Honestly it's more like
Oh boy, a well-defined task with a beginning, progress, an end, and an obvious benefit to someone! I get to be valuable!
versus
I have several days' worth of clean clothes, there is no need to rush
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Yeah, tbh, I tend to not do a lot of my chores because.. I don't feel the need to. Why clean when I'm ok with the current level of dirtyness? Why wash when I still got clean stuff that I want to wear? Etc.
Just realize that your level of comfort with dirt and debris can change gradually. And all of a sudden, you are hip deep in trash
Eh, nah, that actually doesn't happen to me. I do clean eventually.
Yeah, I feel this. My partner hates it that I don't usually help out around the house.
Exactly this, for me at least.
I was a failure relative to my peers in my late thirties, got diagnosed with ADHD and it’s insane.
So before I always wanted to be a software developer but I couldn’t finish shit, and just procrastinated and kept learning but never progressing.
Afterwards, I am now a software developer and working from a massive spec sheet has kept me engaged the whole time. I still suck at planning but give me a plan and I’ll knock it put the park.
What remains to be seen is if I still have the same vigour, 1 year, 2 years in etc.
For me personally, even if I don't have days of clean clothes and NEED to do laundry like right now, it's still way harder to do something for myself than it is to do it for someone else.
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Sometimes it helps to think of yourself as a friend you are helping out.
Right, but my problem is that I hate myself
Try doing it out of spite.
"That lump of shit in my cranium thinks I can't do this task, well, I'll show you, you glob of expired tapioca pudding!"
I have heard that self-talk actually helps you at doing tasks but I never managed to learn it so I can't speak from experience.
The Kimya Dawson song "The Competition" is a great anthem for this.
I just wanted to prove wrong the voices in my head... the ones that told me that I would never win
When I delivered newspapers they said I was to slow
When I was a barista they said I made lousy foam
When I worked in retail they said I was a slob
Much too dumb for school and much too lazy for a job
So I rode my bike like lightning
I made cappuccinos that would make the angels sing
Took two showers a day and I dressed up like a princess
Shook my fist in my own face and said "I'll show you who's the best!"
for me this is just eventually causing burnout and i end up in a dark place instead.
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This works for me when I work out
I am still fighting with back pain from last weekend, when I helped friends to carry 9 cubic meters of firewood. Would help again any time.
I am also, in this very moment, fighting to get up from my couch and start, at the very least fucking start my washing machine or dishwasher. I am loosing.
You can do it. This internet stranger believes in you.
With this site I feel it's like.. aren't these problems everyone suffers from? Or am I just projecting my potential fear of having a condition 😅
As has been said previously to this question: most people likely have issues like this from time to time, what makes it problematic is having them almost constantly and to such a degree that it's crippling.
Everyone coughs from time to time, but if you have a chronic cough that's so bad that you cough up blood every time, that's not normal and you need to see a doctor.
See mom, I told you I am fine!
Kinda. One post I like to quote is the one that says that everybody pees too, but if you do it 30 times in an hour you need a doctor. ADHD is relatable to everyone because everybody deals with our problems to some extent, just in much more manageable doses.
The thing that separates a disorder from a normal issue is the magnitude and/or frequency of occurrence. E.G. most people that currently have a uterus will get cramps on their period, but if they're actively in pain instead of just uncomfortable something is probably wrong
Yeah that kinda makes me worried about myself tho lol
Well if you have cramps that are painful go see a doctor. If you are talking about having ADHD, just go with the flow and enjoy the memes. If you can connect with them then do so. If after a while you feel like you relate too much you can look up more about the condition and get an assessment.
Nonetheless, just vibe and enjoy the memes.
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If everyone had this particular issue the world would be very different I think.
You're probably right
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Guilty af.
Is this really an ADHD thing? I will go out of my way to help other people, but yeah, I can't be bothered to fold my own laundry so I just throw it all in a clothes basket and stick it in the closet.
It's not exclusively ADHD but a lot of us ADHD folks seem to be like this.
The difference I think is for ADHD it's not "can't be bothered to fold my own laundry" it's "I cannot force myself to fold laundry and if I try I will lose focus on the task and be scrolling my phone within 30 seconds of starting."
more than that, in my experience when i simply cannot do something and try to force myself to do it, it leads to me feeling like i'm going to die.
The phone scrolling is a form of self-defence to distract from that feeling of "i'm useless and god is about to smite me for sucking so hard"
There's just this... dread or uneasiness whenever I'm forced or forcing myself to do something. Like, cleaning is great on the rare occassion I just naturally have the energy and will to do it, but anytime else it's like torture.
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The laundry was just an example. Apply having problems to every activity, even those that you like to do. Helping others serves as an external source of motivation on which ADHD people thrive. Our brains have problems with motivating us/our body to do things that we want to do without some kind of external pressure/motivation. I don't remember the specifics properly although I watched videos on that ~7 days ago for the x damn time. Here are videos explaining what I was trying explain in more detail: Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3
You just linked over an hours worth of video with only a vague description as to why someone should watch them...to an audience of ADHD people. Would you care to place a wager on many people will watch them? 😆😆😆
Meh, it's split into 3 separate videos and my description is vague because my memory is garbage.
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Yeah, obviously laundry isn't my only problem. It seeps into every aspect of my life. Motivation to do stuff is usually not high unless it's new to me.
Why are we people pleasers so much??
humans are inherently social animals, so helping others is programmed to make us feel good
what is a common part of ADHD? that's right, being really sensitive to rewards and easily getting addicted.
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Why is this relateble
Well this hits too close to home.
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