WomensStuff

I know I shouldn't, but I've always had an issue with my weight. I went to an all girls school where anorexia was a way of life and my mother was really controlling about food. I used to restrict horribly as a teenager and was underweight. I wouldn't eat a lot of foods and sadly used to purge.

Even know it's ingrained into me that Eating Is Wrong. I don't weigh myself as it can get obsessive. It's not helped by being in my 40s, all the weight is on my belly and I can't lose it easily. I notice the difference with lads at work, they just eat something if they want it. Women at work just don't.

On the plus side I'm better than I used to be regarding it!

I’m not thrilled with my weight but mainly just because I want to be fit and healthy.

I don’t want to be strong like man who look pretty. I want to be strong like bitch that fight bears in the forest.

My biggest issue with my weight is feeling like I can’t talk to anyone about it because I struggle to keep weight on, rather than lose it. I had to see a nutritionist years ago because I was bordering on underweight. Normally I can keep to a specific number, but when I stop paying attention I start loosing it.

I’m “skinny fat”. But I can’t talk to many people about the problems of maintaining weight because from the outside they think I’m fit and healthy and should shut up because gaining is “easy”.

I'm glad to say I've developed a much better relationship with my weight over the last couple of decades. I had just crossed into the "Obese" BMI category before I decided I needed to make a change, and since then I've lost just over 1/5th of my total weight. At the rate I'm currently going I'll reach my old goals in another couple of years, but since starting hormone therapy and developing hips I'm now much more comfortable with carrying a bit of bellyfat and my goals now are less about reaching some arbitrary number as finding a happy equilibrium between my desire to be active and my desire to enjoy sweets.

A lot. I am disabled and I have been exercising as much as I possibly can. It's not much, but I try to still always stay moving so my joints don't hurt so bad. If I keep up, it only hurts when the weather is changing.

Untreated ADHD, a demanding job, and a broken body is a bad combo.

A lot. But I can’t seem to fix it. I recently got a physical to see if something was in my way, and nope, I’m 100% totally healthy according to my labs. So it’s just willpower, I guess, or lack thereof. I know I can’t wish for an easy fix and I shouldn’t be asking for health problems but it just makes me feel like I’m a failure because I can’t get myself under control.

I have been up and down the scale for most of my life. My main issue with my weight is how I'm treated at different sizes. People like and respect thin me, but I'm a pain in the butt and not worth anyone's time at my high weights. It's very difficult to not internalize that

Somewhat. I'm more annoyed that my belly is more man-ish than woman-ish and is bigger than my chest right now. Now, considering how well... endowed... the AFAB women in my family are and the fact that I've only been on hrt for about 5 months, that's gonna change. But... I feel like the "man belly" and lack of boobage contributes to me being misgendered despite all the people who know me saying I'm already basically fem-drogynous. It's a struggle not to abuse my hrt meds and take more than I'm supposed to.

I'm 30 damn it, if I'd come out 10yrs ago I'd probably be done transitioning.

Oh well.

Edit: something I like about the furry community is how much body-positive art exists. It used to be that the furry community had the same issues with idealizing anorexia; however, nowadays furry art tends to have a wide variety of body types ranging from relatively typical to chubby, stocky, morbidly obese, etc. Very affirming and helped me learn to be okay with my weight, though I'm still kinda annoyed with how my body fat is actually distributed. >.>

ive been off social media except reddit, discord, and lemmy for a decade, and i was genuinely confused at labeling that girl "fat". (and the guy, too).

i think im healing. i needed that hope today

My weight only bothers me when it starts affecting my knees.

I'm not happy with my weight. I very much need to exercise more and take more care with what I eat (waaaaay too many carbs), mildly terrified of diabetes (I have a family history of it). I don't like having a gut that sticks out but i don't want to end up super thin; don't care about having abs of steel either.

I used to, but mostly my weight was linked to me mental health - when I turned 30 I was overweight and very unfit, and also in a bad place both physically and mentally ... I decided I didn't want to die like that, so I intentionally destroyed my life and restarted.

Now, I don't look at my weight, but I do keep fit.

It bothers me quite a bit, honestly. Being on hormones kind of makes it difficult to maintain a healthy weight for me at times.

It doesn't bother me as much, but I care about my body and my health a lot more than I did pre-transition. I'm currently at a weight I would consider fair and do not want to gain anymore. I'm at a sweet spot where any more makes me feel meh but any less makes my bone structure more noticeable gives dysphoria.

I'm not considered overweight based on my height, but I weigh about 5-10 pounds more than I'd like to, since any excess weight seems to go to my tummy. I was a little mortified when the internet invented a new word to make people feel inadequate -- skinny fat -- because, yep, that's me. 😮‍💨 I can hide my stomach pretty well with clothes, and people say I'm thin, but it can hurt a little looking in the mirror, and swimming is out of the question.

I work out every day, but I just can't seem to get get the flat tummy I had in my college days.

Growing up watching obeese guys point out obeese women with zero self reflection was wild for me...

I think I'm a healthy normal weight, but it bothers me because I'm not on hormones yet so it's still distributed on me in a way that's dysphoria inducing. That's actually something I was dysphoric about for years before recognizing it for what it was. I used to run marathons, before my life went down the drain hard. Regained weight since then, but more because of going back to a shitty diet and hotting twink death age than getting less excersize, I think.

i feel comfortable with my weight despite being definitely in the "underweight" metric (120 lbs, 6'). mainly because i know once i start hrt it should distribute in the right places.

Its hard tho because a lot of people comment that I look anorexic even tho I cant do shit about it. I eat 2 meals a day + snacks, its just that I exercise a lot so it gets burned fast

I am a man(sorry if I am not welcome) and a lot.. I consider it a problem that I have failed to solve multiple times.

I hope I don't fall in the trap the image shows and wouldn't all a man big and a woman fat in the same context.

I am a physically large person in both height and width. I am also a very anxious person who would often quite like to take up less space than I do. Other than that issue I'm pretty okay with my weight. Most of my bodily issues are focused elsewhere.

While I would like to be smaller, I love (love) food. It makes me feel happy and I'd rather be happy than small. In the last year I've become a lot more physically fit too and that balances things.

I was overweight through my teens and into my adult life. I finally got down to a healthy weight by having a partner who would hold me accountable about working out and eating healthy. I am at a healthy weight now (not my ideal) but I have fat in the wrong places that I can’t get rid of (lower belly, thighs). I look good in most clothes, but I hate wearing bathing suits and yoga pants (I love yoga so I still do) because they emphasize those parts. 😭

I guess to answer the question, most of the time I’m good with the way my body looks with clothes on, but I struggle with it still.

Also, anyone who has lost major weight knows it takes a long time for your body to “bounce back” (the saggy skin drawing back) and my body isn’t quite finished with that yet. I will say, it’s so much better than it was for anyone experiencing this. It just takes time.

I had some unhealthy eating habits in the first year I had a kid, and I seem to be able to maintain the same size easily but getting smaller is hard. I actually don't mind what I see in the mirror, I think my shape is nice and I'm healthy enough to do all the things I enjoy, but what really bothers me is I can't fit into my favorite clothes 😭 I love clothes, I love playing dress up, and in the decade prior to having a baby I had found some amazing second hand finds that brought me joy and delight. I have a panoply of pretty things that helped define my personal style, but now only a small fraction of my wardrobe fits me. I can still wear some pieces, and I've found a couple new things for my current size, but I look in my closet with longing to wear my beautiful clothes again.