Ask Lemmy

So why not do something cool as a guy? I mean, you can even gender bend in your cosplay if you want to! There is no law that says guys can only cosplay as guys!

I don't know how to say this but I feel I need to because people here are being dicks with downvotes: have you ever considered that you're a gender non conforming person?

It's just that feeling you described seems like something you should explore in a more accepting environment.

That is for sure not my reaction to pictures of pretty women. But you do you.

"Anyone else?" = literally always yes

The algorithm is pushing that content because you either interact more with it or spend longer time scrolling by. Pictures of beautiful women will always dominate the social media, because everyone regardless of gender and age are biologically conditioned to look at them.

Don't be fooled into believing that anything on social media is remotely close to reality. It's absolutely not a reason for anyone to make life changing decisions. You need to make those decisions based in reality.

If you're into cosplay, fashion, modelling or photography, you should try seeing it in real life to acknowledge how incredibly dull it is to make those perfect pictures.

But also, yes, most dudes are generally less interested in appearing visually hot. It's mostly bodybuilders who post their beefcakes to impress people on social media. It's so vain and lacking in confidence in my opinion. I don't need large muscles to feel manly. To me "manliness" is more about being confident. Not by slacking off and just not caring, but by paying attention to details and understanding how what I wear is fitting me in the situation.

If you have an actual interest in male fashion, you can easily find that content. There's no reason why you should feel lame or boring for being a man. There are lots of things you can play with to make a great personal look. For instance I'd start out by ditching the classic safe white or blue shirts and get something with more colours and made from a finer fabric. It will instantly make you stand out from the guys who just wear what their wife brought home.

Be the change you wish to see in the world. Be that attractive guy in an interesting artistic cosplay. See if that scratches the itch. You can dress well without transitioning, and you can transition without dressing well. The two don't have to be connected.

Your algorithm is likely based on your past clicks. You probably give traffic to female cosplayers and not to male cosplayers.

I mean, no to the title question because that's just silly.

But it's also a no otherwise.

I'm not into cosplay for myself. Not my preferred way to spend money. But I've seen plenty of in person cosplay done by guys that are superb. It is less geared toward pretty, and more towards "authentic" character depiction, and almost always traditional male super heroes. There are some that bend genders, or pick characters that are less "macho" looking, but finding the relatively small percentage of guys that want to do that, have the skill to do it well, and have the funds to execute it isn't exactly frequent.

More often, if a guy steps outside of the standard characters, they do it for the laughs, like this guy I saw doing sailor moon once. It amounted to booger drag, but that was the fun part what with rejecting gender norms in favor of just having a blast.

But online? Nah, the guys I've ever known that are into cosplay seriously don't post things online because that's a recipe to get trolled or outright abused.

Besides, "boring", "cool", "stylish" and "interesting" are all in the eyes of the beholder.

It makes me feel like crossdressing, so I do. Occasionally I see an outfit that needs at least B cups to work (usually something with a boob window) and it makes me feel jealous I don't have that.

But I'm with you, I completely disagree with the comment saying men's fashion is interesting if you look for it. It's not, the only forms of men's fashion that are interesting are the forms that society has labeled "feminine." Going into a store and seeing all the men's clothes in neutrals and actual variety in the women's cemented my interest in crossdressing.

If you actually tried finding the alternative I bet you'd find it.

Do you want to be the man looking interestingly attractive instead? Or is this an excuse to want to look like a woman?

Not everyone's a pretty woman. You can't just transition into a pretty woman.

I think you are seeing the appeal of drag my friend. Men's fashion is generally less flashy and more traditional currently than women's fashion. So those who are interested sometimes get into drag to model and make women's fashion.

Also I think most men's fashion has certain styles and subcultures that you might not be as interested in. Sneaker, caps and street wear is where the money is and most of the innovation. The rest is pretty standardized

Nothing wrong with a bit of gender envy

Wanting social attention could lead you to transition? I believe the answer it's yes..

It's the algorithm. You need to follow men instead. I find women disgusting, the more "pretty", the more disgusting. But men are also disgusting.

I don't know if it helps, but maybe thrift stores could be a way to try out some of your ideas without spending too much? I recently got some cool t-shirts at one of my favorite thrift shops for $2.99, shoes for $12.99, etc.