You should never propose if you are not 100% sure the answer is yes. You talk about it before. The only thing that should be a surprise is where and how you propose.
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I agree, but I would also add "the particulars of when" to the list of surprising qualities.
To be fair — if I talked to my hypothetical pilot boyfriend and agreed I would marry him and then he proposes on a flight he pilots, in front of all the passengers, I might say No no matter what we discussed previously. Because that would certainly make me question the whole relationship.
There can never be a 100% sure while the where and how to propose is still open, since it includes a lot of scenarios that range from uncomfortable to batshit insane.
Hopefully your hypothetical pilot boyfriend would understand that about you before proposing and not do such a thing.
Presumably in the OP, he had a sense of what would be exciting for her.
That was kinda my point. If you rely on the fact that your boyfriend or girlfriend understands you well enough that they wouldn't do a proposal that makes you feel uncomfortable, then them doing something like that might be a deal breaker or at least not an immediate yes. Because it would make you rethink whether they really understand you. But we're probably getting lost in hypotheticals here. As long as everyone involved in the OP was happy, I'm happy for them.
By hypothetical do you mean AI boyfriend and by say no do you mean your just worried about the plane being distracted? It didn't go well for Bender I doubt it would for you.
is that what you should or shouldn't do, eh?
I don’t understand public proposals intentionally done before a crowd. Proposals at other people’s weddings are downright bizarre.
They are only bizare if they didn't get permission from the couple that's having their wedding.
Otherwise they can be a nice suprise for the wedding.
As for public one's in general they are 100% bizarre.
I think this only makes sense if the engaging couple are like super close with the wedding pair. And even then it depends a lot on the personalities of the couple getting married
Exactly why I mentioned getting permission.
My point is that even asking permission is very weird in most cases.
Yeah, you're basically asking for permission to upstage the couple getting married at their own wedding.
I think it depends on the presentation and timing,
If you ask for permissions and the ceouple agrees, the couple can mention that is another important annoncment happenning and they let the ither couple do their thing, can end up being a nice memory if done correctly and they don't really upstage it if done correctly, only add to the happines of the event.
But if done abruptly and without permission then yes, i agree it's just upstaging and destroying thr wedding of someone else.
Note: here it's normal for couples to propose on someone's wedding if they got permission and the couple having the wedding announces something happenning. Ends uo being a nice memorh where the two couples come together and celebrate getting married and proposed to.
I agree with this. A wedding exists to celebrate love and happiness. I could never be upset at someone bringing additional love and happiness to my celebration of love and happiness. People who are have missed the point of a wedding, I think.
If they're an asshole about it and completely take over the wedding with it, sure. But that doesn't really happen. Your wedding has an invite list, everyone you invited came here to see your wedding, presumably they aren't all itching to go see this other extra proposal/wedding that cropped up out of nowhere.
Because marriages and weddings are to show the community you're together. That's the whole point. Some people are a bit more extrovert about it than others, as in all things.
Yeah but community pressure shouldn't factor into the equation when making the decison
Chances are, they've talked about it beforehand and it's only a matter of making the decision public...
Yes, but just like how I might say I want a cup of tea later, only for later to come and I realise that I dont actually want the tea after all, I should be able to refuse without feeling pressured to conform because of the expecting audience
Well, I'm hoping, they also talked about whether she wants a public proposal. If she told him to ask her with a megaphone, whether she wants tea, then she's hopefully sure enough. Well, and it's not either like she'll have to empty that cup of tea right then and there. There's still plenty ways to back out, if she starts doubting herself.
here's indeed to hoping all of that
Yeah except people do care about this.
Not me though!
Unless others also care about this? In which case yeah I agree.
the more people are watching, the harder it is to say no
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The implication 😈
“No one’s in any danger! How could I make that any more clear to you? Okay. It’s an implication of danger.”
I imagine things would take a nosedive
"Ehhh, this is your captain speaking, ehhh, we're gonna be experiencing some turbulence as the plane heads straight down into the ocean, ehhh, please remain seated while the seat belt light is on."
"ALRIGHT! I"LL SAY YES BUT PLEASE GET BACK INTO THE COCKPIT AND FLY THE PLANE!"
Did you get clearance, Clarence?
Roger, Roger.
That's an implication for sure
Because if the girl said 'no', then the answer is obviously 'no'. But the thing is she is not gonna say no. She would never say 'no', because of the implication.
Really makes you think, was this what happened with MH370? Was this theory ever put out there
I'm sure Russia tried that excuse at one point
I heard the pilot had three copies of The Sims 3
The other day we were playing a video game and my 5 year old shouted "DO AN AILERON ROLL!!"
We must be doing something right.
I mean, that's... the implication, right?
"Please say yes, for fucks sake!"
Me as a random passenger, 10 minutes after take-off, and crawling up on the shoreline...
Honestly I thought it said pilot proposed to "my" girlfriend.
To be fair, it doesn't specify whose girlfriend it was, so it could be yours.
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Makes sense, couldn't afford to take time off to do it somewhere nice
Some people like to do it somewhere important, or that has a special relevance to their relationship.
So really it was there or the delta Business lounge bathrooms.
That doesn't sound like good crew resource management...
Gordon Lightfoot plays softly in the background
🎶This old airport's got me down. It's no earthly good to me. And I'm stuck here on the ground, as cold and drunk as I can be🎶
And don't forget the coffee!
@ooli2 girls are smart, she's on the plane too. Yes, now, second thoughts when we're all on the ground 😉
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