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Honestly, I will never wrap my head around how people can happily bring infants on any flight where you can expect people to try and sleep, it's incredibly lucky if they don't spend some of it screaming their heads off—I would be mortified if my choices were preventing hundreds of people from sleeping. But I'm not going to rant too hard about that.

Why on earth hasn't any airline started marketing adult-only flights?

It seems like a complete no brainer to me, I would choose it every time and pay extra for it.

Disclaimer: I may or may not be on a 36h day with only an hour of sleep right now

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[–] [email protected] 46 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I have kids and when I took them on trips when they were little, I would book the most direct option. I didn't consider the option where I could inconvenience the most entitled people.

I'll never get why people get so worked up by babies crying on airplanes. The kids parents are just trying to get somewhere, same as everyone else. The plane is not your bedroom, or office, theater, or library. You know what you're getting into when you board. You're going to be in close quarters with strangers. Some of them might be kids that cry, some might be so old or weak that they have trouble stuffing their oversized carry on into the overhead bin. The difference is the weak person could have chosen to check the bag. Can you tell what my flying pet annoyance is? You just never know what you're gonna get.

Like someone already said, the airlines don't do it bc there's no money in it.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 8 months ago (1 children)

If you're an adult who doesn't have or don't work around children it's hard to overstate how irritating they are. The noise, lack of self-awareness, the energy, the stickiness, and you have to censor yourself around them. Additionally, they're way harder to reason with (if they even can communicate) and parents are notoriously shitty and self-righteous. Finally adults have consequences. If an adult screams their head off, runs up and down the aisles, or hit people around them then flight attendants can do something

You also act like that child HAS to be on that plane. You can drive, you could leave the kid with someone else, you could take a train, a bus, or you could just not go. We know planes specifically are really uncomfortable for babies because of the pressure. You chose to have a kid presumably knowing that you'd be making sacrifices for them. Maybe one of those sacrifices should be flying until they're old enough to behave

[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I don’t mind kids on planes. They can be loud or obnoxious but adults can be worse, so whatever. If you have such a problem, you can drive, take a train or just not go, you know?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I'm an adult with adult responsibilities and obligations. Occasionally I do have to be on a plane. That child's presence is almost certainly not required somewhere with such urgency that they simply must be on a plane. Also I can and do behave myself so I don't need to be justified. Babies usually can't and don't, which is why we're having this conversation in the first place

[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago (1 children)

We need a travel justification board so only truly necessary air travel is authorized and approved. Nein. No babiez on ze plane

Consider it the price you pay for travel freedom.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Maybe let's chill on comparing people who don't want to be annoyed by babies on airplanes to nazis?

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Same. I've flown more than most, sometimes with screaming kids nearby. Normally I don't mind beyond the extra noise, provided that I'm well rested. The times when getting proper rest onboard is important, I book business class, and I don't think I've ever seen kids in there.

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[–] [email protected] 39 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (2 children)

Parents are mortified when their kids are screaming on a flight. They didn't want this either.

A good pair of earplugs (e.g. loop) can help tremendously.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 8 months ago (5 children)

Well kinda said I wasn't looking to rant about this part, but okay:

When the child is two seats over, my loops are not helping. When another child is running up and down the aisle every 20 mins, ear plugs aren't the solution either.

I simply would not choose a flight where the majority of people would be trying to sleep if I were a parent. I would not want to put myself in a situation where it could even happen, no one wants to be mortified and on a long flight it approaches certainty.

A screaming child on a 4h middle-of-the-day flight is annoying but bearable. Screaming children on a double-digit hour overnight flight ruins many people's days.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Some people have families in far away countries. I hate to say it dude, but it's just one of those things.

No one enjoys screaming children in an enclosed space, especially not parents who already have to deal with child nonsense on a daily basis.

Maybe you don't see it, but these situations are really distressing for parents and it would serve humanity well if we could have a little empathy for them.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

This is the part that I always find mind boggling. Yeah, parents who don’t parent exist, but the vast majority want the screaming to stop just as much as anybody else, if not more…

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 months ago (1 children)

e.g. loop

Or a pair of non-meme plugs that's designed to actually block all noise. Mack's Ultra Soft are quite excellent.

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 8 months ago (3 children)

It seems like a complete no brainer to me, I would choose it every time and pay extra for it

This part obviously isn't true, or else you would have paid for First or Business class. There's no guarantee that the expensive seats are kid-free, but it's much more likely. They'll give you free booze, too.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

When I last flew international, my mum took business and the rest of us took economy. There was no noise on economy, but crying babies in business. The reason OP won't pay extra for that is probably because there is no guarantee at all that it will be any quieter. It is not the same thing as what they want.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 8 months ago

Well I paid up from economy, but that wasn't enough apparently, the free booze helps but as you say it's no guarantee.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago

Home alone did it right, parents in the front kids in the back

[–] [email protected] 26 points 8 months ago (4 children)

Grow up. You think it’s fun for us when our kids flip out? What are we supposed to do, hit them so you don’t get a little bit disturbed?

Grow the fuck up and realize this world isn’t just you.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 8 months ago (2 children)

And the world isn't just about them? Bit of a selfish argument

I'm just wanting to opt out, I'm not the one choosing to bring kids that will inevitably scream on an overnight flight where people are going to be trying to sleep. There are plenty of flights where people won't be trying to sleep.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 8 months ago

If hitting your kids is the only way you can think of for getting them to behave, you're very much part of the problem.

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Disclaimer: I may or may not be on a 36h day with only an hour of sleep right now

Lemme guess: kids?

Also to answer your question https://www.alternativeairlines.com/child-free-flights . No child-free flights, but child-free zones on flights.

All the people here talking about "just use headphones with ANC" haven't been a seat or two away from a crying child. It's not the child's fault and often not that of the parents (they have to travel too), but having adults-only flights would be amazing. I'd pay extra too to be on a long-haul flight without kids. Some adults do act like kids too, but it's not possible to ban them.

And to the people acting mortified and all high and mighty: there are adults only places. Are you going to get offended about those too? The proposal isn't to ban kids from all flights. It's to offer some flights without kids.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Honestly thanks for getting it, I expected the odd parent to take some weird personal offence at me wanting an option to not fly with kids around and get all defensive, but I didn't expect quite this level of vitriol. It's not like I want them to not fly, like it seems is the suggested solution for me—or y'know the practical solution of chartering a bloody private jet(?!). I just want to sleep on a 14h overnight flight by removing myself from the situation preventing it, and will even (or rather, actually tried to) spend a bit more to do so, but clearly that's just me being an entitled arsehole.

Cheers for the great resource, it's a shame there's only a few options currently, but perhaps the list will grow. Tbh even just explicitly quiet zones being more prevalent would probably be a good solution for me. There are quiet carriages on pretty much all the trains in my country that don't even cost extra, and I've never seen young children in those. That's never seemed like a remotely controversial idea—I'm basically just looking for an equivalent for planes.

Agree on the ANC comment too, I've had top of the range Sony, Bose and Google ANC headphones and none can actually get rid of kid noise like screaming, they'll distort it a bit maybe. If anything the cancelling of the plane engine noise can emphasise it at times because it's the only thing that makes it through.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Haha. Are you comparing a strip club to public transport? That's a new one for me

[–] [email protected] 19 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I think you're telling on yourself a little here. If someone says "adults only space" and you immediately go to strip club instead of bar, club, comedy clubs, lounges, etc. then maybe that's about you

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I never understood why people jump on planes without noise canceling headphones and expect to be sleeping while sitting in a uncomfortable chair.

You can choose to bring noise canceling headphones but you choose not to. The infant can't choose.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Kids aside, I don't know how anyone is able to sleep in an upright chair to begin with.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 months ago (1 children)

If you're tired, you'll sleep in almost any position. I'm not talking good sleep, 8 hours and waking up well-rested.

Recently, I feel asleep on a train, sitting in a jump seat, going sideways, my head against a window. Some evenings, after work, I fall asleep in my living room chair.

Some people even fall asleep while driving a car.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Honestly, I will never wrap my head around how people can happily bring infants on any flight.

Parents want and need to travel too, and they can't just abandon their babies at home and feel bad leaving them with other relatives. For overseas trips your only alternative to flying is a weeklong boat trip, and parents would need to make preparations for diapers and a whole lot of other things just to make this trip.

Babies and small children will make noise on buses, planes, cars, boats and trains or wherever they are. They don't save it for a specific moment but it's understandable they get stressed when riding something for the first time. You and I were babies at some point.

I would choose it every time and pay extra for it.

For domestic/continental travel, ride a train and book a solo sleeper car.

For flying, well... book a private charter flight and invite only adults/no one for guaranteed peace and quiet.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 8 months ago (1 children)

There's a spectrum, you can always charter a jet, and only allow other adults to join you on the charter. But that's expensive.

As you pull in more and more strangers, you have to accept a broader spectrum of people's lifestyles, including they need to move children.

From an airline perspective, it wouldn't be a good look if you were excluding parents, so it would be a PR nightmare. Most people belong to families, even if they don't have kids themselves, so a bad experience any member of their family had could reduce the amount of popularity your airline enjoy

However, it would be nice if airlines said, the back of the plane is the safest for children, which statistically it is, so children are only allowed to sit in the last 10 rows of the flight. That would be amazing

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That would mean additional logistics and therefore costs for the airlines. So, no. As long as people accept being squeezed into cattle class and treated like cattle, the airlines have no incentive to change.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 8 months ago

Not enough demand. Most people aren't going to pay extra for a child free flight, especially if it's a short flight. Most people will easily put up with a screaming child for a two hour flight if they can save several hundred dollars that they don't have anyway.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 8 months ago

They exist. They're called private jets.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Like someone already said: Good pair of earbuds do wonders. Get the noice cancelling ones and you’re good to go.

Noisy kids (or noisy people in general) will continue to exist and as long as you use planes or public transport you have to deal with them.

Shoutout to every jackass who FaceTimes in a train.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago

Let's take a moment to talk about the swathe of fully grown adults who think it's OK to not use headphones on public transport...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago

Various adults-only flights (and I think even an airline, but I might be mistaken) did exist. You could argue about 9/11 and later financial troubles factoring into their demise, but they're usually more expensive and less frequent/convenient and thus are not popular.

Second, if you can afford to fly enough that this is a regular occurrence, get noise-canceling headphones.

Third, not all people who are traveling with small children are doing it because they want to: funerals, work relocation, etc. are a thing that are impractical to do via other modes of transportation. If my work and the internet were good enough, I'd love to just boat everywhere out of my current country, but that's not going to happen (although I don't have kids, so it wouldn't matter for this post, I suppose).

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago

Feel free to cross post to [email protected] for additional opinions

[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I truly do not understand why people don't simply wait until the kid is old enough to handle frying before travelling with an airplane. My family travelled a lot by train, or sometimes car, then when I was around 7 or 8 years old we took a short flight.

Babies really won't remember anything of the trip anyway, I really feel that travelling by plane is one of the things that you sacrifice for the first years of having a child. Call me entitled or whatever, but your childs screaming or running around on the plane is absolutely annoying to others.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 8 months ago

Generally, you avoid frying your offspring.

But WRT the OPs concerns of flying; People move, get jobs in other cities and countries, have kids, want to visit families, grandparents get sick, etc.

There’s a whole range of reasons why. Going “whelp, you had kids, sorry we’re going to ostracise you from society until your crotchspawn can keep quiet” isn’t exactly an inclusive attitude.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago

Did Australia to London, plane full of screaming babies. Slept 16 of the 24 hours flight time.

What’s my secret? Anti-psychotics.

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