about dIsReSpeCt because their bigoted hot take got them a three day ban from a community. 🙄

Edit: Ooooh and they're on a three day old account too? In that case I give it an hour or two before they realize they aren't getting any sympathy here and run to r/RedditAlternatives to complain about "censorship" on Lemmy and lament the lack of freeze peach reddit alternatives.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Regarding my account... I was previously on lemmy.world, (under the same username) but moved to programming.dev since world defederated from piracy@dbzer0, and I didn't want to have multiple accounts.

So yeah, it's new in that manner, but I'm surely not a troll.

[–] [email protected] 51 points 11 months ago

As soon as I saw it was about "the whole gender stuff" I knew it had to be some garbage bigoted take lol

[–] [email protected] 32 points 11 months ago

On par for people complaing about a ban.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 11 months ago

The funniest part is that privileged people get pissy about being called by their title all the time, it does sometimes materialize in jokes, but that's still punching up.

As a fun experiment I misgender bigots until they got mad about it. It doesn't take long.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 11 months ago

I love open mod logs.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago

Thanks for the info.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

As I said, this is my opinion, I didn't impose my opinion onto others and i certainly don't expect everyone to agree with me.

But I don't think a ~~perma~~-ban from the whole community is the right answer here.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 11 months ago (7 children)

It was a temp ban

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Thanks for the recap. My upvote for this post is now a downvote.

[–] [email protected] 57 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

It looks like you were temp banned from the linux community for 3 days

The comment you made was transphobia which goes against the programming.dev code of conduct. I suggest reading the comment of the user who replied to you and learning how to respect people more

This comment

does not qualify as a "respectful conversations where no one is insulting each other, or anyone else"

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

thx, didn't know I could look it up, and also didn't receive a notification.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Yeah lemmy currently doesn't send notifications about moderation actions

Some mod teams add it in through manually dming (which usually will happen here if someone on the admin team is warning, banning, etc. you (apart from site bans which the user wouldn't be able to access their messages from) and its not just an obvious spammer or bot) or code their own systems to notify about actions

Everything's viewable in the modlog though and you can filter by yourself to see all actions made relating to you

[–] [email protected] 35 points 11 months ago (12 children)

Refusing to treat people with the barest minimum of respect is not a "personal opinion", it's behavior that no space should tolerate.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

Okay you're being a bigot. You know why? Because people aren't demanding to be called "your highness". They are just asking to be called with their preferred probouns. Putting neo pronouns aside, it's not a heavy burden to be called he / she / it / they.

And this is the internet! The are no bodies, only usernames. Why do you care if a person claiming to be a girl demands to be called a she? Oh my fucking god,what a scandal! The oppression imposed upon you, a free citizen, demanding that you have to use a pronoun different than "he" on the internet! The world is doomed! 😱 /s

What you're really asking for is the "right" to harass trans people (by misgendering them) because you don't like them and abhor the idea of women having something extra down there. (it's not like they're plotting to force sex you, just leave them be, okay?) Not only that, you're so obsessed with hating them that you went out of your way to post your biased opinion ON A LINUX FORUM.

You're being a transphobic asshole, and the mods were perfectly right in banning you.

Just accept that there are different people in the world. If you have a problem with that, maybe it's you who needs professional help.

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[+] [email protected] 25 points 11 months ago (1 children)

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Transphobic leaves a lot of room for interpretation. Let's take islam as an example... btw, I'm a muslim.

If I'd say something along these lines "It's absurd that we live in a society where people feel the urge to tell me to greet them with 'sallam alleykum'".

Would that be islamophobic?

And yes, I agree, If I were to go around and just write these types of comments on every occasion, sure, that'd be a rightful ban.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago (2 children)

“It’s absurd that we live in a society where people feel the urge to tell me to greet them with ‘sallam alleykum’”.

There's already a huge difference between what happened and your example here. Your example is "people saying you must do X" . What happens when it comes to gender is people asking, "please do not do X".

They're not saying you must refer to them as, for instance, she/her, but rather asking that you do not refer to them as he/him/they/them/whatever. You're free to just not use pronouns to refer to them at all if that suits you better - you can refer to them by name instead. You're left with plenty of options and only a handful of restrictions.

Your example, on the other hand, is completely restrictive; you must take this single course of action, and there are no alternatives.

For what it's worth, I do think we're in a fairly transitional stage (ha) of how we as society deal with transgenderism. I think people being made to change their pronouns in order to feel comfortable is silly. Not because those people are silly - they're just doing what they can to feel comfortable with the restrictions society has placed on them - but because society and language are silly.

Why do we refer to people by gender at times when it's completely irrelevant? Someone having a penis, or male hormones, or whatever other "masculine qualities", is irrelevant 99% of the time when I refer to them as he/him. If I say, "Donald Trump? Yeah, he's a corrupt idiot," then why does him having a penis have any bearing on the language I use there?

And why do we have such gendered roles in society? Why can't men just wear dresses and make-up and link the colour pink and still identify as men? Why can't women cut their hair short and wear baggy clothes and like engineering projects and lifting weights at the gym and still identify as women? I guarantee that if we could remove all those kinds of gender associations, you'd see a lot less trans people.

People transition because who they are and what they like, and what society says they have to be (based on their gender) are at odds with each other, and it's literally easier for them to change gender in order to be allowed to be themselves than to change society. Being trans isn't some kind of personal failing; it's a failure of society to accommodate people who deviate even slightly from its rigid roles and expectations.

The ideal future, such as I see it, is for there to be no trans people because no-one feels a need to transition - they can just feel comfortable and accepted as they are. But until then, you need to recognise that there's a societal issue and stop being a part of it. It takes such a small amount of effort on your part to use the pronouns someone requests, or to avoid using pronouns at all, and it makes such a huge difference to them to be gendered properly. So just be a decent, respectful person and accommodate their wishes and stop making their life worse.

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[–] MrPibb 9 points 11 months ago (2 children)

And this class is called, say it with me, a false equivalence argument. A false equivalence being when an equivalence is drawn between two subjects based on flawed or false logic.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Why do you think it's absurd to use proper pronouns? No it's not absurd, it's just being a decent human being.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, I don't see it any different from a person that says

"I want to be called Micheal, not Mike"

[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Clearly Mike needs to stop being absurd.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

Mike is being such a Micheal!

[–] [email protected] 23 points 11 months ago

I wasn't even trying to be hurtful

Next time try to not be hurtful. Internalize the difference.

we should be able to have sane and respectful conversations

I agree but then some folks come along and fuck it up.

So to all the mods out there: Your personal opiniondoes not give you the right to delete comments and block users, just because their opinions don't align with yours!

Absolutely it does. Their sub; their rules. Lemmy is not a democracy.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 11 months ago

Just in case the mod responsible is here in the room with us, just wanted to say thank you.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 11 months ago

[–] [email protected] 16 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

sorry buddy but you did transphobia. whether or not you are in the mood to label it as such that’s what it was.

i have beef with power tripping mods as much as you but this is in no way an example of that.

edit: also it was a three day ban? i have seen folks permabanned for similar. be thankful you are allowed to return, look inwards and do some self examination instead of complaining.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 11 months ago

lol. The disconnect.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I shared my personal opinion about the whole gender stuff.

Keep your shitty opinions that don't concern others to yourself. Seems like people are not interested

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago

Welcome to my block list. I guess I'm power tripping.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (5 children)

Totally agree, opinion shouldn't enter into such decisions. It's emotional immaturity to do so.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (4 children)

I neither know you nor your content, but let's presume that what you posted was percieved as an utter garbage position to have. Yeah, that's what downvotes are for.

But a ban? Those aren't for people whos opinions you disagree with. Those are for cleaning up after people who intentionally tris to stir up something.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

Fitting.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Well, my @programming.dev account got banned!

I guess, I'll just have to shut up, and just keep posting memes. 🤷🏻

[–] [email protected] 11 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Thanks for telling on yourself so I can block this account too. Please continue replying with any more alts you have so I don’t miss any.

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