As a single man I'd skip meals without even realizing, but now we plan meals together and if I don't say anything she will, so I don't miss many meals now
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It's worse if you add kids into the mix too.
Why? Do they taste bad or something?
They have a lot of calories
At one point with my kids I’d just skip my normal dinner and eat the Mac and cheese and chicken nuggets they didn’t.
With me it's usually I'm not hungry, and then they are so I have to make them something, but then like u said, I end up eating their leftovers after they eat 3 bites, but I'd otherwise not be eating at all til I was hungry.
My wife’s a really good cook, okay?
In other news, water is wet.
As soon as my partner started cooking all our meals I gained weight. When it was just my lazy ass feeding me, I ate simple things like a sandwich, noodles, or a microwave meal. I have no idea what she puts in the food (it's delicious) but the caloric intake is higher than when I was feeding myself.
Butter probably. I read somewhere that restaurant food is more tasty because they put lots more butter and sugar in it.
Is this correlation related to marriage specifically or can it also be observed in long-term, stable, cohabiting relationships?
In either case, what does this suggest?
I'd also like to see if they controlled for age. I'm currently on my phone so I'm not when going to bother hunting down the study.
Age is mentioned as a contributing factor in the news piece so they seem to have at least investigated both marriage and age (in addition to depression).
The news piece doesn't appear to link to any published study. They do mention that the findings will be presented so perhaps a peer-reviewed publication will follow too?
Anecdotally: I gained 50 pounds when my fiancé moved in, because like another comment said I stopped skipping meals like I did when I lived alone.
That people presented with food are unable to regulate the amount they eat in a healthy way.
See my other comment. We are not married. In fact, I started gaining weight before she officially moved in.
Yeah, this is currently my problem. We don’t have anyone to help take care of the children. I cannot exercise if I don’t wake up at like 4am (all the gums are closed) and ride my bike. This takes a toll on me however.
(all the gums are closed)
I don't know why, but I find this typo hilarious.
You cannot excercise your way to weightloss without also make serious diet changes.
Perhaps you did not read their username!
The thing is that I am eating very little. I am also almost in my 40s so my metabolism has started to slow down.
people always say this but like, do you just think 50kg of fat is the same thing as 50kg of muscle?
I don't understand your point. It's possible to be healthy with or without excess muscle. It's not healthy to carry excess fat.
It's not, but without a diet change you're unlikely to convert fat into muscle like that.
Can confirm. Separated a year ago. I'm down 90lbs
She only weighed 90lbs?!
Coincidentally when we met in highschool we were both toothpicks and she was 90lbs and I was like 115lbs.
In my experience, when a couple moves in together (ideally on the way to getting married), their thiccness level slowly converges until they reach an equilibrium on being thicc in the britches.
Which can be good or bad. I’ve seen friends get healthier and gain unwanted weight. I’m just a neutral observer. Some people need more meat on their bones. Some people need to hike every weekend instead of drinking a 30 rack watching sports or playing on the computer or whatever. Ideally, a couple adopts each other’s best qualities.
On the plus side, if you have kids they're statistically less likely to end up in prison.
👶 Thanks spherical dad 🪐 for keeping me out of prison.
On the plus side
Heh
Where is the source data for this article? It doesn’t seem to have any associated research document in its contents
Well, I am not one of those unmarried men. I'm a really good cook, okay?
It is only three times more, because they count the unmarried men in relationship. Versus single men i bet the probability is >x10.
We've all noticed this, right? Some of it is just age, but my dad ballooned just after he married and I doubt it was a coincidence.
When we stop fucking, but keep eating, our bodies have to do something.
Why do the unmarrieds be more obese then?
They are not. They are apparently much less likely to be obese.
Basically the rule among the average Balkan slavs, across sexes. :D
Fishermen return with less bait than they sailed out to sea with. News at 11
Buzz feed tomorrow: You’ll Never Guess the New Greatest Diet
The guy in the picture does not look obese to me, just overweight